Messages By: honeyeight

This entire situation sounds exactly like the 17 years I spent with my ex-husband only he didn't play the "king", he just didn't do a darn thing around the house.  Also, he was so busy trying to make our 3 boys (2 years apart each) his friends instead of his sons that I was always, always the Bad Person.  I had to take care of the house and the kids because he was an only child and had a father who was the "king of the castle".  His mother worked as a waitress for more than 30 years, getting up at 3:00am to be at work for the breakfast rush, and all his father did was sit on his very large backside watching TV when he was at home.  He made her bring him EVERYTHING...not once did he even get up to get his own glass of water.  This is what my ex grew up with so he thought that was the way things were.  I set him straight REAL quick that I was not going to be his maid but I still had to be the "bad guy" with the kids.  Thank goodness I finally came to my senses after 17 years and left him for the THIRD time!  This time I stayed gone, though.  However, he really didn't notice any difference because even though he had the 3 boys living with him, his mother had finally divorced his father and had also come to live with us!!!  Therefore, not a darn thing changed...she had meals on the table every night and made sure the boys had their homework done.  She cleaned house almost everyday.  He lived a great life until 2 months after the divorce was final, his drug habit finally killed him.  He died 10 days before Christmas.  I don't want to speak ill of the dead, but it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy.   

I have now been married almost 10 years to the most wonderful man you can imagine.  We love each other dearly and cannot even imagine being apart.  I guess things work out the way they're supposed to after all.   

He knows what he is doing to his daughter and everyone else knows what he is doing to her.  That poor child should NEVER have to see him again...not even using "supervised visits"!!!  I can't help but also be angry with the woman he is married to now.  There is no way she cannot know what he is doing but she just sits there and doesn't say anything!  Is she so afraid of what he might do to her when they go home that she just stays quiet about everything?  Isn't it amazing how a fork was found right where he had been "changing her diaper" just after they took her to the ER where a 2cm tear in her labia was found?  For those who don't know, 2cm is approximately an INCH long!!!  Also, what was that crap he was trying to put over on Dr. Phil in their one on one conversation saying that the redness in that area was caused by a yeast infection?!  Any nurse at the hospital would know the difference between a yeast infection and what he was apparently doing to that poor child!  Some things have been said about the dad which indicated that he may have been molested as a child.  If this is true, then he needs a long course of mental health treatment during which time he should NOT be allowed to be around his daughter!  Frankly, IMHO he should never be around his daughter again.  Besides the physical pain he has put her through, she will have lingering post traumatic stress syndrome which could affect her the rest of her life.  At 3 years old, children are beginning to have the ability to remember things which happened to them even when they become adults.  She will remember a lot of what is happening to her now which will make her wonder why her mother didn't do more to help her instead of sending her off with that !@#hole every weekend!  There is no punishment bad enough for him.  He failed the polygraph and I would bet my last penny that he googled instructions on how to defeat the questions.  Thank goodness it didn't work in his case!  He's lying through his teeth and Dr. Phil knows it!  Now the problem is what Dr. Phil will be able to do about it.  Obviously the mother hasn't had much luck with CPS, however, I believe that Dr. Phil will once he speaks with them!  I know that Dr. Phil can make something happen with this situation...I just hope he does it quickly!  I pray that he already has enough evidence about the father which will cause a judge to keep that child from ever having to see him again!  Go Dr. Phil!  I have a lot of faith in you and I know you can help this poor little girl!!!  I'll definitely be watching again tomorrow!!!

Waiting for the outcome!

Honeyeight

When I think of what that darling little girl went through while watching the show last week, I was almost in tears.  Thank God that Dr. Phil is now involved in this horrendous act on a 6 year old CHILD!!!  When I think of what that b****rd (excuse my language, but I will NOT give that man the dignity of calling him her grandfather), it actually made me want to throw up!!!  I was ready to go through the TV and do him bodily harm for what he had done to Grace.  Then we have the grandmother who, as anyone with a brain knows, is in complete and total denial of what that man did to her granddaughter.  It truly sickens me that he only spent 8 months in jail.  I do not for even one second believe his story about 'the devil made me do it'.  Come on...give me a frigging break!!!!!!!  That line went out about 25 years ago and now he's trying to use it to justify what he did to that child!!!  I know that Dr. Phil realizes that Grace will need long term therapy to even be able to cope with this situation.  Even with extensive therapy, I seriously doubt that she will ever forget it.

I will definitely watch the second part of this story to see what happens between Grace's parents and those two monsters who call themselves her grandparents.  In my opinion, Grace nor any of her siblings should EVER be allowed to see those monsters again.  Since that b*****d did what he did to Grace, what's to stop him from doing the same thing to any other of her siblings?  For that matter, what's to stop him from doing the same thing to other innocent children???  Are we going to hear 'the devil made me do it' story again??????

This male person belongs in a state prison for the rest of his life.  Obviously, we do not know where they live and it doesn't matter, however, I can almost guarantee that if they live in Texas, he would be serving hard time in Huntsville.  As a fellow Texan, I am quite sure that Dr. Phil is aware of what I speak.  This man is beyond rehabilitation and his wife is no better.

I watched the show today and it literally made me ill to listen to that mother defend her husband and allow him to see the children against a CPS order.  I certainly hope that Dr. Phil's staff will allow the case worker for this family to see the tape.  I don't for one second believe that he was only in that house "for the taping" and Dr. Phil seemed very clear that he did not believe it either.

I am now married to my third husband, who, by the way, is the very best of the 3.  My first husband knew from the day we met that if he ever even raised a hand to me, it would be the last time he ever would.  My second husband was verbally abusive to me and to my 3 sons...we left after living with him for 6 weeks (5 weeks and 6 days too long!) and our divorce was final a few months later.  My current husband knows how I feel about this issue but he would never even consider such behavior.  I am very blessed that the third time is the charm!

Dr. Phil is the only hope that Lee has at this point.  He reminds me of my #2 son who also has anger management issues and a lack of parenting skills (he is the father of my 6 year old twin grandsons).  My son is now a guest of the Harris County Jail in our area and is looking at 2-10 years in Huntsville for a felony attack on a family member (his current girlfriend at the time of the fight, he knocked out her 2 front teeth during the fight).  As his mother, I have no sympathy or empathy for him as this is not his first time to be a guest of the County, both as a juvenile and as an adult.  Unfortunately, he has refused Anger Management even though he acknowledges that he needs it.  My son even bears a slight resemblance to Lee so this was a difficult show for me to watch.

My hope is that the maternal grandparents are able to obtain at least temporary custody of their 3 grandchildren.  They seem to be the only ones who actually care about these children besides Dr. Phil.

Dr. Phil...please help these innocent children.  They didn't ask to be born and they certainly didn't ask for these 2 nut cases (their mother and father) to be their parents.

Excuse me!!!  I'll be 52 in Aug and look ALMOST as good as Robin...;-)  I would never say that I look AS good because she is GORGEOUS and Dr. Phil is an extremely fortunate man!  I'm currently married and we don't go out much, however, I normally wear make up and dress younger than I am even though I don't work outside the home.  I need to lose a few pounds for my own self-esteem, however, other people tell me I look great the way I am.  If I were not married, I would definitely go out, however, it would not be with my sons and their girlfriends.  My oldest is almost 30 and engaged and my youngest is almost 26 and has a serious girlfriend.  I have no desire whatsoever to go out where they go.  For one thing, I cannot STAND the music to which they listen!  I would find an "oldies place" (60's, 70's and 80's music) and go there.  I don't drink so it doesn't even have to be a bar.  In fact, if Dr. Phil or Robin (being native Texans...:-) know of a place like that in the Houston Metro area, I would appreciate their feedback!  I'd even drag my husband with me but I would NEVER "drag down the children".  Maybe when you get to be our age (seems like you may still be a little wet behind the ears...;-),  you'll understand...:-)