I have 2 kids from a previous. I am now remarried and a 3 month old from this new marriage. My first 2 kids show no respect for their step-dad. He is constantly finding things that are always wrong with what they do. They feel as he is always picking on them. I feel as he is picking on them constantly for nick pick things. But as far as the respect I do feel that they need to be punished for that. My husband and I do not agree upon the punishment, left up to him they would be back handed. I don't believe in that. But everything that I have tried to do to make them learn how to be respectful doesn't work. They are 9 and 12. When they are with their father he lets them do whatever and doesn't have no set boundaries for them. At my house we have rules and chores and boundaries which they totally blow things off when they are told to do something. Granted things aren't always perfect and some days go well. But anymore my husband all that we do the whole time that they are here is argue about they way they behave and being so disrespectful.. What do I do before this destroys my life. I don't know how much more of the stress that I can take from this.
