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February 2, 2006, 9:10 pm PST
TOTALLY AGREE
Quote From: sunshine33I can't have sex with the lights on!! My husband says he thinks I look fine but I won't even let him touch my stomach. You see I am 41 years old and I have had four beautiful very healthy children but to look at my stomach you would think I had given birth to a baby elephant! I even had a counselor tell me that I should view my stretched out stomach as an accomplishment. Well I told her that I could see my four accomplishments every day and I would prefer that my stomach look normal so I can regain my self confidence in the bedroom. I also think my husband is fearful that the surgery might change my personality. I think if he knew the positive changes it would have on our sex life he would be all for it! I feel that my body after kids is destoyed. I wouldn't change having kids for the world and I know that blaming having kids sounds self-centered and harsh, but it is true. I see these women who just bounce back after babies. My stomach also looks like I gave birth to an elephant. The problem with other peoples advice is that they don't get it. The changes my body has gone through has dramatically altered my way of life. My actual quality of life is gone. The voice is there in my head when ever I eat, when ever I get dressed, when ever I go shopping, when ever I get naked, when ever I look in a mirror, when ever I meet new people I am thinking about my body. Dr. Phil always says that your worth as a person has nothing to do with your body weight or appearences. However this whole worlds focus is on body weight and appearences. How do you seperate the two when it matters so much to everyone else? How is anyone ever OK with it. I would have surgery in a heart-beat if I could afford it.
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