Messages By: irishmom

I am sort of sitting on the fence for this one.  

On one hand it is a very natural thing; a way to for a mother and child to develope a bond that will last a lifetime (or is it life time?). But I must admit that a few weeks ago, I saw a woman breastfeeding at the public swimming pool, and it bothered me. Is that hygenic? I didnt enjoy seeing her just take out her breast and begin her babie's feeding.  

When my baby is born I will breastfeed, but I will not do it in public. I do not want people staring at me. It is not any of thier business, but I respect women who can do it, and not be bothered by the amount of people examining her, and probably judging her. 

The only good thing about my situation is I haven't married him, but we do have a 4 year old boy. 

I depend on him for everthing, I had a job, now I don't, I had a car, now I don't, I had a life. I also have a 19 year old son and a 22 year old daughter, they are no longer allowed in my life. How do I leave with nothing, how do I stay and see my little boy turn into his dad.  He has told me he will take my son, the son he didn't even want.  I need HELP Please. 

Today's show was completely unrealistic. 

It is women who constantly try to dominate and control men.  They nag, are full of tips on what you could do to make their lives better, and threaten that you will never see the kids again if they don't get what they want. 

The men in today's show do not want to be married.  They will feel nothing but relief when their wives leave. 

so here is the issue.... My wife and I have been together for 16 years and married for 11. I love her to death and we have 2 beautiful children in San Diego. Sounds good but here is the issue. The schools here suck and it is sooooooo expensive here to live.

She is a stay at home day care provider (55 hours a week) and makes just enough for us to be 700 in the hold every month. She is getting another job at night 15-20 hours a week just so we can live hand to mouth. We have a couple 100 grand in equity and I want to move to a place that is better for education and for family life. She could stay home with the kids and never have to work again but there is a catch holding this whole modern day utopia from happening. Her mom and her need to say in San Diegono matter how good the benefits of moving are.

Her standard response to moving is that she will NEVER leave her “FAMILY”, her mom basically (I thought her husband and children were her family) and I will never leave San Diego no matter how bad is.

Her parents are functional alcoholics (love them to death but they are what they are) her and her mom are total co-dependants and I just wish for once she would pick her true family(the one’s she gave birth to and the one she said I do to) first consideration. I just needed to vent

Thanks

Any suggestions on dealing with it….. God would I love Dr. Phil to give her a call and ask her

“So you priority is family and location but now your working 75 hours a week so you see neither your family or the location,,,,,,   HOW”S THAT WORKING FOR YA?”

Your arguing about money is because you don't have any.  Did the two of you REALLY make a concious decision or was there hesitancy on either of your parts.  Sounds like this was done without really realizing the impact that would ensue.   You don't cut a life line that is needed.  When you can't pay for essentials - then that is proof that it was a Bad decision. 

My advice is too sit down look at the entire situation, and then get a full time job - maybe a different shift - so one parent is always home. 

WE ARE NOT ANIMALS AND SHOULD NOT BE ACTING AS SUCH,  WHIPPING OUT A BREAST FOR YOUR CHILD TO SUCK ON WHENEVER THEY WANT IS NO DIFFERENT THAT THE ANIMAL WORLD.  IF WE WANT TO BE TREATED AS ADULT WOMAN THEN ACT LIKE IT, HAVE ENOUGH SELF RESPECT TO FEED IN PRIVATE OR AT LEAST DISCREETLY. YOU ARE INFRINGING ON OTHER PEOPLES RIGHTS BY DISROBING IN PUBLIC TO FEED.  YOUR RIGHTS END WHERE MINE BEGIN AND I CHOOSE NOT TO EXPLAIN ALL THIS TO LITTLE CHILDREN WHOM I HAVE WITH ME AT THE PUBLIC PLACE. WE ARE NOT ANIMALS AND IF WE WANT TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT THEN SHOW OTHER PEOPLE RESPECT OF THEIR RIGHTS BY NOT PUTTING THEM IN THIS SITUATION EMBARRASSED,UNCOMFORTABLE,SHY WHATEVER IT IS NOT NECESSARY TO FLAUNT IT BECAUSE YOU CAN.