Messages By: deja126

I have always wondered what these people see when they look into a mirror. I used to go to the PNE as a kid and look into the mirrors there that changed your body image into fat otr thin and all weird looking  and we all thought that was funny. This on the other hand is not, I have seen other shows about this disorder and the woman will come out on stage and she is beautiful but she thinks she is a monster. Is there something wrong in their mind where it makes their eyes focus weird images or something else? I know just by telling them that they are pretty doesn't work because they still see themselves as ugly monsters. Maybe this is something science can work on to help them if it isn't just a phycological disorder, then they need a dr to help them. I feel bad for these people and I hope Dr. Phil can help them.

I watched the last show about this kid and her mom and I think the problem is dear old mom. It seems to me the mother just wants Alex to raise herself and stay out of the moms way. What ever happened to good parents? Why can't she love her daughter enough to keep her home? I think the mom needs help more than Alex. I think Alex needs a stable home life away from her family because up until now her mom seems to be doing a crappy job. Learn to treat your children with love, treat them how you would want to be treated by a parent if you were a child. THINK, LEARN LOVE your kids

After reading the story of the husband and wife I can't imagine staying with a man so screwed up. I am going to watch Mon,Tues and Wed so I can find out if Wade is nuts or not. I would think she should have figured him out before now. Well I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens. This is going to be a real dramatic show.

I have been worried about my looks since I was 49. I finally got Botox around my eyes and mouth, what a difference it made. I have always been told I look younger than my age but to me I noticed every wrinkle. I even quit smoking to help with my looks. I drink lots of water daily and walk on my treadmill for 40-45 minutes a day at 6-6.4 mph. I do indulge on junk food once in a while like popcorn or choclate bars but I'm not over weight, thank God. My husband loves long hair so I dare not change it. I use  good face creams and I wash with a face only cleanser. I am 55 and I am told I look 10-15 years younger so I feel pretty good about that. I also wear clothes that are comfortable but young looking. I will buy a pair of nice dark blue jeans and a tee shirt that looks good. I try to wear proper fitting bras and outer wear so I don't look frumpy or like I have no waist. I guess we all have to do what makes us feel good and healthy. I think water and exercise are the two best things we can do for ourselves. I will be watching Dr. Phil & Robin to find out her secrets to staying young and fit. I hope we all learn something that will help us in our jouney to older age.

I'm sorry but as a woman I could never marry any of these guys. If I was a man I would tell little miss Princess( Paris Hilton) to go marry herself and have a great life, I'd be gone so fast. She's in it for the money because she sat there and bragged about how she spends his money and she acted as if it were her right to do that. I don't think any of them knows what marriage entails. I'm married to wonderful man and we love each other. He respects me and I him. We are always looking for ways to please each other just to see the smile. These four couples are angry and cruel to each other. I think they all need to grow emotionally before they ever consider walking down the isle with anyone.

marriage is NOT 50-50, it is 100% on both sides. If you love, and respect one another there is hope If some-one is calling you a piece of crap everyday, why are you still there, where is your self worth?

I read your story and my heart breaks for you. From 1979 until 1984 I drank to numb the pain of mental and physical abuse from my common law boyfriend. When I met him I had no idea he was an addict and alcoholic. Just one week from my 26th birthday he punched me in the face so hard I flew across my livingroom. He did this because he thought I was talking to another guy on the phone, I had only known him since Dec 28th of the previous year, my birthday was in the last week of January. From that time on he beat me every time he drank, I had black eyes almost every month and the verbal abuse was horrible. He hated the fact that people thought I was beautiful and he wanted to make me ugly. I tried to leave but it was impossible. I had him arrested a few times to only have him come back and make me pay. I drank every day from morning until I passed out. My daughter was only 12 and 13 yrs old at the time. I knew I was hurting her so bad by my drinking but I just couldn't stand to be sober and around him. In 1985 I decided I had had enough and I quit drinking which made him decide to quit also. The worst of it was he quit booze only to start  drugs such as heroin, methadone, morphine and anything else he could find. The beatings stop but he convinced me to start using drugs, which I did. I finally left him after 22 years of hell and I have never looked back. I haven't drank or drugged in 23 years and I am married to an awesome man who doesn't drink or drug. If you can get the help you know you need you will be amazed at the life you can have sober. There are some wonderful 12 step programs and recovery houses that I'm sure can help you. Just do it one day at a time and if you stay motivated, you will finally get the life you deserve and have always deserved. I wish you nothing but good luck and hope. Please don't give up on life for death.

 

God Bless you,

Hannah

I can't believe what happened to this precious little girl because of her grandparents. I know what your're thinking, the grandparents didn't kill her. No they didn't but what they did was to make an immature selfcentred 20 yr old keep a baby she clearly didn't want. She had a friend who was willing to take the baby when it was born but Casey's parents said NO.

Those people lived with Casey everyday and they had never met the nanny, Zanny and they didn't seem too worried about their daughter lying on a daily bacis and stealing from them as long as they could have access to Cayle. I think their selfeshness to be grandparents when they clearly knew Casey was not fit to be a mother played a part in the death of Cayle.

I had inlaws just like them. I was 16 and pregnant. My dad wanted me to give the baby up but  my boyfriend's parents wanted to be grandparents so badly that the mother of my boyfriend talked me into marrying him and keeping the baby. I did that but the marriage fell apart after 5 years.

I kept my beautiful daughter and raised her with the help of my inlaws and my dad. They helped me with alot of things. I was only 17 when I had her but I believe I was much more mature than Casey is. My dughter is now 39 and has 3 beatiful children of her own.

Her parents fed into her lies and they had to know she was a party girl. Why didn't they just adopt Cayle from the start instead of playing footsies with their daughter. I think Casey should be locked up in prison for life, she knew what she did was wrong because she did nothing to help find her and  her entire story was a joke from the start. Plus we've all seen the pictures of her doing what she wanted to do and that was to be free of her "Little Snot Head" that's what she called her. What a lovely term. The trial should be quite a show with Biaz her lawyer, trying to explain away all of Casey's lies and saying Zanny the nanny must have killed Cayle after she kidnapped her. What a bunch of BS.

 

God Bless you Cayle,you're an angel with him forever now. You are safe from harm.