Messages By: missjane2

I am more insulted than upset with our friend who thinks we all need to keep our secrets. Being that I made the apperance, to come on here and find out that what it took to come out and say something, was not good enough or not worth listening too, way to make a person feel good about themselves.  

It is people like that who make the victims continue to carry their feelings of shame and guilt. And the only reason people want to keep it secret, is because of their own shame for letting it happen to someone they know and love. 

If she is activley doing things to lose weight like excesive exercise, vomitting, not eating, taking laxatives etc it is time for medical help while she is still at a healthy weight and before the anoerxia sets in and becomes full blown. SOunds like she has self-seteem issues. 

I would find a psychologist who deals with eating disorders. They have great programs out there. 

Also she needs to see someone regarding her self-esteem issues so she can begin to look at herself and love herself. 

My daughter was losing weight at 14 5'4" her lowest was under 100 pounds close to 90. 

But through counseling and working with these people she is better now. 

JMO 

Tammy 

A 5 year old boy is no where near the same thing. I am talking about a 42 year old man, raping and beating his daughter from age 15-22!!! not even close to the same thing!!!!darn tootin this man deserves a life sentance he a sick man..and jail time doesn't even begin to touch on the justice he deserves. children are innocent, and need love and nurturing, and I don't see how your story at all reflects on my problems. I have read your words...ALL of them, and nobody has changed anything, just giving their interpretation of what you said. I find your comments to be closeminded and insensitive to those who have bee traumatized by our stories. Let's see if I cn give you some perspective here.  

Your story is about an angry little boy in fostercare doing typical things for a child that has been through tough times, and i agree that he just needs someone to love him. He is acting out, but kids that age are rarely vengeful or spiteful...because they don't have an understanding of what that means 

My story. you take a 15 year old girl living on the streets, her father (42, and knows right from wrong), who is supposed to protect her, and be her guide for making wise choices, asks her to come to stay with him. Instead of protecting her...she needs protection from him, I have guns held to my head, been chased after with knives...more black eyes than I can count etc,etc I could go on for hours about the abuse I endured with him. SO HOW DARE YOU make my story seem so trivial and tell me i need to move on , forgive and forget.. I will NEVER forget..I three constant reminders with me everyday. So again I ask you to keep your opinions to yourself! 

I don't know what response you want but I wouldn't want a person with your thinking to adopt this little boy and have him live a dont' tell me thats TMI world. 

That will only make his problem worse. 

I am almost 32 and dealing with my childhood abuse that was never talked about and right now I am barely making it because all of a sudden EVERYTHING is hitting me like a brick. 

I do not have amoment during the day that I am without the feeling of panic and dread.  

So I don't know what your trying to say on these boards but you cannot live in a bublle and expect all of us abused to just get over it and never talk about it. 

While you are whispering your little prayer and hoping for a miracle for those relatives of yours, be sure to keep telling yourself there is nothing you can do.  Thats a good way for you to be able to sleep at night.  That, along with being offended over shows with 'too much info.' like this one, should be able to keep you in peaceful sleep for years to come. 

A word of advice, be careful not to allow yourself to think of all the people who took a stand and fought for innocent children.  Of course, we did have to bring up all that nasty yucky information you have such problems with.   But then,  future innocents were protected because of it.  So... its a trade off.  A good one if you ask me! 

Sweet dreams MissJane.