Messages By: nimittens

I just saw this show.  I have never wanted to slap some sense into a guest more than Debi.  She is a monster, I can't believe how horribly she treats her daughter.  She is the most shallow, insensitive, self-absorbed person I have ever seen.  She says she wants to change, but she really doesn't, she sat there and excused her behaviour and blamed everything on her daughter.  She is raising her older daughter to be just as shallow as her, which will ultimately set her up for failure, she will only end up as arm candy for stupid shallow men.  I just want to hug the younger daughter, she deserves such a better Mom than Debi is.  Debie, if you don't want you daughter, give her to me!!!!  I will love her and treat her with the respect that she is entitled to.  I will give her birthday party's, enroll her in dance classes and be proud of her.  I know from experience that she is turning to food for comfort because she feels as if her Mom hates her.  When I was a child I felt like I was not as valued as my sister, I often felt alone, and I often ended up eating.  When I left home, I distanced myself from my Mom, I resented so much the extra love and attention my sister got that I didn't.  I get along with my Mom now, but it took years to build any kind of relationship.  And sometimes I still feel so sad when I remember being a little girl who didn't feel as cherished as my sister.  Debi is going to end up all alone, a bitter woman with an ugly spirit.   

Last year my daughter had her first dance recital.  There were several different dance classes and types participating.  There were girls of all shapes and sizes up on that stage, and they all performed fantastically.  All of the parents beamed with pride, and nobody was ashamed of any of their children.  Too bad Debi can't be that kind of Mom.  I wonder if her parents raised her to be so shallow?  I would love to go on the show and confront this woman, I am seething.  Dr. Phil should have been a lot harder on her.  Everybody, just wait until you see this show, you will be sickened and angered by Debi and the very cruel way she treats her child!!!!!! 

I've always heard it as, "Pretty is AS pretty does."  It means how you are and how you act is what makes you pretty.

I have very mixed feelings on this, but I do think Tom Cruise is full of crap.  He says he knows psychiatry, he doesn't know anything.  At one point in my life I was so depressed that I couldn't do anything, not even leave my own house.  I couldn't work to support myself, getting out of bed just seemed impossible most days, both pysically and mentally.  At the time I never sought help and feel like I am lucky to have come out of it, unfortunately it took about 6 years.  After my daughter was born I loved her so much.  I never wanted to hurt her, but I was just so extremely sad, it was the worst way to feel, I was so sad I would feel physically ill.  I never sought help because of the stigma attached, and attitudes like those that Tom Cruise is putting out don't help to get rid of that stigma.  I am a military spouse, and after a move far away from my family, I once again became depressed.  I couldn't just snap out of it, I was angry and sad all the time.  This time I got help, my Dr. gave me Prozac, but I was so scared of side effects I never took it.  When my Dr. found out he said that Celexa has less side effects.  I started taking that and it helped tremedously.  It allowed me to function again.  I went from sitting around at home all day to becoming an active member of our community.  Eventually I was able to gradually wean off of the Celexa, but if I ever needed to again, I wouldn't hesitate to take it. 

  

On the opposite side of the coin, I do feel as if children are being over-medicated.  Parents are so quick to just allow their kids to be put on Ritalin or Adderall.  My friend's son was diagnosed ADHD.  The medication made a big difference in him, but at the same time it was heartbreaking to see the side effects.  There were days he couldn't eat because of nauseousness, some days he would be so sluggish, and one time he fell asleep at my house and just couldn't wake up, he wasn't in any danger, he was just so exhausted.  But on days that he didn't take the medicine, nobody could stand to be around him.  One time I had him in my car on a day he was without medication.  He kept taking off his seat belt, kicking the seat of the car, yelling, throwing things.  I had to pull over off the side of the road.  We ended up getting hit by a careless driver, luckily nobody was hurt.  After the police arrived this little boy just started getting on their car and eventually took off running and wouldn't come back.  So I know the medicine worked for him, I just wish there was a way that he could have the medicine he needs without the side-effects.  And even though the medicine does work for him, I feel as if tons of kids who don't really have ADHD are on the meds.   

  

Oh, and by the way, one of the first tests you should have if you are feeling depressed is a Thyroid test.  Underactive thyroid can cause depression-like symptoms.  I guess Tom Cruise would say taking thyroid medication is bad too though. 

Devene and Amber should be ashamed of themselves.  They both appear to be spiteful, bitter women.  I know as a mother myself, that I would be devastated if my daughter said she detested me.  I'm glad the grandma/mother is standing up for herself.  They are saying she is mean to try to manipulate her.  Devene and her daughter are the mean ones, it's very apparant just by looking at their demeanor and appearance, it's pretty sad when people are so mean that it comes out in the way they look.  The granddaughter says she is the last in line and there is no one else to pass the farm along to, no wonder, who would marry this woman, much less have children with her?  They seem to resent the lady because she is still strong and independent.  They should be proud and happy that she is able to run a farm and "jet off" to Arizona.  She seems like a lady who has worked hard, who loved her husband, who loves her farm, she deserves to go where she wants and do what she wants.  Devene and Amber need to get a grip, get a job and get a life.  They have dollar signs in their eyes, they want to develop the land and live easy, it's disgusting.   

When my Grandparents died my cousins pretty much took everything left in the house.  I would have loved some items for sentimental items, but I didn't go and fight for them.  I will have to content myself with the hand-made things they gave me, pictures and memories.  To go and demand and argue over things just is not worth it, that would be an insult to the memories of my Grandparents.  The way Devene and Amber are acting is an insult to the memory of their Dad/Grandpa, and is demeaning to their Mom/Grandma.   

I'm sorry, I know pageants are fun for some people, but the way Bonnie has this little girl looking is ridiculous, and it truly is creepy the way she looks with those teeth.  And for any Mom to neglect one child and focus so intently on the other one, it is just cruel. Ranel admitted on the show that she basically neglects her younger daughter.  That is just so sad.  What kind of self-esteem is this child going to have?  I'm surprised that Dr. Phil didn't call both of these Mom's out on the fact that they are causing harm to the both the child who is gettting too much attention and the one who is getting ignored.