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August 18, 2005, 9:42 am CDT

Teens and Sex

Quote From: jenoc99

Just because he bought the computer with his own money doesn't mean he should have free reign of the internet. You are 100% right to be concerned that his porn habit could lead to him disrespecting women and feeling that sex is no big deal. He is only 15, of course he is going to deny that he has a problem!! But you are the mother, you must take this matter very seriously and contact a therepist for him and tell that person the whole story, including the underwear incidents. The underwear wearing, soiling, and hiding in itself is a complicated issue that he needs professional help for. If you don't make him go to see a professional, you are denying him the opportunity to become a healthy and well adjusted adult. He isn't going to want to go, but its up to you to make that non-negotiable. You've got to get tough.
communicate with him, i am a teen and i know that the way to help us is by talking to us. it is inevvitable that he will deny having such an ebbarrassing problem, but he does and he needs help for it. YOU are the parent, and it is your job to get him help whether he likes it or not, sure he'll be mad at you for a little while, but in the long run it will do much more good than bad <3 good luck
 
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August 18, 2005, 9:50 am CDT

Teen Dating

Quote From: poetmom

My children (19, 15 and 12) have always known that the subject of dating will not even be on the table until they are 16, and that even then it depends on the level of responsibility and maturity they are showing us at that time. My oldest was able to single date at 16, but my middle child, who will be 16 in January, will have to show a LOT of improvements in her overall behavior and attitude before she is given that privilege.  And yes, dating is a privilege, it is not a right of every teenager at any given age!

 

Teresa

i am a teen, and i agree for the most part. however, this may not be the right thing for all teens. i am only 15 and i have allowed to date, well, since i became interested in dating. i have done fine, my parents trust me, and they have good reason to. Many of us teens are more resopnsible than you'd think, so before just setting the "no dating till your 16" rule, talk to them and know exactly how mature they are, because they may surprise you. Sometimes when you parents don't think we're ready, we really are, and if my parents set a rule like the "16" one, it would make me feel that they dont trust me, so talk to them and have an open mind. <3
 

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