Messages By: lcsniu1

To your response to the show, I have to say that I am convinced that Dr. Phil knows his stuff. I do not say this because I just blindly follow and believe him, trust me, I disagree with him on some issues that have been brought up in the past. The reason I say he knows what he is talking about, is because like any good doctor, he has probably done his research. If Dr. Phil is the professional that he lets everyone believe he is, then he has probably talked to many mother's in law and daughter's in law so that he can help give some very qualified insight to these families' problems.

I am a young woman living in the "real world". I am not a girl, and opposite of your claim, I am very respectful. Children live what they learn, and if children have parents that do not teach them respect, how can respect be shown by the child? Most older people believe that respect is to be granted to them strictly because they are the elders in society. I can agree with this, but only when that respect is being reciprocated. Daughter's in law probably do not enter a relationship and just live with the intent of pushing their Mother's in law out of the couples life. In order for a woman to fight back or become disrespectful, she must feel threatened. I would ask that you take a look at your own interaction with any current or future daughter's in law. Do you demand respect, or are you willing to work together to create an environment that is comfortable for both the mother in law and the daughter in law?  Oh, and about Jay not sharing his plans, he went about proposing in a very traditional way. If Dr. Phil had had a daugter, in the way of tradition, Dr. Phil would have found out about the engagement before his daughter would have known.

Christina, 

It is natural to have a crush on a celebrity. When I was younger, I had the biggest crush on Derek Jeter. I wasn't really into baseball, but I thought he was a cutie! When I would read a magazine article about him, and the article would claim that he was seeing some woman, I would become upset. To me, I felt stalkerish and a little creeped out by my own behavior. Then I realized that having crushes on celebrities is normal. It is even normal to have some sort of emotion when you find out something new about that celebrity. My crush on Derek Jeter is now long gone. I have had crushes on celebrities since, but that is normal. It is no different than having a crush on a boy at school and then you find out he has a girlfriend. You will soon get over this hill, and when you do, I suggest that if you are looking for a boyfriend, keep the search simple. Dating should be a way to have fun and get to know what you are looking for in a guy. I hope my advice has helped a little. If you need to talk any more about this or anything else, I'll respond. Good Luck! 

-Lindsey- 

I do not believe that this young woman killed this young man in a premeditated mindset. I believe that when she went over to his house in the middle of the night to return his personal belongings, she had every intention of ending the relationship. I do not believe that the relationship ended well, or that she was feeling to particularly good about the situation. She could have left, and she could have gone home. Instead, she returned to give him an item that she had left in her car. Upon returning to his house, she struck the young man and killed him. I do not believe that she did this on purpose, but what happened next is the reason she deserves 12 years in prison. She hit him, and although she says she did not know what she hit, she is bold face lying. She knew that she had hit Daniel, but at the age of 17 she was not emotionally ready to handle this fact. She claimed she ran because she feared for her life if she would have gotten out of the car to see Daniel there. This in itself goes against the claim that she did not know that she had hit Daniel. She was scared, and she knew what she had done. Her reaction was basic of probably half the people in the world. It ties in with a human's natural reaction for fight or flight. Unfortunately, Brandi chose the latter, and the law states that those who are involved in hit in run accidents are at fault and should be punished to the full extent of the law. I am ashamed of Brandi's parents for being quite selfish in their thoughts. I know she is in jail, and I know that they probably miss her, but when they go home at night, they should be thankful that they will one day see their daughter at home. They should be thankful for the fact that when her sentence has been served, they will be able to hold their daughter again. Justice will be served if Brandi serves the rest of her twelve year sentence. If she receives any less time, it will certainly be a tragedy. 

You claim that nowhere in the bible does it say that it is ok to be gay. I agree with you, but tell me the part where it says that being gay is a horrible sin worse than all others? I believe the bible states that all sins are equal in the eys of the lord. The bible also says that if you ask Jesus into your heart and accept him as your savior, then you will be saved. To continue to be gay is like a person continuing to lie in the eyes of God. I also am very disappointed and disheartened at the fact that you claim that many "sinful" people have died because of "God's will" in New Orleans. How dare you! What gives you the right to tell us what God intended to do and why. Also, how dare you put yourself above anyone in this world. If you keep putting yourself above everyone, the harder you will fall when you fall down. You also say that being gay is a choice, and that God doesn't make mistakes. Have you ever been out of your house? The world is full of diverse people, people with different colors of skin, people with mental illness, people with physical disabilities. Let me guess, you don't believe these people are or can be holy either. I believe that people need to be more open hearted and less judgemental in this society. None of us have room to judge anyone else.

You have absolutely nothing to worry about. This is not an indicator as to whether a child will be gay or straight. I used to babysit for a little boy, and he used to play dolls and dress up with his sister. Now he is in the 8th grade, and he is as "macho" as any 8th grade boy could be. I hope that you see that this is not a fortelling as to whether or not your child will be gay, but insted, look at this to see how prepared you are and would be if your child got older and possibly came out of the closet.

 I do not wish to single you out as the only person who is being the slightest bit ignorrant on the situation at hand. I have seen plenty of that on the message boards so far. I understand when people ask the question, "why can't we all just get along?" I often times wonder the same question, but I think to myself and dismiss the question because there is no real chance of ever creating a utopian society here on this earth. Anyway, the reason I am responding to you is that you seem to think that B. is the only person who is "justified" in her prejudice against white people. Did you not hear the part of the show where Tessa explains that she has been spit on, pushed, hit, and degraded simply because she is gay? I think this would seem to "justify" her behavior with your logic. You also are judging these people before you know them, and that is the message I want to send to everyone. Everyone on this message board is judging these 6 wonderful people. Aren't you all just as guilty of prejudiced behavior as the people who have decided to seek help for there extreme cases of prejudice? I mean, come on, you, me or the next person are no better or worse than the people on tv. I hope you all keep watching and see how this turns out, and think a little bit more about what you say before absent mindedly posting some of your "ideas" or "thoughts".

P.S.- I am passionate about this because Tessa, or "the lesbian", as most of you have called her, is my sister. Just think about that while you are writing. You are writing about real people who have families and friends, and how many of you would like to be put down or regarded in such a poor manner if you knew that your children, spouse, parents, neighbors, and friends could all be reading what has been written?

 I would like to say thank you for your kind words about my sister, first and foremost. She could use a little more of that from people in today's society. I just wish that some of the people on this board could take a step back and realize that for as much as they "hate" this house and as much as some of these people claim to be accepting, it certainly is tough to see that more than half of the nearly 500 messages are filled with preconceived notions and ideas about other people. I honestly see these message and have no doubt in my mind that prejudice is, and will be for a very long time, an issue that will go unresolved in society. It is a crying shame and a harsh reality. I hope you keep watching.