Quote From: domoore I just wanted to say that I myself am in the same situation.I am an agoraphobic.My husband just left me one week ago.We also have 3 children.He said i was always angry.We were together for 14 1/2 years and he said says he is done with me but i am trying my hardest to get out more and take medication I want to get better for my self.I know its not going to happen over nite but i have lost my world and I want it back.I think i was hitting rock bottom and i needed a wake up call,which i got one but he also left me at the same time.I know the biggest thing he said was he did'nt have freedom to do things with his friends and have a real life he said he was just used to this kind of life and enough was enough.I have only been agoraphobic for 8 yrs now,but i do drive a little bit.I know how i got my illness and it was due to having an allergic reaction to some medications and now i am so petrified to take any kind of meds,but i have to if i want to get mylife and husband back,if there still is a chance.I myself rite now is a basket case I have reached out for help for many years and there is noone to help you for this kind of a illness,and i think that is partly why i hit rock bottom.But i have had enough i want my life back i am still young enough to enjoy my kids and be happy again..I know i have been very depressed and now of course it is even worse for me rite now.well i hope some one reads this and has a idea for me or some kind of medical treatment..
Thank you,
Lisa
Lisa,
First of all, I want to encourage you to hang in there. Husbands who take vows" for better or worse
and in sickness and in health," do not leave their wives, if they love them.. Have you ever taken your husband to therapy with you for one session? This could have helped him to understand it more. he should have a life and be with his friends, even if you can't always go, until you are better.
My advice is go to a good professional Doctor who can give you therapy and medication. Sometimes it takes a while to get the medication right and adjusted, please be patient and try.. Let your husband go with you for your first visit, if it is not too late with him.Some states have professionals
that help you and adjust payment as to what you can afford to pay.
Also, I read someone say that faith will cure this, well you can use that but you can't wish this problem away. This problem affects all kinds of people, usually those very gifted and outgoing even can experience this, so do not think you are the only one. Stress sometimes brings this on, after a
period of many years of stress due to being left alone, worrying or things you don't even know that can cause it. It can run in families also. So please know there is help out there and God helps those who help themselves, true! So YOU make this effort to start doing things your Dr tells you and take the medication. I am convinced you can do this! Good Luck and God Bless You! You are not alone in this.
