Messages By: missjane2

You might get a better response if you bring this up in the "Divorce" discussion rather than True Love.  You haven't shared responsibilities with this guy so really it's hard to know if it will be love or not if that happens?  Have you thought about counselling?

Sometimes I think ABUSE is a HABIT.  It is something that starts off small and grows and grows and grows till it gets out of control.  I think sometimes it is in innocense when we are young and think it will be better tommorrow, but if We didn't stand our ground or NOT PUT UP WITH IT (whatever IT may be).... the ABUSER feels they got away with it and they do it again.  Whereas when we stand up to them.... IT STOPS and they FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO ABUSE.  I think certain people have to have someone to bully and it is not always everyone.  A way to get their frustrations out.....  And this person feels  RIGHT since it was the relationship of the past......  and you have to fight to regain LOST GROUND......

CONGRATULATIONS!  I am happy for you.

Grant and Kelly:  What do you think?  Is this abuse?  Is it badgering or bullying?  What exactly is what Grant does to Kelly?  I noticed some posts about their involvement in church and also Grant made a reference to "Scripture."  Interesting.   It may be Grant focuses on the concept or rules and "righteousness"  at least as how he interprets it, but has forgotten the scriptural concepts of Love, Mercy, Compassion, Kindness and Patience.  What do you think?  Is this Abuse or not?

I noticed some posts on this board about Grant and Kelly's involvement in church.  And Grant made a reference to "Scripture."  hmmmmm ???????  Perhaps Grant thinks his focus is on the scriptural concepts of "righteousness"  or RULES AS HE SEES THEM..... and has some how skipped the scriptural concepts of LOVE, PEACE, PATIENCE, KINDNESS, MERCY, COMPASSION and the like....... hmmmmmmmmmmmm

I am writing to let you know this will be the last post as Miss Jane.  I have a new screen name.  I will try to say hi and hint as I can, but I have to let go of the past.  NEW LIFE NEW NAME.  You have all meant alot to me.  And although in a sense you are my Imaginary Friends....  You have been my friend thru a very difficult time.  At times I may come accross as very outspoken, but in real life for years I have been very reserved and smile and keep my opinions to myself.  This board has helped me to open up in real life and start to talk to people in a way I haven't.  I am really enjoying my life FREE from the control and bullying of my Ex. 

  

Q your words have been a great source of strength and help.  Bedazzled I miss you.  Darls I miss you too.  Lemondrop I appreciate your strength.... You have courage to say things I would never say. I am a very energetic person and to me my problems are like:  "cryptonyte"  They weaken me to think about them and it is often more relaxing to escape and just enjoy the little things in life and this is perhaps why I am the way I am.  Cocoamomma....  I have enjoyed our chats and wish you the best.... Lyninsocal.... Miracles happen and you never know what tommorrow may bring....  Millhouse  I wish my grandma was alive to put your husband over her knee and%^&  he makes me so mad.  I wish my grandma would put Grant over her knee.... too!  Married4lo  I wish you too the best and our talks I had to chuckle at some posts and said to myself:  She is a counsellour or has teenagers... one or the other...   But to everyone I missed Thanks.  You have helped me to accept and deal with things and move on. 

  

But again I will be on the board as a different name and will try to say Hi as able.