I've been with my husband for the last 10 years and 6 years into it an old female "friend" came on to the scene. She knew my husband longer than I did and she is married, so I thought--"what the hell, she seems okay." I was always suspciciuos of her motives for wanting to rekindle the friendship. She befriended his ex and became the god mother of his children. Throughout the years I feel like she's been dropping hints that leads me to believe that she wants my husband. Here's some clues:
1. She says she used to have a lot of male friends years ago that she was interested in but they only wanted to be friends.
2. She befriends his ex after she meets me in order to develop a relationship with his children. (Which I think is a tactic to never be out of the picture)
3. She's been acting very jealous and catty with our renewal of vowes coming up.
4. Now that our renewal of vowes are underway, she's having marital problems and they may be separating.
5. She's trying to compete with me by adopting my style of dress and other ways and trying very hard now to force a closeness between the two of us. (I think she's just trying to mimic what he sees in me).
6. She invites me over to her gatherings with the girls only to ignore me most of the time. (I think just to say I was there and make us look like "friends")
7. She won't let me talk to her husband for more than 3 minutes before she breaks it up. ( I trust her with my husband, his children and seeing my husband practically every week and numerous phone calls and "lunch"!!!!!)
The problem is that this woman is extremely well liked and any conforntation is going to make me look bad. How do I tell her to step off without alientating myself or creating problems with his children and myself? You know it's fishy when even my husband is now thinking that this is going in the wrong direction.
