Quote From: l_oving
Everyone needs help when in a marriage because "in a marriage there will be tribulations."
There is a true beauty in a united, happy family. Family life today, however, has come under severe pressures. In some countries persons even ask, "Can the family survive?" There is a free book called, "The Secret of Family Happiness" that I would like to give to interested ones. This book is published to show that we have every reason for confidence in the success of the family arrangement. It will point you to the finest source of counsel and guidance for solving family problems. I sincerely hope it will contribute to the happiness of your family. There are only two keys to a lasting and happy marriage; love and respect for one another. Two imperfect people are coming together to live under the same roof to try to make a marriage "perfect". Please remember that when times get tough, "in a marriage there will be tribulations."
What ever the situation is in your marriage, do not be distressed. For what is happening in your marriage is likely the same in others. So don' t be discouraged. There are ways to make the marriage work, even after 1 year or 30 years (or more)! First know that domestice violence begins in the heart and mind; the way one acts begins with how one thinks. (James 1:14, 15). To stop the violence, whether pysical, emotional, or sexual, the abuser needs to transform his way of thinking. Is that possible, you ask? Yes. God's Word has the power to change people. It can uproot even "strongly entrenched" destructive views. (2 Corinthians 10:4). Accurate knowledge of the Bible principles for married couples can help produce so complete a change in people that they are said to put on a new personality. "Husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." (Ephesians 5:28). The bible also says that a husband should assign his wife "honour as to a weaker vessel." Wives are admonished "to love their husbands" and to have "deep respect" for them. Surely no God-fearing husband can truthfully argue that he really honours his wife if he assaults her physically, verbally, or sexually. And no wife who screams at her husband, addresses him sarcastically, or constantly scolds him can say that she truly loves and respects him. The bible condems "enmities, strife,...fits of anger". Therefore, anyone claiming to be a Christian who repeatedly and unrepentantly gives in to violent fits of anger, perhaps including physical abuse of spouse or children, will not go without being punished. If you need assistance in your marriage, then chapter 12 of this free book addresses the concern of overcoming damaging problems in a marriage.
The mental and emotional makeup and the upbringing of each partner are different. Couples often disagree and it takes time to address such matters, but take heart! "God is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves." Most married couples are able to face such problems and work out mutually acceptable solutions. This shows that the coming together will actually become a complement of one another, highlighting one anothers strengths. So it is not the time to give up, you've worked so hard to get to where you are now. It is just time to improve. If you feel broken at heart or need help to cope with the anxieties of your marriage, there is hope. "God is near." He understands how difficult your family situation is. (1 Peter 5:6, 7). The communication in a marriage is the most vital thing, yet the most hardest. If you would like further assistance for your marriage, don't hesitate to inquire about the free book. It will help you to recognize the problems and how to apply the solutions. It will give great insight into your marriage and help mend it to make it even more than better. Please let me know if this is of interest to you.
Sadly, sacred writings have been misused and put women and children in danger at the hands of men.
Religion and some teachings have been part of the institutional abuse of women and children.
Women and children have been taught to be subservient to men and most given a" less than status."
Regarding Divorce, Deal Breakers, Broken Marriages .............
A battered women who leaves is not the one breaking any marriage vows. Rather, the marriage was already broken by the man who ignored his vows to love and cherish. Hasn't he put asunder what God brought together?
Women deserve better...............God wants more for you, too.............get out and leave for a whole, happy and healthy life.
