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January 31, 2006, 5:53 pm PST
Co-Parenting
Quote From: becauseissI'm sorry to hear you are having problems with your stepson. I guess first and foremost I should let you know that he is two. The terrible two's I might add. My daughter is 2 1/2 right now and a holy terror. Some would think I let her run the house at will, but we don't. Two year olds are hard to reason with, and your stepson is no different. It is very hard on kids to move back and forth at that age because they really don't understand. The biggest thing is to try to get through to her. Try writing a letter. I have found this to work sometimes, as no one is interrupting or yelling. And no one feels put into a corner. As a mom of a child who spends half of every week with his dad and stepmom, I wouldn't like her coming and telling me the way I do things is wrong. This should really be between your husband and his ex. Whether you get along or not, and my son's stepmom and I are great friends, it is really going to be between your husband and his ex. Hope this made some sort of sense, and good luck! Oh, I defenatly let him do most of the talkin to her. Me and her only really discuss dropping off and picking up schedules and the treatment of him if he is sick. My husband works 12-15hr days so I take care of him the most during the week, so she has warmed up to discussing his care (sick) with me. We do get along for the most part. We have invited her over for stuff and visversa. I just get frustrated at the fact that he can be such a good little boy and after being with her for a day he is a terror again. Or is sick all the time with her, he comes to us sick most of the time and gets better by the time he leaves. Then turns around and gets sick again. I try to remember that he is not mine, just my stepson. But it gets hard seeing him mistreated. Its either lack of attention, and he acts up to get his moms attention or I don't know. I know he is two but my goodness. Oh and the driving around our town with him not buckled in his car seat is enough to kill me. We would like to have full custody but only got joint. Nothing we know is either enough or have proof of. My husband is frustrated at talking to her because she never tries to talk "seriously" or she gets her mother involved and has her yell at my husband. Not that it is anywhere near her business. I don't even know what I am asking anymore I am just frustrated with her and her family(she brings her mother and sister into situation). I just don't know how to handle things this is all foriegn to me.
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