Messages By: mamaboan

My daughters life is the same as the lady on the show today. We have tried to help her to no avail. We have not seen her in over a year and a half,,she calls ,usually stoned. She is living,sometimes homeless with a man she met when we sent her to rehab over 5 years ago,,she is still married to another man. I am raising 3 of her children,another grandma is raising 3 more she has had in the last 5 years.As a mother ,I can not express all my feelings and concerns,,the children now are my priority that I am raising.,their ages are 5, 11, and 15. Their emotions of being embarrassed,sad,mad,confused,etc. are something we deal with everyday,,and their are situations in their lives I dont have time to even get into.My husband and I have given our lives to the 3 children we are raising,our time,our love,our energy,our finicial stability,etc.,but we love them and cant imagine our lives without them,my husband and I never have time for each other,,but you know the worst thing is laying down at night in my bed,in my house,with my stomach full,not knowing where my daughter is,is she stoned?is she hungry?does she have a bed to lie in tonight?She too, I feel will die soon if she doesnt get help,,but everything we try to help with,she declines,,,

I am too sad to say that your story today of the mother drug addict,once again is a mirrored story of my daughters life.I am raising her three children here because of her drug/aclohol addictions.these children could tell many sad ,horrifiying stories of what they lived in,lived through,prior to coming to live with us.We have not seen my daughter in over 19 months,when she calls,she is either high  and crazy or totally depressed and crazy.My husband and I have given up our life to see that these children have a safe,happy,secure,loved life without the dangers of drug addicts around.Sure the children are sad that their parents love drugs more than them but at least they know now they are safe and loved.My oldest granddaughter tells me she not only lost her mama,she lost her grandma,me,because i have to be her mama.so much sadness is involved when people choose to live this way,as Dr. phil just said, the scarring last a life time,not just for the children but for me,my daughters mama.Five years ago my husband and I had secure jobs, a secure bank account and looking forward to these days when we could be a couple doing things in our middleaged years,now we are parents all over again and the bank account is gone,Nevertheless, I would not take anything for the opportunity to give these children a new life, its just hard going to bed at night knowing my daughter is out there doing drugs all the time,at any cost.