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July 26, 2005, 7:38 pm CDT

Seems the world is split 50/50 about porn

I think porn is ok for couples who like to watch together. I don't like it personaly but my man does (very much indeed). Now instead of having him watch it behind my back and introduce lies and secrets into our relationship I agree to watch with him once in a while. Relationships are a 2 way street. Usualy I agree to watch with him if he gives me a foot rub. I would be over the moon happy if he would never watch again but it's just not realistic so I try my best to keep it under control.
 
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July 26, 2005, 7:57 pm CDT

Hi sweety

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Hi there hope every thing is going well where to start with this just wondering how long you guys have been together are you still together have u thought about moving up there to where he is? im hoping to move and with any luck my boyfriend will follow he says he will as he wants me to have his baby i no its really hard i understand that but talk to him about moving up there or some thing hope that helps im not the greatest with advice :)
Above all else know that you already have the best part of him. U have 2 beautiful kids, well, almost 2. Men mature alot slower than women but thats in no way an excuse to dodge outta your responsiblities. In my opinion I think u should you should just let the selfish fool go. Right now u really do think u need him around but by reading your entry your gunna do just fine on your own. Your so much stronger than u think. Just know that "This to shall pass" I don't know where that saying comes from but its my favorite. When u get overwhelmed just tell yourself that.
 
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July 26, 2005, 7:59 pm CDT

Birth Stories

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Where do I start? Right now my life is pretty messed up right now. I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend of 2 years has ran off to Virginia. I already have a one year old son with him and things weren't great but they weren't the worst. About 2 weeks ago he was helping his god parents move to Virginia, then on my son's first birthday (july 09) he calls me and says he wasn't going to make it to the party. Hehad the nerve enough to tellme that he could've gotten a bus ticket home but he needed time to himself he was too stressed out. Boy was I hurt to the bone. I figured it's your sons 1st birthday and your being so selfish by saying that you needed to get away. At a time like this? His reply was "me missing his first birthday is between me and him and I don't have to answer to anyone but him." Well that may be true to a certain extent but come on it's your sons first birthday why would you want to miss out on that? I was furious. I told him not to bother me for awhile. He calls the party to speak with his brother and tells him he on his way to VirginiaBeach. Does anyone else see something wrong with that. he tells him also that he would be back later on that week.After that I didnt hear from him until the followingSaturday and he calls me and tells me that hemight bestaying down there for awhile and that he's going to the shipyard to find work every morning. I was so hurt. I was crying hysterically I mean I loved this boy. I would do anything for him. I mean it just happened so fast. The day before he left we were doing fine we watched a movie after I got off work then he took me home we did our I love yous and kisses. He says he understands why I am so hurt but I dont see how you could do somebody like this if you love them. His main rebuttals are "I need time to myself to get my head on straight. you dont know what is going oon in someones head or what people are thinking, I am too stressed out. Sometimes you have think about yourself no matter who it hurts or you'll never be happy."

I know it's not all about me but I am crushed I need my boyfriend right now to get through this pregnancy to hug me kiss me talk to me but he says he to stressed out and he needs to get his life togather and start thinking more about himself. I feel like I am worthless. I cry every night . I cant believe he just left me like he did. He was my first for everything. This was even a big blow to his family. If you knew Justin you thought he would always be there for his kids if not his girlfriend. I feel embarassed when someone asks me how we're doing or where he's at.

He called me yesterday to ask about our son the convo was dry and forced. he began telling how he found a job and that he even started going to church. It looks liketo me he's not coming back and that hurts more than anything. when he talks i can truly hear happiness in his voice. I want to be happy for him but I am not happy with how he left me. I feel burdened and stressed. I am begining to blame him for my anger, sadness, and depression. i feel like his happiness costed me what little happiness i had. at times I hate his guts at other times i miss him and I still love him. I cry all the time I need help. does anyone have any advice.

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Teena marie

Columbus Ohio

Above all else know that you already have the best part of him. U have 2 beautiful kids, well, almost 2. Men mature alot slower than women but thats in no way an excuse to dodge outta your responsiblities. In my opinion I think u should you should just let the selfish fool go. Right now u really do think u need him around but by reading your entry your gunna do just fine on your own. Your so much stronger than u think. Just know that "This to shall pass" I don't know where that saying comes from but its my favorite. When u get overwhelmed just tell yourself that.
 
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July 26, 2005, 8:15 pm CDT

Pre-school

My 4 year old son is starting preschool in 34 days. I've prepared him mentaly and he is excited. I'm not. I've already decided I will drive him for at least 2 weeks. I know I wont get away with much more than that because in preschool the biggest thing is the school bus. How can I get over the anxiety? What should I tell myself when I start to worry about him not being taken care of. I'm so scared he will get seriously hurt and no one will call me.
 
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August 2, 2005, 4:22 pm CDT

Feeling better now

Thanks for your replies!! I feel better knowing that others are nervous as well. And the alone time does sound kinda nice. He still checks the calendar every day makes sure we check the days off. I rounded up his grandparents, great-grandparents, Aunt and little cousin to the first day of school. His father is even taking the day off from work!! lol We're gunna film it and take tons of pics. He even asked if the girl who cuts his hair can spike it with her blue hair gel! lol 25 more days!!
 
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August 19, 2005, 11:01 am CDT

Pre-school

Quote From: mom2raenem

 It sounds like youre off to a pretty good start.As a former preschool teacher & now a mother myself, understanding your feelings( they are normal!) I have a few suggestions that may help.   

  

Visiting the school before he starts once or a couple of times with your child can be a big help.  that way he has already met his teacher and some of the other kids as well as have a look around. Doing this also allows you to observe the routine and allows for questions you may have. 

  

When your drop off your son always remember to "say goodbye" and that you will return (after lunch, after nap etc.) Sneeking out does not help children feel secure 

  

Remember it's always ok to call and ask how the day is going.  We usually called new parents during nap to let them know about the day so far.  Most teachers have notices "what we did today" or personal notes about each child's day & activities. 

  

Be involved!  Most classrooms welcome parent participation.  I was always glad when parents expressed interest in or became involved in our activities. 

If there's any way I can help please let me know 

I'm so glad you said that thing about not sneaking out because I would have made that mistake.  The last time his teacher and I talked on the phone we decided I will stay for the whole day at least once a month. It helps to have the extra hands and it prepares me for next year when he goes to Kindergarden. 11 more days!
 

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