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September 21, 2005, 6:04 pm PDT

Compromise

I had a similar situation with my wedding.  I could not choose between the beach wedding or the church wedding.  I spent 18 months planning the big wedding.  I loved every minute of it but my husband does not like being the center of attention.  A big wedding scared him.  I also felt the wedding was turning into a party and losing its meaning.  3 months before the wedding my husband and I invited two friends to FL and got married on the beach.  We told our parents and a few close friends.  3 months later we went through with the church wedding as well.  My husband was happy and so was I.  I have no regrets.  And after my parents got over the shock they understood as well and were very happy for us.  On the plus side we have 2 anniversaries to celebrate.
 
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September 28, 2005, 4:10 pm PDT

Organization

I have 2 children ages 8 and 4.  I have been a working mom since my first was 4 months old.  The key to it all in organization and priorities.  I am a full time elementary teacher and going for my masters.  My husband works 50+ hours a week.  I have come to terms that during the week it is my job to make sure my kids are picked up from school, get to their after school activities and homework is done.  My children have chores they do every night.  Between the three of us we get all of the household chores done and get ready for the next day with plenty of time to play  a game and relax.  Our family lives for the weekends.  One day my husband and I switch on and off to give each other time with the children and time to spend doing things by ourselves.  Sunday is family day.  I feel I am able to spend plenty of time with my children as well as giving it all to my career.  I also feel I am teaching my children responsibility and family values.   
 
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September 29, 2005, 1:26 pm PDT

Working Moms

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WOW, a full-time working mother and a father who is working 50 hours a week! 

Perhaps a strange question but do you have time to prepare  dinner and eat together, and what with all the other things at home? 

I work 20 hours a week , my husband full-time,  and our childern are 15 and 17, don't you have the feeling that you miss a lot from the childern??  

I stayed at home untill the kids were in school, and I loved that, I did not want to miss all the things they learned during the first few years. 

I want to say that you must very proud that you can manage your family that way, because I could not do that like you!! 

greetings from the Netherlands, 

Karin 

  

I just have to say every minute I spend with my kids is precious.  I feel because my time is limited I don't take any of it for granted.  All of my cooking is done with my son.  On Sunday evenings we prepare most of the meals for the week.  I love that time with him.  It also makes it easier during the week.  I just pop the meals in the oven.  My daughter and I have spent many hours talking about life while doing laundry and cleaning the bathrooms.  To my children these don't seem like chores but quality time with mom.  I also do fun things with them as well, but I try to use every moment I have.  I am very organized and don't have a large home.  I see these moms with these huge houses that spend so much time cleaning it.  For me I am not home enough. A small home means less cleaning and less money.  It also forces us to go outside a lot.  It just works for us.
 
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November 29, 2006, 4:10 pm PST

General Advice

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Well let me start off by saying that it is only the 3rd month of school and my kids have got letters sent home for head lice...yuk!  I checked my childrens hair and guess what they have it. I have to do major cleaning on top of that a birthday party for my daughter and check three heads. I am so frustrated. How come some peoples kids never get this. My older sister has never gotten it and she is around us alot. I hate this SO much! Has anyone ever had this problems? I need the best way to rid of those nits....nasty!!! My oldest daughter has such thick hair I would hate to cut it. It is so frustrating that I even cussed at my kids and started crying. Any advice on how to make this easier process. Back to my cleaning... :( HELP!!!!!!!!!

Lice is a very common thing.  I have been a teacher for many years and have two children in school.  First of all you don't need to go through all the trouble of cleaning the drapes and putting stuffed animals is a bag for 7 days.  Just wash all of their bedding and follow the hair treatment products directions.  Lice cannot live off of hair.  A way to prevent lice is by putting your kids hair up and putting hairspray , or gel if it is a boy, in it.  It is more difficult for lice to stick to hair that is oily or sticky.  Lice love clean hair, so the more you wash the easier it will be to stick to it.  Also talk to your kids about sharing hats and brushes.  They are more likely to get it at a friend's house than school.   Good Luck.
 
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November 29, 2006, 4:21 pm PST

Arguing Over Money

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We fight all the time about money i think it is because we are in debt and don't know how to handle it.  my husband payed off two if his credit card and i want to pay off mine but don't have the disciple.  My parents are allways worried about us.  We have been in this situation too many time.  my husband figures if we have kids we will be in debt again so who cares please help?
First of all once you are married it should no longer be his and hers.  You are a team and together you have dept and together you need to find a way to get out of it.  The first thing to do is to make a budget and plan about what your bills are and what you spend your money on.  Together agree on what you are going to spend things on and priorities your needs and wants.  Kids won't put you in dept but if you don't have a budget or an idea of what you can and can't spend your kids are going to be spoiled and you are going to be broke. 
 
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