Messages By: susanashe

NO one has cast stones at Jerry.  Unfortunately for Kayla she had to grow up with the feelings of insecurity that comes with not knowing why your father could not love you enough to tough it out.  I know that in the land down under you might go on a little "walk about" here or there but hopefully you remember that you have children that you created. 

Go easy on the little sheila- she did the best she could too.

I don't know you (although some people will probably think you were "bribed" to write these things... ha!) but I appreciate SO MUCH your understanding and compassion!  YOU make the sense that it seems like so many other people can't grasp and for the life of me I don't understand why!  Not that anyone will believe me, but during the time that Jerry was still in the kids' lives yet being so irresponsible and neglectful of them (and before Glori found out about the drug and alcohol abuse he was introducing to his son!) he was treated better by our family than 99% of families would've treated him... I guarantee it!  It's all because we knew and loved the "old Jerry" and prayed to find that person again but it was not to be and I only wish I could believe that there is a chance of it ever happening. Your thoughts are so in tune with Glori's situation. I understand that you're living it also..... and I'm sorry for that.  You, unlike some of the people posting messages, know the pain and helplessness that a mother feels when she faces her child who misses their father and doesn't understand why they don't want to see them.  People accuse Glori of spewing hatred in Kayla and Glori spent all of Kayla's (and Micah's) childhood years biting her tongue for THEIR sake!  Kayla is an adult now and deserved her chance to express her anger and pain.  Glori didn't have to fill her mind with lies.... Jerry's actions (or lack OF) spoke for themselves. Maybe what some people saw was only the anger and they couldn't see deep enough to see the underlying pain that was bringing it on.  No matter how much you try to protect and shelter your son, he too might be very angry one day and wish to confront his father and express that........ and he has every right to!!  The children can't speak for themselves when they're that young but once they're adults they have spent most of their lives EARNING that right!  And, as a loving mother, I don't think it would be right to deny them that or criticize for being "disrespectful"!  PLEASE!

Once again, I greatly appreciate your understanding and compassion.  I am forwarding your comments to Glori and Kayla, in case they don't get on here  to see it. They need the positive input and understanding.  THANK YOU and I pray for you and your son!  He'll be fine.... he obviously has a strong mother!  :-)

He may well be right.  This world is more messed up than what I even thought was mentioned in the Bible and it has got it all!

You sound just educated enough to soon be dangerous!  (Jez kiddink....I hope you do someone some good some day. )

My point is that you don't know the answer either.  I said in an earlier post that Jesus said, "Come to me, all ye that are heavy-laden and I will give you rest."  Bottom line.

And I believe Him. 

Oh, BTW............alcoholism is  A CHOICE OF BEHAVIOR that then can lead to disease.  TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR 100% of YOUR LIFE!

At some point, one CHOOSES to go buy a bloody beer!

Stop the blame-game.  Because if one doesn't take responsibility FOR the behavior, one is then powerless to CHANGE the behavior.  Alcoholism  IS NOT "a disease".  Sheeeesh. 

NOW....before half the world jumps on me and tries to trounce me, it is fairly obvious that when a child LIVES IN AN ENVIRONMENT where someone is in the grips of the drink, of course, it affects them.  But at least in the early stages....it is a choice of behavior.  A choice of what to drink. One with alcoholics surrounding them might fall prey FASTER, and then of course, it TOXIFIES the body and wham....it takes over.  One drink and your mind is shot....gone....and then you no longer have power over taking another and another and another. 

So don't try to kick some preachers butt (America's new favorite past time) because believe me, THEY HAVE SEEN IT  A L L !  :o)

He may well be right.  This world is more messed up than what I even thought was mentioned in the Bible and it has got it all!

You sound just educated enough to soon be dangerous!  (Jez kiddink....I hope you do someone some good some day. )

My point is that you don't know the answer either.  I said in an earlier post that Jesus said, "Come to me, all ye that are heavy-laden and I will give you rest."  Bottom line.

And I believe Him. 

Oh, BTW............alcoholism is  A CHOICE OF BEHAVIOR that then can lead to disease.  TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR 100% of YOUR LIFE!

At some point, one CHOOSES to go buy a bloody beer!

Stop the blame-game.  Because if one doesn't take responsibility FOR the behavior, one is then powerless to CHANGE the behavior.  Alcoholism  IS NOT "a disease".  Sheeeesh. 

NOW....before half the world jumps on me and tries to trounce me, it is fairly obvious that when a child LIVES IN AN ENVIRONMENT where someone is in the grips of the drink, of course, it affects them.  But at least in the early stages....it is a choice of behavior.  A choice of what to drink. One with alcoholics surrounding them might fall prey FASTER, and then of course, it TOXIFIES the body and wham....it takes over.  One drink and your mind is shot....gone....and then you no longer have power over taking another and another and another. 

So don't try to kick some preachers butt (America's new favorite past time) because believe me, THEY HAVE SEEN IT  A L L !  :o)