Messages By: lolita

Dr.Phil,

Agree with everything CASA Volunteer said.  There seems to be a lot of time wasted on this couple.  They should not be together.  She clearly has no love for him, and he is desperately

trying to control her, somehow thinking this will make things better.  Does anyone seriously

think her sleeping with other men will stop?

The only reason their story is of any interest at all, is because of the kids, who are the real losers.

Please, help the kids, as much as you can, but get this couple out of the Dr. Phil House, and

get people in there who are serious about improving themselves and their relationship.   

I agree that it should take more than DNA to make a father responsible for a child.  Although I believe you should start from the basis that any man and woman who have sex should know a child could result, and then go on from there.  If a man can show that he was lied to, and made to believe there was no chance of a pregnancy and he had no reason not to believe it, I think he should have the right to opt out of fatherhood.

Remembering that the mother has that right also under certain circumstances to opt out of motherhood, the father too should have the right under certain circumstances.  I think both of the men on the show should have had that right with their circumstances.  How much good does it do a child to force either parent to be a parent when the child would be much better off with a family who actually wanted them and loved them?  A child would certainly be better off with adopted parents than with a mother who had them merely to get money from the father.  Don't tell me there aren't any mothers like that.  Sometimes protecting a child means getting them away from their parents.  If a single mother wants to keep her child, (hopefully out of love), she should be willing to do it by herself  and not drag an unwilling father into the child's life.  By the way, I am a woman, a mother and a grandmother.