Messages By: candycvky

Lord, I see my family as I was growing up in these sisters.  My parents got married when he had 6 kids with him and she had my younger sister and me.  Together they had my baby sister.  I have always said we were the dysfunctional brady bunch because there was always resentment among all of us.  I had a brother who died recently and most of us made it to the funeral.  I live hundreds of miles from all of them.  I still felt like an outsider, but we all enjoyed seeing each other again.  Point is you only have 1 family and it is best to put the past behind and just live for the moment.  Holding the grudge like these 2 sisters do is not only destructive for them but their kids.  Life moves on and we all have to move with it.

Candy

My daughter was spoiled to a degree.  She was given anything she wanted by a grandmother and I had to be the "no" person.  I did what I could to teach her that I had to stay within my means, and if I had extra, then I could get her what she wanted on top of what she needed.  Now that she is an adult, she still gets alittle demanding (she wants me to buy her an IPod for Christmas), but is learning that she needs to stay within her means.  Hubby just wants to give her a gift card with a certain dollar amount so that she hopefully buys tires for her car or if she wants, she can get her own IPod.  Children can be taught responsibility as well as get extra items.  Just need balancing.

No wonder the kid has problems.  You have a mom in denial of her own problems, and an aunt who stays on the high horse berating everybody.  The kid is just mimicing everybody.  Only the grandmother seemed sane and she barely said anything.

Candy

I have seen this before.  These couples just get so use to the dysfunction, they do not know anything else.  They need to be seperated but need to go to counseling on how to be co-parents and get along without each other.  They really do not love each other, just use to each other.  Both are in the wrong and both need to get a life for the sake of the kids.  I think Dr Phil realized no matter what he said, they were to set in this, they were not going to listen.  I hope they use the help offered for the sake of the kids.

Hi.  I am Candy from KY and need to lose 71 lbs.  I have arthritis in both knees and have just been put on medication for hypothyoid.  Being in a  smaller community, support is really not here.  I also work 5:15pm until 4:30 am so finding things to do when I am not at work is a little hard.  My husband's twin brother just died of a massive coronary, so we both are really rethinking our health and what we are doing.  He has been doing the gazelle about every day.  My energy levels are starting to go up alittle, but I am still tired.  I am really am going to commit to this because I don't want to put my husband and kids into the same situation we just had with my brother-in-law.