My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Up to this point, we both made around the same amount of money. Splitting the finances 50/50 was fair and was working. He just took a job earning over 2x the amount as me.
The problem is that he thinks we should still split the bills 50/50, whereas I htink we should do it by percentage earned. If we continue to split the bills 50/50, I will not be an equal partner in this relationship. I will always be worried abou money while he is rolling in it. His protest is that he shouldn't be punished for making more money (??). I don't get that at all. I know if I was making the amount he is, I would feel as it I were contributing more to OUR household. Not my own pocket. For instance, when I buy items for our new apartment, it's not as if I feel he should pay half of the receipt. It benefits both of us.
I know he didn't grow up wealthy as a child, and that money is a big deal to him. In my opinion, too big.
Please help, this is starting to cause me a real problem.
Saphy
