Quote From: shellyeeThe same things keep coming up over and over. What I have learned from this is people hear exactly what they want to hear, even if it is something you never said at all. And when they find themselves with their back against the wall, immaturity insues. So, here goes;
1. I have the show on tape. I was the one sitting the stage speaking and so I am the only one who knows what I think. Not only that, I know what goes on before and during taping. So really, nobody can tell me about me or how I think. I know better than any of you. I can guarentee it.
2. The first thing out of my mouth was "I am not against breastfeeding". I am actually PRO-breastfeeding, very much. I made a very big point out of saying that. That seems to have been lost on a lot of you.
3. At no time did I tell anyone to go feed in the bathroom. Dr. Phil and Syanorra discussed it, but I never told anyone they had to feed their child in the restroom. I have the tape- I can prove it. HOWEVER- SOME women act as though the mere act of stepping into a restroom renders their entire body and the child totally unsanitary. That is ridiculous. Thus my comment about wiping the breast in the toilet seat. A breast doesn't suddenly become unsanitary because of a change of rooms. They taped me in front of a woman breastfeeding her child at an outdoor cafe on the street. Their were car fumes, and tire noize, and horns, and planes overhead (we were near Burbank airport). I doubt the table was "sanitary". Not much difference really. But let's not say I said things I never did, ok? That's being a trouble maker.
4. Syanorra said she should get to do anything she wants anytime, and I said it would be nice if people respected each others feeling and COMPROMISED. That's all I asked for, compromise. If you parents are teaching your kids that it's ME ME ME all the time, well, maybe you should to talk to my Mom and Dad, because I think they did a better job.
5. To the people who feel it just necessary to attack me on a personal level- I am too ugly, I am going to hell, I am insane, on and on. Those are things people say when they have nothing to say. That is how grade schoolers fight, and you are supposed to be parents. You can't really be trying to hold yourself over me as the "superior" with such childishness, are you? You are someone I don't even know behind a computer screen. All you have are your words. Try not to sound like your infants. And please teach your children better behavior than you exhibit, or you will end up back on Dr. Phil while he retrains your ill mannered children.
6. I am well aware that people get over upset when they are told things that they know are the truth, but it is still something they don't want to hear. SOOOOOO many woman posted here how it was 100% possible to breastfeed with discretion that it only proves that the women who do it "all out" are doing it only to prove a point and make a spectacle of themselves. That's the way so many people are doing things these days- it's all about me, you don't matter at all. Just read the posts. I think I proved my point.
You mention you have the show on tape. Hmmm so do I. And actually I watched it again just so I could be sure about what I write here.
1. Yes you did in fact state that you were not against breastfeeding. Although on numerous occasions Dr Phil asked you what bothered you about breastfeeding in public and all you could respond with was..It isn't attractive. Breastfeeding was not intended to be attractive. It was intended to do the obvious...feed a baby.
2. The feeding a baby in the bathroom comment did come up. U didn't make it initially but you commented on it. U said.."I'm not asking you to rub your boob on the toilet before putting it to your child's mouth" Well no one would ask you to rub your sandwich on the toilet but I guarantee that you still would not want to sit in a sticky bathroom and eat. Am I right?? Babies sense of smell does work. They can smell the stench just like the next person. Not to mention..sitting on a toilet sit isn't the most comfortable and if a mother isn't comfortable and baby can sense it making the nursing situation even harder. I guess on that note you could argue that one should pump. Well that isn't always an option. I tried pumping and got nothing. Also tried to be "Considerate" and tried formula and my son refused it along with the bottle. He didn't even take a pacifier. He sucked his thumb...hmm he must of liked the skin feeling.
3. I am in no way teaching my child that it is all about me or him. I do on this part agree that if one is going to breastfeed that there is no reason that the breast should be completely exposed at any one time and that a light blanket can be placed over the feeding baby. But honestly I don't think even that would be good enough for you. U still wouldn't be seeing anything unattractive, but the thought that I was in a restaurant with my child feeding even though he was completely covered..i feel would still bother you.
I am expecting my second child in a week and yes I will nurse. I don't think it is all about me. I do believe that my child has a right to eat when he is hungry. Don't we all have that right?? I will be discreet about it (Cover myself and him with a blanket) but I am not going to lock myself in my house, sit in my car, or in a bathroom stall just because someone doesn't like the IDEA of me feeding my child with my breast.
