Messages By: lapianomom

I know it's hard dealing with children (I have a 3 y.o. and a newborn) so just be patient with yourself.  Given the fact that I don't know your son's history or temperament,  I can only suggest what I do with my 3 y.o son who is very sensitive.  Whenver he starts acting out, I try to find out what's REALLY bugging him.  If hes tired or hungry I just kind of ignore the tantrum and he stops.  Or I might just hug him and calmly say "Tell mommy why you are angry and I can help you."  or "Lets use words to talk about why we are mad".  Let him know it's okay to be mad and express himself, just not in a violent manner.  Kids need validation and need to know their feelings are validated and important.  They are people too.   

Good luck and like I said, this is just my 2 cents worth.  I'm sure you are a great mom and he will be fine. 

I found it interesting that Dr Phil kept saying that statistics show that kids who are given condoms and do go ahead and choose to have sex, will usually use the condom.  How does he know?  Even if you go into high schools and take a poll and ask kids "Did you have sex and did you use a condom"  do you honestly think they are going to tell you the truth?  I'm not commenting either way on the condom distribution debate,  I just hate when statistics are thrown out there and we really don't know exactly how many kids would use a condom if you gave them one.  They just aren't going to tell truth for the most part either out of fear that someone might find out or maybe they will say that they have had sex just to look cool.

You say you don't have time to watch what your kids are doing, even in your own home.  Well, you sure seem to have enough time to watch Monday Night Football, play your playstation or nintendo, play fantasy football on the internet, go play golf or go to the shooting range with your buddies, have a spa night with the ladies, chat with your friends online, or sit around a watch sitcoms.  Hmmm...that's a lot of extra time you could be spending with your kids or monitoring what they are doing.  And yes, I'm a mom and one of my children is taking a nap and the other one is sitting right next to me doing schoolwork.  Now I'm going to get off the computer and spend time with him.