Messages By: nikki_pvn

You seem to be angry at the whole world!, if you have agreed to be on a show then you can expect people to give THEIR opinnion and thoughts on the matter. 

You want to control everything, what makes you think that if someone does not have children of their own that they cannot "give advice", even these people were once children themselves and might just know first hand what it is like to live with an overprotective parent. Because you have a child(children) does not make you the most qualified person in the world, and I suggest that you stop being so rude to people on this board who are genuinly only trying to help and perhaps help you  see your situation from another angle. 

Yes, I do have a child and I am aware of the dangers and also fear things like most parents do, but I realise that I do not want my son to grow up the way I did, fearing everything and anything. Because my mother by being 'overprotective' ensured that her state of mind was at peace, while I could not enjoy a normal childhood but waited for the day when I would be 'grown up'  and free. That is not a happy childhood and one that I wish for my son. You are already afraid of your manner towards your daughter (otherwise you would not have been on the show)?, so as others respect your problem fully I suggest you don't vent in such a negative way. 

Have you read what you wrote?   Your first sentence is beyond belief !!! 

Guess what, Brandi is alive and her family will always "have her". Daniel is not, his family will never have him apart from memories, and you have the audacity to ask "who's had the real loss here" 

Shame on people like you that  see a family's worst nightmare and grief as something to ridicule!!!! 

It is a tragedy to all, but a young life has been taken.  

In all honesty, contrary to your observations on how "Sheila acted", I can only say that in a situation like hers (theirs), I would have been worse! 

Your wife is disrespectful and hurtful because your tolerence allows it.  The reason that she 'uses' for being in contact with this other man, ( " she likes hearing how miserable he is doing" ), is simply not true. 

You have been married for a relatively short time,  now is the time that you both should be happy and together working towards your future goals.   

Sometimes there are people who after long and abusive relationship find it difficult to 'adjust' when  their new partner is supportive, loving and respectful, but with time and working together it usually turns out for the best.   You rarely hear of anyone that has been subjected to hurt in the past running back to 'contact' the abuser to see if they are miserable, but they focus on their new hapinness.      I don't believe that this was the case with your wife, she can and that is why she does it. 

Make it clear that you do not wish this other person in your life, and that his 'misery'  is not you consern. Don't allow this to continue. 

Best of luck  

Let his "body rest" out of your heart, your purse, your home and your life. 

Seriously, why would you want to spend another second with this parasite! 

Good luck! 

You are absolutely right! 

I think it is time that people stop 'advising' other people how to cope with their pain. Brandi is alive and whatever pain her family is going through they know that they still have their daughter, Daniel has left his family with memories and alot of pain. God forbid anyone should go through that. 

When companies start to develope cars with minds of their own, it will be a great relief, we'll be able to sue them for every parking ticket, dui, and even murder! 

 Until then, every driver will be accountable for the 'cars' actions. 

It's great to see that so many of you have quit smoking, congratulations! 

I would so much appreciate any advice. I have tried everything, but I guess my willpower is 0. 

The worst thing is that I am a very determined person and have no problem in my schedules and obligations, and yet I am so frustrated with my "i cannot live without a cigarette' attitude. 

I'm mostly surrounded by non smokers, to whom I cannot really turn to for support or advice because on this topic I am usually berated and this makes me feel even more frustrated! so I naturally smoke more. I hate the fact that I lie to myself, I hate the fact that as a mature adult I'm always saying to myself " tommorow morning I'm going to give up" and I never do. 

Everything else in my life is great, family, work etc, but this smokong is just wearing me down, I know it's wrong and I just cannot stop! 

Any advice would be so much appreciated! 

Yes, people make choices with what they have. No manufactures sell you a car then tell you how to drive it, same with guns etc.. 

This is an example of how 'crimepro'  responds to 'awfulcute's post. 

'Crimepro' you are so 'academic'  This is a public debate, meaning anyone can participate, and that is what people are doing ,debating on the information from the show, newspapers,etc. This is not a courtroom and certainly not your 'chatroom' where you feel compelled to tell people based on 'their'education' whether they should 'debate'. or not.