Quote From: genderbendLook, many of us transgendered folks come from "normal" families. Gender confilicts aren't just exclusively for trans people. "EVERYONE" has issues with their gender identity in some respect. If they didn't, why do we have wars between the sexes? Many girls, who are anorexic, for example, when you get them to be honest in talk therapy, will tell you that they judge their "femininity" to the extreme. A girl/woman who feels good about her gender and body doesn't "starve" herself to death. Most of these girls jucge themselves "harshly", particularly their bodies.
In my opinion, gender stereotypes are manmade and are very" harmful to most person's self esteem. If parents and other authority figures in a child's life would just let that child be the personality God intended them to have, instead of "socializing" them into very harmful gender roles and expectations, perhaps transexuality would go away. I don't believe that trans people are born into the wrong body, but that they are born into the wrong society! I am treated so much differently as a man than I was a woman, but I have the same character and personality that I've always had. Don't you think that being treated differently is soooo.....stupid, when I am the EXACT SAME PERSON, except for my looks?
OK OK OK.... but what I am saying is that I think it is related to damaged EMOTIONS more than anything else. You say some come from NORMAL families. BUT NORMAL? You might have a family that looks perfect to the outside world, BUT when you watch the 24 hr 11/7 footage you see alot of the personalities that we see on this show who are NORMAL, but behind closed doors are CONTROLLING, or CRITICAL, or UNSUPPORTIVE.
I had 2 very wonderful grandmothers in my life Who I can say loved me more anything. No bully, No nothing can ever take from me the LOVE they gave me all the years. They MADE time for me ALL the time. And although they're gone now: Their influence and Legacy still are with me.
Now like I said when I talk to gender issue people, they say things like: My dad always put me down or My mom always called me stupid. or they complain of getting beatin' in bizarre ways. or THEY were never there. I think when you have a NORMAL so called family.... or a certain religious or public family they are worried about impressing others and what everyone thinks. Their kids get scolded for not sitting up straight or petty things all the time. They can't relax. or being hurt by bizarre relationship details. I mean this is a Hollywood society and you have to be really cute to be loved..... that is what society encourages.... unfortunately and not what is on the inside.
It's hard because people see thru the eyes of how they are raised and JUDGE or BLAME other people when they haven't walked in the pain of their shoes or lack of them. I don't know your story, but I do know the stories of some of those I know and it breaks my heart it really does.... that someone would have to endure some of the things they do in our world.
