Quote From: bunch2We have been only married for 1 1/2 years and we only have sex/make love once a month. My husband says there is no time (we have no children). When we do make love it takes about 5 minutes and is horrible, horrible and did I say horrible? I have tried showing, telling, talking, writing to try and help him along with what I desire and still absolutely NO improvements. He also lacks effective communication skills and when I talk to him about our relationship he looks at me like a deer in the headlights! He does not respond, act on or try and change the direction of our relationship. I am at a loss because he is such a kind, gentle and thoughtful soul. He is the type of man that cleans the house, does laundry and pulls my side of the sheets down for me to go to bed! I have talked to him about our relationship for the last 6 months and our last conversation I said I am not going to renew the mortgage (due in September).
Is my Husband a lost cause?
its not a good idea to threaten not to pay the mortgage. You still need a place to live ;) I know how you feel. My soon to be hubby never-ever-ever wants to have sex. We have been together for almost 8 years and the sex stopped about a year ago. Like you, I have tried talking to him about it, with no resolve. He is a great person and I really love him. My advice to you is, be carefull what you say and how you say it. Men take everything to heart and sometimes the wrong way. Talk to you soon.
