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November 2, 2005, 6:15 pm PST

Mother Banned from sons wedding

Mom had every right to be angry. 27 years of marriage down the drain. Sometimes the truth hurts.  Her ex had an affair and got his mistress pregnant. Why would the son even invite this homewrecker is beyond me. For the Aunt to repeat what was said is just as wrong. Why is all the blame on the mom? I for one do not believe what the daughter in law has to say. I think she is trying to put a wedge between her new husband and his mom. Maybe mom is a gossip. So what. To have her escorted out of the wedding was extreme.
 
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November 2, 2005, 7:01 pm PST

You missed the point

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 Idea #1 - Dr. Phil, the holidays are coming.  I have seen a real split in the responses to the Terry/Theresa wedding story.  Many of the respondents are convinced (as am I) that you should NOT have to include toxic relatives in family gatherings.  These charming individuals would certainly include drunks, junkies, child molesters, and outright crazy people, but ought also to include relatives who always have to be "the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral."  Terry is a prime example of this type of family sore spot - she creates chaos so she can be the center of attention, then acts innocent and hurt when she's excluded as a consequence of her own behavior.  So, Dr. Phil - how about doing a show presenting some REAL ideas about how to deal with these walking nightmares during the holidays?  (I'm talking about concrete ideas like - don't let you car get blocked in the driveway, have an "escape code word" with your spouse, enlist sympathetic family members who will help you gather up your kids and turkey leftovers and slide out the door when Uncle Harry starts raving about the good ol' days when he was in the Klan...)  In  some families,  the "why can't we all just get along, because ol' Harry might die soon" plan doesn't work.  If the entire family can't agree to shun the toxic relatives, the rest of us need a plan to maintain sanity and avoid police intervention during the upcoming holiday season.  Cheers!.

Idea #2 - for Dr. Wilson and all other professionals who work with children - yes, it's a fact that kids will sometimes lie, and you really do have my sympathy for the nightmare this has caused you.  It's also a fact that thousands of kids really ARE molested and grownups have to give them the benefit of the doubt while investigating their allegations.  So what can we adults do when working with kids, either professionally or as volunteers in our community?  Well, the Boy Scouts have a great rule - it's called "Two Deep Leadership" - meaning that no one-on-one adult/boy contact is EVER, EVER allowed.  Either a group of boys, or more than one adult, is always required.  This is so simple, but it precludes so many problems.   Now, obviously, Dr. Wilson can't be accompanied at all times when patrolling the hallways - but he and anyone else who deals with kids can certainly think about ways to protect their own reputations.  So how about a show on this topic?  Maybe student conferences should only be held in public, or in rooms with a window opening into another occupied office, or in offices with video monitors.  I know our elementary band director gives private music lessons, but always has the classroom door open to a busy hallway.  Adults who work with kids deserve our thanks and our trust - and they should be entitled to a measure of self-protection.  It would be better for the kids, too, since one-on-one "alone time" with an adult is a prerequisite for molestation.  So, Dr. Phil, what's the current state of thinking on this topic?  Maybe education professors are covering this in college - the rest of us band parents, youth group leaders, and room mothers would benefit from their ideas.
Her gossip, for lack of a better word. Was due to what had happened in her marriage. Why would you even label her toxic. She was cheated on after 27 years of  marriage. Why would the son accept that kind of behavior from his father. But instead condemn his mom for talking about it? She had every right to be angry.
 
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September 20, 2006, 5:10 pm PDT

Revenge is best served cold

I sought and got "justice" on my ex for cheating. Unfortunately a judge threw me in jail for contempt.  For refusing to take down my website. www.drunkenmistress.com Lies were posted about me. Instead of suing the mistress for those lies. I posted my side of the story. At least my story was backed up with hard evidence. The Internet is open for everyone to use. Why didn't Todd do the same?

 

Anonymous posters are not cowards. Who’s to say that there won't be violence from outing a poster. I sure as Hell wouldn't want retaliation or confrontation.

 

How can Tasha be responsible for what other people do? If that were the case, 3rd parties would be taking the rap for murders and rapes. Just by criminals blaming it on others. "My wife pissed me off'". " My lawyer ripped me off". People must be responsible for their own actions.

 

Everyone has the right to vent, rant and voice their opinion. At least in America it is. It's called the 1st amendment, protected free speech.

 

I do not have to like what you say. Only respect it.

 

"The First Amendment is renowned for protecting the speech we deplore as thoroughly as the speech we admire,"

Judge William Dwyer, Seattle, Washington

 

 
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September 20, 2006, 5:26 pm PDT

Free speech vs. slander

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Freedom of speech is one thing but slander is another.  I think Tasha would feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.  How would she like it if she saw her picture on a website followed by a post saying that she was a diseased, masochistic, crossdressing bigamist? 

Maybe that's the only way she would understand how this affected Todd's life. She seemed oblivious to the horrible problems it caused him.  I hope he wins his lawsuit only because I think hitting her in the pocketbook will be the only way she gets it. 

 

I got even  by posting my entire story of betrayl on my website. I was told to remove it or go to jail. I went to jail. It was protected Free Speech. Everything I posted was the truth. I had proof which I also posted. While in jail my ex's mistress posted her own website of lies. Not backed with evidence and defintely untrue things about me. Did I sue? No. I could have let her lies destroy my life. But I didn't. I countered her lies with another website. www.drunkenmistress.com

She went to the judge and asked him for a court order, getting me to remove the site. I won. The judge said that this was not a criminal case but a civil one. If she could prove slander. The msitress dropped the complaint.

 
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September 20, 2006, 5:37 pm PDT

Free speech vs. slander

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Freedom of speech is one thing but slander is another.  I think Tasha would feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.  How would she like it if she saw her picture on a website followed by a post saying that she was a diseased, masochistic, crossdressing bigamist? 

Maybe that's the only way she would understand how this affected Todd's life. She seemed oblivious to the horrible problems it caused him.  I hope he wins his lawsuit only because I think hitting her in the pocketbook will be the only way she gets it. 

 

I got even  by posting my entire story of betrayl on my website. I was told to remove it or go to jail. I went to jail. It was protected Free Speech. Everything I posted was the truth. I had proof which I also posted. While in jail my ex's mistress posted her own website of lies. Not backed with evidence and defintely untrue things about me. Did I sue? No. I could have let her lies destroy my life. But I didn't. I countered her lies with another website. www.drunkenmistress.com

She went to the judge and asked him for a court order, getting me to remove the site. I won. The judge said that this was not a criminal case but a civil one. If she could prove slander. The msitress dropped the complaint.

 
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September 20, 2006, 5:37 pm PDT

Free speech vs. slander

Quote From: dollface1955

Freedom of speech is one thing but slander is another.  I think Tasha would feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.  How would she like it if she saw her picture on a website followed by a post saying that she was a diseased, masochistic, crossdressing bigamist? 

Maybe that's the only way she would understand how this affected Todd's life. She seemed oblivious to the horrible problems it caused him.  I hope he wins his lawsuit only because I think hitting her in the pocketbook will be the only way she gets it. 

 

I got even  by posting my entire story of betrayl on my website. I was told to remove it or go to jail. I went to jail. It was protected Free Speech. Everything I posted was the truth. I had proof which I also posted. While in jail my ex's mistress posted her own website of lies. Not backed with evidence and defintely untrue things about me. Did I sue? No. I could have let her lies destroy my life. But I didn't. I countered her lies with another website. www.drunkenmistress.com

She went to the judge and asked him for a court order, getting me to remove the site. I won. The judge said that this was not a criminal case but a civil one. If she could prove slander. The msitress dropped the complaint.

 
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September 20, 2006, 10:00 pm PDT

Thank you 1st Amendment

I sought and got "justice" on my ex for cheating. Unfortunately a judge threw me in jail for contempt.  For refusing to take down my website. www.drunkenmistress.com Lies were posted about me. Instead of suing the mistress for those lies. I posted my side of the story. At least my story was backed up with hard evidence. The Internet is open for everyone to use. Why didn't Todd do the same?

 

Anonymous posters are not cowards. Who’s to say that there won't be violence from outing a poster. I sure as Hell wouldn't want retaliation or confrontation.

 

How can Tasha be responsible for what other people do? If that were the case, 3rd parties would be taking the rap for murders and rapes. Just by criminals blaming it on others. "My wife pissed me off'". " My lawyer ripped me off". People must be responsible for their own actions.

 

Everyone has the right to vent, rant and voice their opinion. At least in America it is. It's called the 1st amendment, protected free speech.

 

I do not have to like what you say. Only respect it.

 

"The First Amendment is renowned for protecting the speech we deplore as thoroughly as the speech we admire,"

Judge William Dwyer, Seattle, Washington

 
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October 24, 2006, 3:42 pm PDT

Anyone in Citrus Heights?

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I am in Sacramento, I am 42 and i weigh 280 give or take a few , I can not seem to get the motivation to lose it. I am depressed most of the time, and self medicated the rest of the time, i don't know what to do. I don't have the will or the confidence to lose the weight
I need to lose 50 pounds. I can't do it alone. Would like to find someone to work out with.
 
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October 24, 2006, 3:43 pm PDT

Im in Citrus Heights

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Hi There,

 

I am in Roseville and am currently not working, looking for someone in the Roseville area as a workout / walking buddy :)

 

Thanks,

 Rose

Would love to work out with you. Give me a call it's in my profile.
 
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February 28, 2007, 5:25 pm PST

Mother of disabled twins

I feel every bit of pain and anguish that Liz is going through.

28 years ago I gave birth to identical twin girls. They were a week early and good sized for twins. It wasn't until 1 month later that I realized something was wrong.  I already had a 17 month old son. So I knew what to expect. When they couldn't hold their heads up at 4 and 6 months. I took them to the doctor. Who told me that the formula they were getting was defective. And they were going to be behind in development. They didn't walk until they were 2.

Their Father left us when they were 6 months old. He said he couldn't handle it.

As their Mother I was going to do everything I could for them. Like Liz I lost my identity and any resembles of a life. My son took a back seat to the twins needs. And I was overwhelmed to say the least.

Thank God for my Mother and brother. They stepped in and helped me out. Taking care of them is all I've ever known. I can't say in Liz's situation that things will get better. But in mine, it did. 

 

 

 

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