Messages By: mistyc

I watched this episode Friday, specifically to see the Stepmother segment.  I should have been surprised but I wasn't, as ususal it seems okay to treat the stepmother like garbage.  

I have a stepdaughter that I honestly love and adore, but we have had, and still have our bad days.  The stepdaughter mentioned on the show was not a toddler, she was 9 years old.  That is old enough to be expected to behave herself while she is at her Dad's house, and treat her stepmother like a human being.   

I do think that this child's mother was a huge part of the problem, she could go a long way in helping her child adjust to a new stepmother but she didn't.  Stepmothers are expected to put up with a lot of "stuff" from the stepchildren and first wives. We are not the enemy and our stepchildren are not always lovable, snuggly, little bundles of joy, so all we can do is give it our best shot and hope for a little understanding. 

Your post spoke volumes about the kind of mother you are, and none of it is good.  Covering up abuse by saying "oh he/she is mad because they didn't get their way" is totally different from having a dramatic child. 

My nine year old stepdaughter could win an Oscar for her "acting" abilities.  But my little Drama Queen says things like "I am almost a teenager, why can't I wear red lipstick".  I need a bra (she weighs 59 lbs), or howling for an hour over every scrape and bruise.   

I hope your children are grown and are finally away from a Mother that is still trying to cover up for abusing her children 

Carla needs to run as if the devil were nipping at her heels!  I ended a relationship with a fiancee that I had been with for three years, because I couldn't imagine having his mother in my life forever. 

She always considered me a rival for her sons affection like she was his other girlfriend.  She constantly tattled on me, and I got so sick of hearing "Mama said, and I agree with her".   My finacee was 35 at the time and still lived at home , it didn't strike me as odd at first because with the work he did, he was gone three weeks and home one.  I later learned that he never had any intention of living home ever!   

Ending the relationship was extremely painful, and I greived its loss for a year.  But I did move on and now I am married to wonderful, wonderful man, my Mother in Law has a little trouble minding her own business but that I can deal with 

I am in no way a racist, If I dislike someone I have a definitive reason for my dislike.  But Grandmafuz is right the media and the goverment always rush to the aid of blacks first out of fear of being called a rasist.  It's a big load of garbage that blacks are treated like second class citizens, the black youth of America have a much better chance at getting a free college education than white students, and God forbid they get turned down for a job!  whether they were qualified or not they can cry discrimination.  I beleive that no one is responsible for you for you, so if you make bad life choices you need to sleep in the bed you made. 

Before anyone calls me a rich white person, that has led a life of privelege: When I was a child my family was poor as dirt but I didn't become a high school dropout, a criminal, and I didn't start having children 15 either.  My sweet but uneducated parents worked like dogs to provide us with the basic necessities  In turn this taught me and my siblings to become hard workers as well, not free loaders 

If I may be frank, you are full of baloney!  I suffer from clinical despression and my father has suffered from a chemical imbalance, to the point of being suicidal. 

I have taken medication for my depression for five years and I have tried to wean myself off of it, and everytime I do my condition deteriorates.   

Unless you and Tom Cruise or anyone else has any experience in this area, please keep your opinions to yourself.  People that are ignorant to this subject cause more harm than good.  You probably also think Post partem depression is a myth too right ? 

I am a married lady and I don't understand why some women stop having sex after they get married when they were doing it before they got married.  My husbad really "rings my chimes" and he always has.  I consider this just one of the many things we have in common.  We both golf, we both fish, we both read and we both like sex.    To me our great love life is one of the many things that make our marriage work.  We have been together for three years and married for one year and I am still as in love with him now as I was a week after we met. 

I am expecting a little girl in two months, I also plan to breastfeed her.  However, I am not going to nurse in public because I personally wouldn't be comfortable exposing myself.  It wouldn't bother me if someone else needed to nurse in public, after all it is perfectly natural. 

I do think that making contraception available at school is a very good idea.  My children are small but if / when the time comes I would much rather they use a condom than become pregnant or contract a STD that might kill them. 

If you think for one second a lack of contraception is going to stop premarital sex you really need to get your head out of the sand.  Teen pregnancy is not something that only happens to poor, uneducated, single parent homes.  It affects every income level, and every family structure.  You would be doing your child a tremendous favor by having an open minded discussion about birth control and not being judgemental.  By the way, I am a married lady, an avid church goer, and a registered voter.  Also my family income is $85,000 and I am college educated.