Messages By: luvnmykids

  As I sat there watching the video of this lady yelling at her children until they were sick and sitting in front of the toilet I was shocked.   The thought that it could go so far that this mother doesn't even realize that she is abusing her kids is scary.  I couldn't believe that she was calling her child a drama queen.  If my child ever balled up on his bed and told me repeatedly that he was scared I think it would trigger something in me and make me realize that I was doing damage to my child.  I'm just happy that after watching that show I realized that I needed to pay more attention to how I handled situations with my own kid and I thank Dr Phil.  I definitely would never want my children to feel about me the way that these children feel about their mother. 

   I feel for the woman who is having problems with her soon to be MIL.  I ended up marrying my highschool sweetheart and I absolutely loved his mother.  She was always like a mom to me.  From the very beginning.  My husband says how he remembers looking back...and thinking..it's usually the girl trying hard to get her mother-in-law to like her..when all his mom ever wanted was for me to like her.  I was extremely close to her all through out our relationship in highschool, and unfortunately before we were married she passed away from cancer.  I was devastated.  So now I don't have a MIL.  Just in spirit and in memories.  I hope that Dr. Phil is able to give advice to both of these women and make them realize that a very special bond can come out of this.  I know that my MIL never felt that I was trying to take her 'baby' away from her..(my husband is the youngest) and I never had intentions of taking him away or of coming between them.  I loved seeing them together and seeing the love that they obviously had for eachother.  I'm very happy that I was able to witness it.  Instead of my MIL pushing me out of the picture, she welcomed me into her family and into her heart with open arms.  She seen me as just another one of her children that she loved so very much.  I hope and pray that this will happen for these two.  Not only will it make this marriage better but it will make family function more pleasurable.  Im sure that this girl has no intentions of taking her husband away from his mother.  Im sure his mother is having problems letting go and hopefully with Dr. Phil's help and our prayers they will become a happy family and build a lot of memories to block out all that has happened thus far. 

   I had to comment on this subject.  Currently my son sleeps with me and my husband.  This started when he was 8 months old.  He was sick and I was scared that he would choke while he was in his crib and I wouldn't hear it.  Well now he is 3 1/2 and still in our bed.  If we try to make him lay in his own bed he cries and screams that he is scared.  I don't have the heart to let him cry himself sick so he ends up in bed with us.  If anyone has any advice on how to get him out of our bed I would really appreciate it.  I am expecting another baby in 3 weeks, so my nights are already restless.   I love cuddling with my son, but I also like to be able to cuddle with my husband from time to time.  We have  tried the whole.."letting him fall asleep in our bed and moving him to his bed later" but he is usually back in our bed about 2-3 hours later.   Another thing I have wondered is...he loves to play with my hair and in the middle of the night if he is starting to wake up he grabs my hair and holds on to it and falls back asleep.  Please...someone help me.  I am open to all advice and suggestions at this point.  Thanks a bundle. 

   Thanks for the advice.  I think I'll try both.  We have read a bed time story but after that the screaming starts and the "Im scared".  We used to let him cry when he was little but he never used to tell us that he was scared.  I guess the other person that replied might have a point.  He probably does have us figured out.  Guess it is time for "tough love".  Anyways.  Thanks you guys.  I'll be sure to let you know if it works or not.  I hope it does.  LOL  Oh and on the sound sleeper thing..I have the same problem so when he comes into our room after we move him I sleep right through it.  Thanks for the compliment on the name too...wasn't hard to pick..LOL.   

  Hey...first off I am by no means trying to give marital advice.  I have been married for almost 3 years.  My husband and I dated for 5 years before we got married and our whole relationship was horrible.  About 9 months before we finally got married I had our first kid.  I know that our marriage was rushed.  Lets see..."getting married was the right thing to do", my dad was dying from cancer, and our relationship was still on the rocks.  Needless to say we were engaged Sept '02 and married Jan 4, 2003.  The first year was absolutely horrible.  We didn't really get a honeymoon cuz we had to come home to get the baby and my new grandfather-in-law was having surgery.  Lets say I was a little bitter about all that.  But after the first year things just seem to get better.  We actually learned more about eachother in that year then we had in the five that we dated.  We were already living together so that wasn't a surprise.  I know that there were times that I wanted to throw in the towel and say..this was a HUGE mistake.  I'm sooo happy that I decided to stick it out.  I have never been happier in my life then I am right now.  I hope that you will try just a lil longer.  I don't know ur whole situation, but if things are not abusive then I say it's worth the try.  U obviously married this man for a reason...lets see if that reason can outstand the things that are making your marriage rocky.  Best wishes and Good luck 

  I too am very sorry to hear about your loss Sarah.  It is unfortunate that a parent should have to bury their child.  But while I was reading these messages it reminded me of an email that I had recieved a lil while back.  A police officer sent out a message about the death of his son and what had happened. 

The game is called "Dusting" and what kids are doing is using a product called "Dust Off".  Dust off is used to blow the dust off of the computer.  Following is a few parts of the email.  So while we are telling our children about the dangers of the "Choking game" please be sure to talk to them about this one.   

I found out that using Dust Off is being done mostly by kids ages 9 through 15. They even have a name for it. It's called dusting. A take off from the Dust Off name. It gives them a slight high for about 10 seconds. It makes them dizzy. A boy who lives down the street from us showed Kyle how to do this about a month before. Kyle showed his best friend. Told him it was cool and it couldn't hurt you. Its just compressed air. It cant hurt you. His best friend said no.  Kyle was wrong. It's not just compressed air. It also contains a propellant called R2. Its a refrigerant like what is used in your refrigerator. It is a heavy gas. Heavier than air. When you
inhale it, it fills your lungs and keeps the good air, with oxygen, out. That's why you feel dizzy, buzzed. It decreases the oxygen to your brain, to your heart. Kyle was right. It cant hurt you. IT KILLS YOU. The horrible part about this is there is no warning.  There is no level that kills you. It's not cumulative or an overdose; it can just go randomly, terribly wrong. Roll the dice and if your number comes up you die. ITS NOT AN OVERDOSE. Its Russian Roulette. You don't die later. Or not feel good and say I've had too much. You usually die as your breathing it in. If not you die within 2 seconds of finishing "the hit."  The experts want to call this huffing. The kids don't believe its huffing. As adults we tend to lump many things together. But it doesn't fit here. And that's why its more accepted. There is no chemical reaction. no strong odor. It doesn't follow the huffing signals. Kyle complained a few days before he died of his tongue hurting. It probably did. The propellant causes frostbite. If I had only known.  

If you want to read the whole email it can be found at www.snopes.com/toxins/dustoff.asp 

The email and a lot of more information can be found at this website.  Just wanted to inform u all on another.."unknown killer"

     This is just my opinion.  I don't think Tom Cruise had any right  "bashing" Brooke Shields for taking anti-depressants for post partum.  If you have never suffered through this than I don't feel you should be able to "bash" anyone on the subject.  Tom has never had his hormornes go wacky due to pregnancy and birth and never will so how does he know if Brooke was being "weak".   For Kate's sake I hope that if these two ever decide to have children that she doesn't suffer from Post partum.  The can only imagine the feeling of wanting to hurt yourself or worse your child.  It must be horrible.  My sister had post-partum and I can remember her calling me crying and begging me to come over before she did something horrible to her children.  I am very grateful that she was WOMAN enough to admit that she had a PROBLEM and told us (her family) and seen a DR.  She was put on medication and slowly taken off.  Medication was never permanant, but the changes that we seen in her after she started taking it were amazing.  Her kids are 4 and 5 and she is completely off of her meds and has been for quite sometime.  I am scared to think what could have happened had she thought that meds were just a "way out."   

As far as the lady with the bi-polar child.  I feel for you.  I was a Nurses Assistant for 5 years in a hospital.  I worked on the cancer floor but because we were never full we got alot of different patients.  I remember one patient who had been diagnosed with bi-polar and was a frequent patient on our floor.  She would come in because she didn't take the medication that she was supposed to take and was completely out of control.  After getting her back on her meds and "stabalized" she was the sweetest person to talk to and a great person to be around.  Now 3 years later I no longer work at this hospital but have just moved into a new apt and my neighbor has the same "symptoms"  Unfortunately she has a lil boy living with her and I am always hearing screaming and crying coming from their house.  I see the woman in trances standing outside her front door and have numerously seen her "looking" in my windows.   

I am torn on the subject.  Yes I do believe that as Americans we want a "Quick Fix" to everything and that some cases can be treated differently and don't need the use of medicine, but there are definitely situations and mental illnesses that need professional help and also the use of medication.   

I wish you the best of luck with your daughter and i hope that no matter what is "barked" at you on this message board that you will continue to help your daughter and stand up for her.  U are her mother and u are the one who has seen and dealt with her firsthand and only you know what u are up against.  My prayers are with you and your family.  I do believe that through prayer ALL things are possible. 

GOD BLESS!!!!! 

    I just watched the show and had to share my opinion on this topic.  I am due to have a C-section next friday and I plan on breast feeding my child.  I have a 3 year old and I also breast fed him.  I do understand that some people feel awkward seeing a woman breastfeed but that is what the woman's breast is for.  It is natural to nurse.  Sorry guys but our breasts are not just there for you sexual pleasure. 

   I don't believe that a woman should have to get up from dinner in a restaurant and sit in a bathroom stall to nurse.  That's like me telling the person that it bothers to take their plate of food into the bathroom and eat it in there.  That is just disgusting.  On the show the woman who was against it said.."I'm not asking you to rub your breast on the toilet before putting it in your child's mouth."  Well to that I wouldn't be asking you to rub your food on the toilet either but you still wouldn't want to eat while sitting in a stall.  Why should a baby have to?  They have just as many rights as a grown adult when it comes to eating. 

Now I will admit that when I nursed before and when I nurse this time that I will cover myself with a light blanket.  But I had encountered some people who felt that even that wasn't good enough.  Their remark was.."i know what is going on under there and I think that is gross."  Well at that moment they didn't have to stop to make the comment and they also could have looked the other way.  In no way was my breast exposed.  I think we as American's need to realize that a woman has every right to feed her child anywhere that she is whether it be with a bottle or with her breast.  We aren't doing it to flaunt ourselves or show off our breasts..(at least that was never my intention) we are simply supplying nourishment to our child.  Whats the big deal...if I wasn't breast feeding but had on a low cut top showing cleavage and really short shorts..I probably wouldn't get any complaints.  So leave me alone when i am trying to feed my child!!!!! 

   I am in no way trying to start an arguement with anyone.  I was just a little bothered by one of your remarks.  "IF you honestly believe everything you read, for instance that woman was actually made from Adam's rib, then maybe you don't have a problem being told what to do by your man."  I do firmly believe this because it is in the BIBLE.  And I wholeheartedly believe the bible.  With that said, I am in no way a doormat to my husband.  I choose to do all the laundry and cook all the meals but that is because I stay home with our kids.  It's the least I can do for him.  But when he gets home if I haven't felt well or had a rough day and dinner isn't made there is definitely no fights.  He is more than willing to come home and make dinner or at least help with making dinner.  He understands that just because I am a "Stay at home MOM" doesn't mean I sit around all day and watch soaps or the DR Phil show.  I actually record the show and watch it later in the night while I am in bed.  And just another note...Woman actually means.."from man" so yes dear you were made from man.  God created Eve WITH Adam's rib.  If you weren't made from man what were you made from??  Just a question.  I am happy that you are married to a caring individual and that he is willing to help.  But just because I believe what you don't doesn't mean that My husband isn't willing to help.  He is more than willing.  We share all the household cleaning equally.  Yes during the week I keep the house neat and clutter free, but come the weekend we are BOTH cleaning the house.  I wish you the best of luck in your marriage and GOD BLESS 

   Not sure I could have said it better myself.  Amen for husbands like ours and I hope that maybe one day the husbands that believe their wives were put on earth to treat them like kings wake up and face reality.  Because it is inevitable that one day their wives will wake up and realize that they don't have to put up with it.   

GOD BLESS