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September 2, 2005, 1:37 pm PDT

I can relate

I wanted to say to not only the moms but to all family memebers- kids see, hear, and understand alot more than you think. Everything you do affects those around you. As for me, my family has always treated me wonderfully- Im 4th of 5 childeren and have always been told im smart, cute, ect. However, my Dad has always been overweight and struggled with his weight. My mom on the other hand, has always been skinny ( just a few pounds over the minimum healthy weight for her height) and always been very careful to keep it that way. As for my sister, well she was always on the heavy side and tormented for it by my oldest brother. My brothers will verbally evaluate any girl's appearance and lets just say one brother (who all the girls at school tell me is very HOT) likes his girls on the skinny side. Anyway, the point is that all the direct affirmation that i didn't stop me from hating how I look, wondering at the age of 13 or 14 if i could literally cut my stomach and get the fat out (no i never tried), by 10th grade resorting to purging my dinners and when i still didn't loose weight cutting my caloric intake to around 300 calories a day. Certainly I wouldn't have sought help as early into my disordered eating as I did if it hadn't been for the love of my family causing me to have ok self esteem though i was lacking a good body image. Your actions around people have much more affect than your words TO them.

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September 21, 2005, 12:56 pm PDT

Kindergarten was the worst year of school

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Maybe some of you can help me with this problem: my 5-year old granddaughter hates kindergarten! She's been going every day since August 10 and I was hoping this was a problem that would eventually go away but instead it keeps getting worse every day. She cries and clings and makes her mother (my daughter) feel very guilty. She attended pre-school for three years without all this, but it's a new school, new kids, new routine. We've tried de-emphasizing the negativity by emphasizing the positive aspects but still the behavior continues. I feel sorry for her and don't want to be cold-hearted so what's the answer? The teacher and principal have told us to tough it out and it will get better in a few days. Yesterday I had lunch with her at school and she asked if I could take her home so I think I made it worse instead of better. We went through all the crying and clinging again when I thought my visit would bring her comfort. We've tried putting her favorite stuffed kitty in her back pack for comfort but this doesn't seem to have helped. Some of her comments are "I would like to bulldoze the school," "My teacher is annoying and I don't like her," and "I hate PE most of all. It is stupid and boring. They make us dribble-I hate to dribble!" Should I just be patient and give it more time? I'm the one who picks her up in the afternoon so of course then she's happy but no so in the mornings. P.S. She's in good health and can already read and gets enough sleep and eats well.

I absolutely hated kindergarte. Im a senior and I would still have to say that kindergarten was the most torturous year of school for me. It simply didn't appeal to my interests. I hated artistic activites and they seemed to comprise the majority of kindergarten. In my class they made us take naps to- that was awful because I am to this day a kid who can't sit still much less lie down when Im not tired. But I think the biggest problem I had with kindergarten was my expectations. I had an older brother who was homeschooled so I expeected to learn the sort of things he was learning. What I didn't realize at the time was that my brother was 2 grades ahead of me. So my question for you is this; is it possible that your grandaughter's class is either not geared toward her interests or is not at her level?

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September 21, 2005, 1:07 pm PDT

so frusterating

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I am a 15 year old, and I have gone from loving school to hating school. For me, school has always been a place for me to learn new things, and be around peers. Now, I dread going abck to school tomorrow. I am real smart, and have been compared at times to Albert Einstein. In my classes, i am the smartest ones in them, and I don't really learn much. I normally don't try to show off how smart i am, but alot of people think i do. Today, I got so mad at something said about me being smart, i 'bout punched the comcrete walls at school. I just have decided that I really do not being smart. I don't know if anybody could tell me anything that could help me change my mind, so i will like school again. But if anybody can help, please. help

I know how you feel. I have gone though similar things: even my youth pastor called me a walking dictionary. As for the Einstein comment, lets just say doing a report on Einstein in 6th grade and trying to explain relativity and photon theory to sixth graders was not my best decesion ever. But, I have found the lack of intellectual peers to diminish as I have gotten to higher grades. My junior and now my senior year have been almost all AP classs, which has tended to help with having other students at my level. Not everyone in AP classes will be at your intellectual level but its still considerably better than other classes. Also, if your really bored in slow classes just do your homework from other classes. That is what I did during my required classes but my teachers couldn't really get mad at me because when they called on me I could explain the answers better than they did in the first place. (Nothing humbles a teacher quite like trying to catch a studen off guard and having their answer cause the rest of the class to go, "oh, I get it now" lol)

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September 27, 2005, 2:44 pm PDT

other dangerous teen trends

Right before the part in the show were they talked about the kid who was addicted to the computer and cell phone they showed a video that had little snatches about other teen trends but they didn't go into a discussion about any of them. One of the things mentioned was adderal. Anyone have any idea what that was about?

also, Dr.Phil mentioned a websight that has supposedly been helpful to him and that he said there was supposed to a link to it from this websight. Anyone know what the websight was or where the link is?

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September 27, 2005, 4:32 pm PDT

Just my take on the issue

I will say immediately that I didn't hear the quote so I don't know exactly what Tom Cruise said. I think that celebrities ought to be be careful about what they say because their opinions are often given more weight than their knowledge warrents.

I believe that medicines are too often used as a panacea for multifacited problems. This results in some people being medicated when other methods of treatment would work just as well (or better). Other people are given medications which are appropriate for their situation/ condition but are then not given the other tools, such as therapy, that are necessary to fully treat the condition. For others still the medication does exactly what it is supposed to do and is essential to function properly.

There are many stories of people who were given inappropriate medicine and suffered serious results. I think this is cause for concern, caution, and continued research. It reflects the fact that no two people are alike and that a no drug (or treatment of anysort) should be isolated as the only option for treating a condition.

Everything in life has pros and cons. Different people have different priorities and values which they must use to make their own cost-benifit analysis. Therefore, education is essential for all parties concerned so that facts, theories, and first hand experince can be examined and applied in a thoughtful manner in order to achieve the best possible results for specific situations and specific people. Hopefully, when people take it upon themselves to be informed and to seek multiple viewpoints medications will be used appropriately and in conjuncture with other appropriate treatments.

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October 6, 2005, 12:54 pm PDT

misconceptions

Quote From: qnhoneybee

Actually there is no definition for misperception but it's a noun lol! however there is perception and from these two definitions (found at dictionary.com) there is an obvious difference bewtween the two. So in answer to a question I guess that is how you tell if it's a misperception or a lie.

per·cep·tion (pr-spshn)
n.

The process, act, or faculty of perceiving.
Recognition and interpretation of sensory stimuli based chiefly on memory.

: awareness of the elements of environment through physical sensation <color perception> <some sensation of perception of the extremity after amputation is felt by 98% of patients —Orthopedics & Traumatic Surgery> —compare SENSATION 1a

n 1: the representation of what is perceived; basic component in the formation of a concept [syn: percept, perceptual experience 2: a way of conceiving something; "Luther had a new perception of the Bible" 3: the process of perceiving 4: knowledge gained by perceiving; "a man admired for the depth of his perception" 5: becoming aware of something via the senses [syn: sensing

lie:

A false statement deliberately presented as being true; a falsehood.
Something meant to deceive or give a wrong impression.

To present false information with the intention of deceiving.
To convey a false image or impression: Appearances often lie

misconception:
"a mistaken thought, idea, or notion; a misunderstanding"

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October 6, 2005, 4:56 pm PDT

09/27 Shocking Teen Trends

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Just a FYI on Adderall: It is a prescription medication. It is an Amphetamine ( "upper") It is prescribed to children for the treatment of ADHD. This medication is taken recreationally for it's "high". This drug is dangerous when abused- it has a long list of side effects- some which can be life threatening such as high blood pressure and rapid heart rate. Young ppl should know that any medication- prescription or over the counter, can be DEADLY if not used correctly, such as under the directions of a doctor.

Karen, RN

thanks for the info. I was just wondering how dangerous it could really be since it is approved by the FDA. Clearly because it is an amphetamine it would be dangerous for those with preexisting heart problems. But for young adults in good health, when used responsibly it seems like it shouldn't pose a health risk.

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October 6, 2005, 5:09 pm PDT

Words

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I hope you are having a nice day. How are you? Well, I gave it that old college try and finally found a web dictionary with misperception or misperceive. I like the word misconception though yet forget to use it and a GREAT word. Although, I like all the definitions and look 100% accurate. My favorite online dictionary is hyperdictionary.com. Which one is yours? Your post reminds me of Reader's Digest "It Pays to Enrich Your Word Power" I think the internet is a valuable tool for word enrichment with all the input from others and search engines. Below is about Reader's Digest in case you hadn't heard of "It Pays to Enrich Your Word Power" and might be interested in since you look like you love words as much as me. Best wishes, SEA

You can use the "It Pays to Enrich Your Word Power" feature in Reader's Digest magazine each month:

Reader's Digest Online www.rd.com or www.wordpower.com Free registration and signup"

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misperceive (mis'p?r-sev')
tr.v., -ceived, -ceiving, -ceives.

To perceive incorrectly; misunderstand.
mis'percep'tion (-sep'sh?n) n.

Meaning of MISPERCEPTION
Webster's 1913 Dictionary

Definition:
\Misper*cep"tion\, n.
Erroneous perception.

I don't really have a favorite online dictionary- Im usually to lazy to look up words. Thanks for the Reader's digest link- sounds cool I'll have to check it out. I just thought I would add the definition of misconception because someone had said they were unable to find a definition for misperception. I thought perhaps misperception had been a malapropism. I do enjoy good words ( speaking of which, erroneeous is a great word. The problem is I can't spell alot of them. (I have always been bad at spelling and HATE reading.) But I do love haveing a good vocabulary. I think Im the only person who enjoys the Verbal section of the SATs because I am reminded of good words that I haven't used in a while. LOl

As for how I am: I'm not sure wether I am depressed, stressed, or both. Both seem to present many of the same symptoms. Anyway, thanks for asking. How are you?

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October 6, 2005, 5:26 pm PDT

Depression

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For providing the definition for misconception. Until I read this I did realize I gave my port the wrong title. It was supposed to be Misperceptions. lol!

How are you? I don't think I've talked to you before and I have been on and off the boards for the past couple days so forgive for not knowing more about me.

Your welcome. You didn't use the wrong title- I just wanted to add a useful synonym. lol

Im pretty new to the boards, which is why you haven't talked to me before and why I don't know you. (I haven't read many posts because I generally dispise reading) I hope it was ok for me to post. I didn't mean to but in.

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October 6, 2005, 5:38 pm PDT

Thanks

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perfectly fine that you posted. You were not butting in and thank-you for the synonym. It is nice to meet you. I can relate to the reading part especially when you're new and don't know who is who. It can be confusing. I hop eyou decide to stay and join our little community here. It is like one great big American Family if you know how that goes. lol! It really is great though.

Thanks for welcoming me. As you may have figured out from my name Im 16 girl. Im not sure exactly what brought me here except that Im tired of being depressed for no good reason. I have a pretty much picture perfect life- great family, friends, etc and yet I somehow have so much bottled up negative emotions. It confused me because I have no right to get depressed so I wonder if perhaps Im tricking myself into thinking Im depressed. So then I get more mad at myself for not being happy when I have a much easier life than many people. Anyway, I guess that mostly sums up my situation. Now you know me. :)

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I can relate

Kindergarten was the worst year of school

so frusterating

other dangerous teen trends

Just my take on the issue

misconceptions

09/27 Shocking Teen Trends

Words

Depression

Thanks