Messages By: lucygirl

I read Catskat3 and ahve to tell you that you are not alone. I have been divorced for 12 years and keep the weight on to protect myself from relationships. I am so programmed to feel worthless that I even put off making new friends--how can anyone want to be around me. I feel they won't find out if I don't let them close. Even at 50 I have never told my family about my brother's friend and my principal from grade one. They didn't believe me when I tried to tell them then, they don't want to hear it now! Sometimes therapy just brings it all up and I have to relive it and I don't want to. The way I deal with it is to say yes, it happened, but I am a big girl now and I determine my destiny... which doesn't work well, but it is the best way I know. I just do not trust people, no one, not my kids, not my parents, not really even my good friends. I am still jumpy.. my kids are always amazed at how fast I can move when I hear a noise! I read life lessons and then had to put it down, not able to deal with it alone! I am trying to do it again with Dr.Phil's weight loss book, but I can only take it so far because I am so afraid to be without the protection of all the fat!

I had a dog rip my face apart when I was five, the same kind of dog, a dalmation! To keep a dog that hurts your child is nuts. Your child will face the world with scars all over her face. Let me tell you how much fun that is! I am now fifty and still have people ask what the scars are from. How dare you choose an animal over your own child. You need to grow up. A dog is a dog, not your child! I have had dogs all my life, never a dalmation though, and if any of them had ever threatened a person. let alone my child, it would have been gone. Don't say I don't love my pets, I do, but I put my kids first! For me it would be either the dog goes, or take the dog with you on your way out the door! lucygirl

When I see those little girls with the fake teeth, the fake tan, the make-up to cover their real faces and the practised "poise' , I cringe. How can all that " fake" make them feel good? They are taught they are only good if they use all the fake stuff to make them good; they are only good if they are not real. I read on one post where a mom says her 5 year old is far above other five year olds, well every mom thinks that! She has more poise than other 5 year olds; since when was it a requirement that a 5 year old be poised, or able to give practised answers to pre-selected questions? I had a beautiful daughter, and have a beautiful granddaughter but I would rather that beautiful little girl feel like her parents loved her, she had incredible worth as an individual, and she knew her true self. How can you know your true self when everything about, and around, you is fake? I suppose this is one of those things where the parents will scream to the heavens that they are doing it for their children, but how does an 18 month old child, or a 2 or 3 year old, know that they want this, or that they will like this? If it was a teen aged girl, maybe I would fall for that, but a younger child, no way.. besides if my daughter had wanted to do something I did not approve of, or I thought was damaging to her in any way, I would have said no; that is what a parent is supposed to do!