Messages By: amw1217

I can't remember the name of the park. It's been so long ago. I know where Techumseh is. We did used to play football against them. I remember once going to a game in Techumseh that my brother was in ( he played football in H.S.) and my step-dad being a little freaked out because he had just seen children of the corn and there were so many corn fields there. 

That's funny.... I may be going there in October myself for a wedding. A really good friend of mine is getting married in October. I think it's the 1st week in October. I hope I can make it. I haven't been there in so long.  

I've been in FL since Sept. 01'. It's soooo busy here. I moved to the "country" here and now it's being built up like crazy. I', not paticularly fond of FL but I really don't want to deal with snow. So I suppose I will have to deal with one or the other or move. LOL ! 

Nice talking to you. 

Heather 

You have some time to transition, so use it.  Let your husband do all the parenting on the weekends and support him by helping out with housework and cooking.  Talk over his choices every evening and try and share your parenting strategies with him. Then let go-it is hard but he will be a better father for having this experience.  Girls gain something different from their fathers that is important. 

I'll tell you about my first baby.  I was a middle child in a big family. My youngest brother was born when I was in my teens so I knew all I needed about baby care. My husband was the youngest in his family and had never even changed a diaper before.  When we had our daughter, I was nursing her and I was the bossy "expert" parent.  My husband and I both took time off for her but I didn't let him do much. 

Then I got really sick and I was in the hospital for almost three months. He was alone with a new born.  When I finally got home, they were this tight little team. I didn't even know how to feed her.  I had to elbow my way back in from the outside.  My husband has been a better, more confident father ever since and I have learned to include him more graciously :) 

I have a 9 year old that isn't able to always write down his homework or forgets a book or worksheet. I'm running out of ideas to try and help him remember his homework. Last year it was so bad that I would go to school before he was let out and made sure he had all of his homework written down and all the material he needed. I've tried the follow: 

Notepads in his folder 

3x5 card on his backpack 

Taken video game time away 

Not allowed him to go to his karate classes 

Grounded from playing outside 

We have spoken to him about the importance of taking responsibility for his homework. We've explained to him that remembering his homework is part of him learning to become a responsible adult and this is a life skill he needs to improve on.  

We've ran out of ideas and any help it greatly appreciated. 

Thanks 

There's some people you just can't resolve things with.My mother has controlled me all of my life until 12

years ago when I met my husband.I made bad decisions as a teen due to her drinking and physical abuse,and ended up with 3 kids by the age of 21.Because of situations that my mother created,I ended up having a nervous breakdown and she ended up with custody of my kids.

In the last 12 years,she has done anything and everything you can think of to destroy my relationship with my husband and kids.She has kept the kids from seeing me for months at a time,while telling them I just dont want to see them.She tells all of them their lucky to live with her because I am a drug addicted whore.FYI the only drugs I take are to deal with the stress she has created in my life,and they are all prescribed.She has called childrens aid on me several times over the years,alledging that myself and my husband were beating them,starving them,locking them in their room for hours(their bedroom door hasnt got a lock on it,never has),and everytime childrens aid has been to my house they found the allegations untrue,and most recently she managed to get my husband charged with abuse against the children.Now if someone out here can tell me even ONE good reason to even speak to her again I'd luv to hear it.I now cant see my kids at all,except my oldest,who is old enough by law to do what she wants.My position now is that my mother doesnt exist.I dont associate with anyone that even knows her.And guess what??My life? One helluva lot better since i dont have to deal with her toxicity on a daily basis.The bottom line is this...Dr. Phil is right,some people are just too toxic to have in your life,you dont always have to repair a relationship.