Messages By: jade4953

Quote From: reki1380

 First of all, being transgendered is NOT a mental condition!  It is a state of inner being, just as your being male/female is.  For the record, the Harry Benjamin Standards of Care DO insist on psychological therapy before we are allowed to start hormone therapy or get any sort of SRS surgery.  This is to make sure the person doesn't have a mental condition that can be better served by other means.  I have mental problems too, but they are totally outside my feelings of being trans.  I have been through the therapies and it has been decided that I truly am transgendered.  This is not a step to be taken lightly.  We don't just wake up one day and go, "Hey, I think I'll change sexes and get surgeries!"  It is something we've known all our lives, and have finally decided or found that we can do something about it.  When I learned that I could transition to male, which I'd always felt I was my entire life, it was the most liberating thing in my entire life!  Now I knew that I wasn't "crazy" about these feelings.  My mind totally cleared.  I am in the middle of transitioning under 4 doctors' care--2 therapists, 2 medical doctors--and am progressing extremely well.  Your point is valid, and we do these things before getting on hormones or having surgery.  It isn't something we take lightly.

Quote From: wifebinotnow

When a transsexual or transgender person is psychologically examined and the doctor's and psychiatric staff deem this person to be a good candidate for GRS (Gender Reassignment Surgery) or SRS (Sexual Resassignment Surgery) and give the go-ahead then that person lives their lives in their new identity then one day wakes up and says to themselves "okay, I've tried this, now I want to try something different" and goes back to some other form they had before the surgeries THIS does not mean that the person isn't transgender or transsexual.

 

Those people who say they have to remain that way for the rest of the lives are telling people what to do.  You don't want know one telling you what to do.  Why are you telling them what to do?

 

Is it am embarassment to the TG/TS community to have these people in their community?  I think it is because these people have gone all the way, then decided "eh" this isn't for me, and do not contemplate suicide at all.

 

Jerry Leach was called a sex-addict.  Have you seen the TS/TG people on the porno sites?  The MTFs, the FTMs, who are on the web with their sexual addictive pornography for all of us to see?

At least Jerry Leach of www.realityresources.com doesn't have a porno on the net for everybody to see.  And those of you who say he's a former sex-addict, who are you to judge him? 

 

I suppose you're getting your surgeries and "what not" to live as a priest, monk, or nun?  I don't think so.  Don't play coy with me.  Oh sure, there are those that will NEVER have sex in their new roles, and it isn't because they choose NOT to.  Nobody wants to have sex with them.  That's the deal some get.  Oh well, at least they CAN live in the chosen gender of their choice.

 

Who says that their is only two genders?  Male and Female.  We obviously have established that someone thinks God made Adam and Eve, and Steve.  What if God made Adam, Eve, Steve, and Miss Thang?  so?  or Mr. Butcho?

 

Don't sit there and tell the world that I'm being mean, abusive, and act like a victim.  You know full well what you are doing and the reason you are doing what you are doing.  Whatever you tell those doctors, your family, friends, etc.  is one thing, but YOU know deep down inside the real reason you're doing this.  And we don't have to know.  That's YOUR secret.  Like Superman, or the Green Arrow.  They have secrets about who they are and they are smart on letting people know that are close to them.

 

You may come in here and say that your experience is different than mine. DUH.  Of course is it.  But, don't tell me that your relationship is any better because of your gender change or sexual change.  It's still you?  And if you're in a relationship with someone who loves you, I hope you are there for them when THEY decide to do something different with their lives, just LIKE YOU DID.

 

Have a nice day

Quote From: faeryedark

Hello,! I worked 60 hrs. a week  @ factory job while heavily pregnant (morning sickness and all) I'd like to see a man do that and give birth.. then we'll talk K?

By the way, I appreciate what my husband does (works full time) and he appreciates what I do work part-time and take care of three kids most of the household chores, all of the many and varied appts. and all the grocery shopping. I think what it boils down to is respect.

Quote From: framarob

I attended the taping of this show !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

It was positively riveting, and heart-breaking too. These jurors went through so much - and once the trial ended, they were basically left there, all on their own, to cope and come to terms with the awful, horrific things they'd been through.

 

The death threat is TRUE --- Dr Phil proves it on the show. (Don't want to spoil anything so you'll just have to watch and see.... but trust me.)

 

the reason they can't  "walk away from this horror" is because they had to look at pictures that an average "normal" person couldn't even IMAGINE. They had to listen to testimony that would be unthinkable to the average person. They showed dignity and strength, as well as discretion, and they deserved AT THE VERY LEAST to have the courts provide them with professional help (ie: psychologists, counsellors or w.h.y.) to help them process everything and get back to their lives.