Messages By: lisaellyn

Please help....my daughter is 10 and started middle school this year. I cannot get her to care about anything. This covers her room, schoolwork, friends, punishment, incentive, her clothing. She is a pretty even tempered kid with no outstanding issues, unless you consider her younger twin sister and brother. She is incredibly smart, (she skipped first grade), but we don't push her at all. I have had the mantra...the easy way and the right way....as part of our normal life routine. She takes the easy way every time. I really don't nag her, I know it sounds like I do, it's just that she is so irresponsible. We talk to her, punish her, encourage her, praise her...nothing. She is not miserable, I don't think. All of this behavior may be normal for her age and transition, but I need to work through this with her and teach her how to pull out of this before she sits back and it becomes part of her. I just feel like I cannot get through. Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't know what to do.