Messages By: flthomcat

Do we have to wonder why children act out, misbehave, have low self esteem and grow up to marry jerks? When we have parents who allow others to mistreat our own children, we are abusive parents! 

I had to turn off this show. There's NEVER an excuse to put others before what is best for our children....NEVER! Too many parents place their boyfriends, girlfriends, new husbands, new wives (etc) before their children. We're one sick society!  

I'm sorry, but I just don't get it, Dr. Phil. As a high school teacher and a parent of two, I can't understand why parents don't step up to the plate and just say "NO!" The pretty, young girl wouldn't be getting a tan if her parents told her NO. She couldn't afford a tan at a salon if her parents didn't give her the money for it. She couldn't go to the beach with her friends she planned to tan.  

It's not like tanning is something you can hide; before long, the affects of tanning SHOW and that's when the punishment comes in. Take away all privileges: t.v., computer, cell phones, dates, dances, sports games, parties, ETC, until the girl falls in line and does as she is told.  

Teens think it can't happen to them, so pictures and stories of the negative affects of tanning don't really matter. Therefore, parents need to be PARENTS and set limits. When did we, as a society, forget who SHOULD be in control. We are the parents. They are the children. Say NO and do something about it if they don't follow rules. GEESH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Good show otherwise, Dr. Phil. I hope these girls got the message. They are a precious future! 

You hit the nail on the head! The six year old precious child is a VICTIM. She was a victim when her selfish, immature father turned away from his marital vows and had an affair. She was a victim when her mother was hit (and severely injured) by a drunk driver. She was a victim when Daddy Dearest moved the mistress into the home. She was a victim when he married her. She was a victim when Dad showed he cared for his wife over his young child (he sent her to granny's). She was a victim every time her sick step mother called her names and put her hands on her.  

She's SIX for goodness sakes. I have a 5-yr-old. They are still partically blank slates at that age; we can either help them grow to become wonderful adults or harm them beyond repair.  

Dr. Phil nailed this one.....the daughter MUST come first and all three of these people need MUCH counseling. Sadly, I don't think Daddy will ever get a clue. That poor little girl!!! 

I try to watch the show DAILY, but this time I am going to run errands instead of watching since it's going to be a very SAD show....sad because it is going to show how stupid many Americans are (men and women) because they value the outside so much when the inside is what it is ALL about. Jesus didn't stand on a hillside in designer clothing, w/ a perfect body or even with a clean body and he surely didn't love and like just the beautiful. HE knew what is important and so should we! Shame on all of us who are superficial! 

I have been married 16+ years to a gorgeous, smart, ambitious man who puts God and family first! I have gained 110 lbs since we said "I do" and NOT ONCE has he ever said a word to me about that gain, other than a couple of times when health was discussed and he said he was worried about me. He always tells me I'm beautiful and his interest in sex has not decreased one bit. He's a true friend and lover. HE knows what's important in life and he has never (and will never) intentionally hurt my feelings. THAT IS WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT!!! 

People get heavy for many reasons. I know I eat when I'm stressed and bored. Nobody can make me WANT to lose weight. I have to want it for myself. When I am mentally and emotionally ready to lose, I will lose. I don't have a disease (we're not born with obesity). I am fat because of the way I eat. But I am still as beautiful and smart today as I was 16 years ago. Lucky for me, my husband knows what's important and so do I. Too bad the rest of America wouldn't wake up and smarten up!!! 

I have a feeling some of your guests are going to be beautiful on the OUTSIDE ONLY!!! 

Running late so I turned on the show. Couldn't believe that the beautiful woman on the stage is the one the husband is complaining about! One would have thought it was the other way around, but thankfully she's not shallow like her husband. 

She is beautiful on the inside and out; he's ugly on the inside and I agree with Dr. Phil; anyone who complains should do so standing naked in front of a full length mirror! That would shut him up! 

Fixing her legs IS NOT the solution. Her legs are part a small, superficial part of who she is. She is NOT her legs! She is a lovely spirit with a beautiful body that has flaws (we ALL have physical flaws)! HUBBY NEEDS TO BE FIXED. His and her families need to be fixed. It's sad, but they are inadvertantly teaching their young kids that outside beauty is what is important. 

My handsome husband would NEVER treat me the way he treats his wife. He should be ashamed of himself, but apparently he's either too shallow or stupid to be ashamed!  

As for being a stay-at-home mother, I went thru the self-guilt, too, but my husband was the one reminding me that children should always be TOP importance and my job as a fulltime mother was far more important than that of a school teacher. Thousands of people could replace me as a teacher, but nobody could replace me as a mother. I got over the guilt and now I am PROUD to say I am a stay-at-home mother. Anyone can earn a paycheck, but ONLY I can be here for our kids!!!! In this day and age, I am so happy to say that our kids come first and I am one of the fortunate ones who has a spouse who earns enough so I have the LUXURY of staying home w/ our children.  

You go, Girl. You are a beautiful spirit....your husband doesn't see it yet, but HE WILL after being on the show and then reading all these messages. Give him 10 lashes with a wet noodle for me, please! 

Your post is exactly why we have a divorce epidemic in our society. What ever happened to love and committment until death do us part? And why do you stereotype men so? Hopefully you are just YOUNG and naive. If it's not OK to stereotype and judge women, than it shouldn't be OK to do it to men! Geesh!!! 

To answer your question, she DEALS with the "lowlife" because she LOVES him, has children with him and values her marrital committment that she made before God. It has nothing to do with money. It is obvious that the two love eachother; he simply needs some help on the issue of "beauty." People (especially parents) shouldn't just take a walk away from their vows when things get tough (not unless there is abuse or another issue that is deadly). It's time for adults to grow up and start working together to make their marriages stronger.  

This couple WILL now get the help they need and their marriage will thrive. They will do it for them, for their children and for God.  

You know, I found all 5 of the guests to be BEAUTIFUL people. They are intelligent, kind, caring and now with Dr. Phil's help, they will get healthy.  

Thank you, Dr. Phil, for entering their lives; they have so much more to offer the world.  

And an added note, the 14-yr-old teen is gorgeous! That smile and those tears tell me that she's going to be a heart-stopper for the boys once she's fit and out there in the world!!!  

Watch out, everyone, there are 5 beautiful people who are going to change their lives around and take society by storm!!! God bless you all. I KNOW you can do it!!! 

NOT "Hopefully a success story!"  

She WILL be a success story. I guarantee it.  

She's smart, ambitious and she wants to be healthy and happy. That girl has what it takes to succeed!!! I cannot wait to see her at this same time next year. They'll be less to admire, but that's even better!  

YOU GO, GIRL!!! 

Please. Put aside all theories. When people are forced to either live or die by working or not working, the will to survive takes center stage. If you deprive anyone of  free housing, clothing and food, they WILL step up and do their best to win the fight. It's simply human nature.  

This is not brain surgery. We parents create 99.9% of these messes with our children (out of what we BELIEVE is compassion). Our good intentions doom what should be our future leaders. Give anyone a job who hasn't worked and allow them to feel how great it feels to earn one's own way thru life. There is NO better feeling than that! And it's the best GIFT we can give our young!