Messages By: brendakay

My son is in the third grade now.  He started being bullied by two boys in kindergarten.  I had told the teachers, the principal and the bus driver that this was occuring.  The aids on the playground just tell him to "go play and don't bother me" when he tells them he is being bullied on the playground.  I have talked to the one child's parents (they live one street over from us).  The response from the parents was "That's my boy!  Way to go son!  You're a tough one!"  The bullying has continued for four years.  The school has an incident on tape from a bus ride home.  They also have a tape from the playground.  My son was pushed down by one boy. He was held down on the ground while the other boy hit and kicked him.  When my son hit back to get away from them the aid told him if he hit someone again he would be suspended.  I contacted the principal.  He asked the boys if they did it. (it is on tape but I am not allowed to view the tape because of privacy issues because of the other children shown on the tape). Their response was "Yeah, we did it".  He made my son shake their hands and promise that they would all be friends from now on.  The bullying continued.  I finally called the principal's boss and explained the situation.  She got the teacher and the counsler at the school involved. The principal was mad!  He called me and told me that my son was "playing me" and none of it ever happened.  I told him there were tapes (which he had seen), the other kids in school said it was happening, the kids themselves admitted to the principal that they did it and I have seen it myself over the summer (he lives one street over from us!).

Now his third grade teache is a new young teacher.  The principal has told her that we are making up the stories about him being bullied. She takes away recess from the whole class EVERYDAY if even one child talks out of turn in the class.  My son gets punished and gets rewards taken away from him because of  the behavior of someone else in the class.  I have e-mailed her, called her, written her and asked it she had ANY discipline problems with my child.  She always tells me there are none and he is a wonderful but quiet child.  Well, why does he keep getting punished in her classroom?  She denies everything that he tells me.  At conference she stated "Well, sometimes it is not easy to believe what he tells you because he is not always truthful so don't believe what he comes home and tells you".  The other children in the class agree with my son.  I am ready to send a recorder to school with my son like the mom on the show.  I totally believe these things go on.  My other two children had similiar problems at this school. 

I personally witnessed one teacher in a second grade child's face in the hallway right outside the office, finger in his face, screaming "You're stupid!  You do know that right?"  She was know for slamming doors and yelling all day long.  The principal knew it but said he had never witnessed it himself so it didn't happen.  He needs to retire!!!!!!!! Yes, these things DO go on in the schools and NO it is not always because the child does not get discipline at home!