Messages By: psychwife2

 Well, I guess as you all have found out, we are back and running but the site wouldn't let me register in as my old name....I never got the email so when I sent the notice for them to resend...they couldn't find my email address in their system....tried to re-register...couldn't do it...got the message that user name already used (surprise!!)....since they didn't seem to have my email, I decided to start over....using my regular email address and guess what????  The next message was "that email address has already been used!!!"  So...I started from scratch, used a new email addy...put a 2 on my name to make it "different"  and here I am!!

I couldn't believe that we were shut down for so long...I made a post, hit submit and when I went to return to the page, it was gone!!!  Is it just me....or do you also agree that shutting down a board that supports sufferers of depression is a bad idea???

Anyway, since we seem to be getting re-acquainted, I am 47, married for 25 years to a Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist.  I'm a stay at home mom and the mother of two boys, 20 and 17.  Glad to be back and hope all is well with everyone!!

 I don't know how to read the messages on this board...do the replies only show up if you hit the "show all replies" button?

 Same here....I guess I'm not meant to have a picture!!!

 No...there is no connection.  My husband is an MD who completed a four year residency in Psychiatry and went on to complete a two year fellowship in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.  He is in private practice in the US.

 Hello Glenn...glad to see you back as well!  It's me, Psychwife...but now I'm Psychwife2.

 I'm with you Annie...but apparently it takes time for them to show up and I can see your pics in some of your posts.

Anyway, glad to see you back...I had to adjust my name as well but it's still me...Psychwife

 Glenn, you're already sounding so much more positive and I really hate that this board had to be down for so long!!!

Anyway, go knock around a few hockey pucks and continue to find a little bit of positive in everything that you do!

 Thanks Jenna....I guess I just wasn't being patient enough for it to appear.

but now psychwife2...

I really hate that this board was down for a while...it left many of us without the place to vent and find support for those difficult times!  But we're back now and here for each other!!

I really understand how you are feeling.  No, I don't suffer from chronic pain but I understand your feelings of not feeling yourself anymore..."I used to be a success...now...I am nothing!"  My present feelings of depression stem from my youngest son preparing to be in his senior year in high school.  For the last 20+ years, my identity was based on being the stay at home mother of two and now that is all going to change.  I have to keep reminding myself that life is NOT over just because my circumstances have changed.  I'm still me and I still have a lot to contribute.  And so do you!

Self pity happens to all of us and as long as you're able to admit it, you are already in a better place than you could be.  Continue to vent and look for support....there's no reason to apologize for having down days.  And don't assume that you know how your husband and son feel about you.  You're not giving them enough credit and it isn't fair for you to assume that they feel that way.  Have you told them how you feel?  Try it, you will probably be surprised and pleased with their response.

Don't give up, don't wallow alone....keep in touch....we're here for you!!!

 When we first moved to our city, I was all alone during the day with a two year old son and pregnant with my second.  Our neighborhood was new so there weren't many neighbors.  My husband went to work every morning and came home tired every evening and I felt so alone.  I didn't have anyone to talk to about things that didn't relate to Bert and Ernie!!  I had to be a little more proactive in my quest to find things to do and people to relate to.  I got involved in my community, did some volunteer stuff, volunteered at my church, etc...It took a while but it worked.

I don't know how old your son is but have you considered a "Mother's Day Out" program?  You need some time for YOU and you deserve to have it, especially before this new baby comes.  But in the meantime, you can come here for support and for a place to vent...just don't expect to have this as a full time way to fill the void...Internet support groups are great...but they don't take the place of actual human to human contact.

I wish the best for you and I hope that you find some happiness in your life...you certainly have so much to be thankful for!