Quote From: nightrider_57I am the parent and the x has done this to me. We are 4 years divorced. It was a bad marriage and a worst divorce. When I was served with the papers. I was sitting down with my two minor children. Who asked all the time. "Are you getting a divorce"? When the x came in. Got between the children and I, covering their ears and eyes. Praying in the name of "Jesus" not to let my children hear me. Well I said her name and reach out and twisted her nose. Long story short got arrested and was never able to return home again.
Fast forward the divorce is final. I have 50% custodianship and 30% custody. But it didn't work out that way. My childrens mom has refused every order in the final decree. And has refused to co parent with me after the divorce. In 2006, during a custody exchange. She backed me into my truck. As she is nose to nose with me. She threatens to "Get Rid Of Me Permanently" In front of my minor daughters. Long story short. When the police interviewed them they lied. And when they interviewed a second time they lied as well. On July 2 2008 we were to begin our vacation. But instead I get a call from cps. Telling me I am under investigation for abuse. And I can't see my children and I needed to go in.
I had the girls the weekend prior to the July 2 vacation schedule.
We had a normal parental moment that Friday night. I always talk things through with my girls quickly. So there are no hurt feelings. And we had a fine Friday night. And on Saturday we were headed to the pool. But the girls bathing suits were too small. So we go to their mom's to get their bathing suits. I see through the screen mom standing over them. Shortly after they came out. They seemed normal and we go to the pool.
That evening my youngest had an inflamed throat. So I take them to the er. Had a fantastic fun visit at the er
And the inflamation had gone down. I called the "X" and ran down the information to her.
fast forward to the cps phone call. So on Tuesday. July 1st, I get a call from cps telling me I can't see my children and I need to go in to see them.
I do... And watched the x enter, stopping at the receptionist. And then coddles my children in to a safe room. Please, my children have not even had corporal punishment from me.
The first two cps visits were hurried, things were not explained. I wanted to know the charges. Burt they couldnt tell me. So... we attend 4 mediation visits at cps to find a solution to a problem that wasn't there.
A problem the X created.
Fast forward, all cps mediation meeting failed. The wanted me to accept something that wasn't true.
No educated man would.
3 months later I am in childrens court. And they keep changing the charges. I go there and I am told by other attorneys, staff members that this case does not belong in these courts.
But the Judge is playing hardball. That would be fine if it was warranted. It isn't.
So I have this story, brought to cps by the X who has practiced parental alienation the 4 years we have been divorced. So now I am in Childrens court. They keep changing and making things up.
Because I did not do anything. I have no record or police involvement over the 10-year marriage except for the nose tweek. I paid dearly for that nose tweek. The court, even though I had not been arrested as an adult. And I was 46 at the time wanted to bury me so the x could get custody at that time. Well I pled to a disturbing the peace charge. ON the X's insistent they made me go through 1 year of anger management and 3 years probation.
Got through it... thought I was home free. She gets remarried. Now she is being divorced buy her current husband. Because he told me.. he is walking in my shoes.
I have watched cps change the charges against me many times. They want to make me an endangerment to my children for the same nose tweek that got me removed from the home 4 yrs earlier.
Because of all of this I recently had to go through the entire divorce documentation.
In doing so I found a lot of court manipulation by the x and her big dog attorney.
This is the problem. When the divorce started the x put my two daughters in therapy.
I didnt realize what kind of therapy it was. It was therapy with the premise that they had been abused.
They hadn't but the X is an incest survivor. An abused woman in her mind. So professionals have counseled my children for 4 years that their dad is abusive. And now trumped up charges are made against me again. And the children are lying to protect their mom.
Let me give you a little history about the X. When I met her she was suing the Episcopal Church because she was having an affair with a priest. She was in therapy because of her childhood. She was married to an addict and she was not able to have a child.
She had numerous miss-carriages and a still born at 7 months.
The marriage was hard and in the end prior to her serving me with divorce papers She had a substance abuse problem. I began an intervention for her and our family. I ended up in Alinon, therapy and just tried to be for there for my family.
Well the divorce came. The divorce was made into a nasty custody battle. She has practiced the worst case of parent alienation imaginable. And now she is retrying custody in childrens court.
And my experience with cps and childrens court is that they are having their way with me.
And I haven't seen or spoken to my children at their mothers insistence sine June.
I need help... and I cannot seem to find it.
It has affected my health, my finances, and my relation ship to daughters. I seriously need help. I am sorry (and I do not know how to pare down the quote either so forgive me), but you reached out and put your hands on another individual in violence. So even if this is just the first time you did this (alkthough I highly doubt it - nose tweaking is done in order to not leave bruises, yet still get the point across about who is in control), you are still not a fit parent. And you go on to prove that by bringing in everythjing bad you can about your ex and airing it in a dirty laundry sort of format.
