Quote From: slayereveI am 23 years-old, and recently found a job through a summer youth program. I work at a food bank. This is where I met a guy I will call "Joe." Joe and I have been flirting, but the last few days it kind of wound down. I could see it in his eyes that he was thinking about not starting a relationship with me. He told me to give it time several weeks ago, and so I figured that I was being paranoid about the look in his eyes, because I am self-conscious. I am upset because I have been very distrustful of relationships, and then I meet "Joe," who is good looking, intelligent, and nice. I have lost a lot of respect for him, as he had none for me. Instead of talking with me privately, he had a conversation with other co-workers behind my back, then had another guy "Ben" tell me that he wasn't interested in a relationship. Am I disappointed, yes; do I respect his wishes? Definately. My problem, is that either a guy flirts, but doesn't ask me out; other guys only make comments about my body, so I avoid relationships with them (most times). I haven't dated in 2 years; my last date broke up with me the day after Valentine's Day, and I have never had an actual boyfriend, though my younger sisters and brother have had long term relationships. I am wonder, what am I doing wrong? What am I supposed to do to attract a good looking, intelligent, and nice man. What is wrong with me?
Women give so much away of themselves by what men think of them. think of yourself as a goddess....that men should be worthy of YOU, not the other way around. If you want to give men the upper advanatge, you will come off as desperate and needy. That turns men,,,,especially YOUNG men, off even more. Maybe you should also seek someone a little older...dating in your 20's is almost as tough as dating in your teens!
Rememeber, women on average mature 7 YEARS than their male counterparts. I found out my own problem was that I wanted maturity, appreciation, emotional stability, and loyalty-and I wasnt finding it- so I finally found it with a man 19 years my senior.
I found the book "He's Just Not that Into You" featured on Oprah as very inspirational on this subject. They have a few articles and exceprts from it online if you use a search engine....hope this helps...
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