Messages By: shyenne112594

i realize that kids will be kids.  i think spanking an 11 year old is a bit ridiculous.  by that age they should know what it means when a parent says to calm down or knock it off.....

but spanking in front of someone?  no way!  not even alone.  must be an out of control child it seems.

I too was in a situation where i was married to a man that i had 2 girls by & my son was by another man & we also had his oldest son.  My husband was a drinker & crank user.  Left me home with the kids.  He went to work, but rarely returned home.  When he did, he would purposely find things wrong that the boys were doing & would spank them with a belt, I would cry in the other room & put my hands over my ears.  Then one night while giving my 6 year old son a bath, I seen bruises...........awful bruises on his legs, back, arms & back of his neck.  I was fit to kill, even though i knew that he had already hurt my son..........to see that was just heart wrenching.  I did pack up & go.  That was in Idaho & I moved to California.  I have been here since.   20 years had gone by, my ex came back to town, to see his girls (he said).  We got back together.  Quickly I found out that he hadn't changed a bit, still on drugs & drinking.........so i turned him into the authorities (he was a felon out of idaho)......he now is out of prison, still on drugs & drinking............but in Idaho & has no contact with me!

My daughter in law does not discipline, in my opinion.  I think that when a child hurts another child, adult, animal, that child needs to be punished.  Her daughter is wayyyyyyyyyy out of hand.  She has broken up every single thing that she ever gets, including furniture, toys, I could go on & on.....   Now, the problem is:::::::::::   Ok, the mother is all into this "talking" to their level of the children.  Do you understand sweetheart?  did you mean to do that sweetie?  you didn't do that on purpose did you?  oh that goes on & on.....  Well, the grandma of this child is a child psychiatrist, which shows the same behavior...ha ha ha!   I have dealt with this woman of throwing fits, screeching off in her car, stomping off, etc......  Now we are talking about a psychiatrist! 

But, her grandchildren (one of them is my grandson (2yrs. old).  He is starting to show signs of his 1/2 sisters' behavior, by throwing things, hitting mom, sister, screaming, banging on stuff, etc.

Over a week ago, I guess things got so bad over at the grandparents' home (where the 2 kids & mom are living too), that the 10 yr. old girl was hitting, kicking, throwing things, biting, pushing, etc. that it was totally uncontrollable by 3 grown adults.  They had to call the police.  The police say that this child needs help with her bipolar illness (she takes meds. for this), and needs therapy (which she gets from grandma & then they also fly her to L.A. for a specialist too). 

I am more concerned for my own grandson getting hurt or turning out just like that child.  Also, what do i say to not have that 10 year old girl here, when i only want my 2 year old grandson here safe?  any ideas?