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September 30, 2005, 5:07 pm CDT

My morals-vs-His desire

I recently found disgusting pornography on my boyfriend’s computer (I mean REALLY disgusting, completely disturbing.) I know it is only "normal" for men to take delight in porn, but I feel like I’m responsible for his obvious dissatisfaction in bed. Feeling this way makes me want to become what he desires, which means I must give up the morals I maintain as a "civilized love maker." I cannot put this past me and I think its beginning to take its toll on my sanity. Please someone help me! 

 
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September 30, 2005, 5:52 pm CDT

living together before marriage

Quote From: imawakenow

i dont understand why people are so quick to move in, have children, etc BEFORE THEY ARE MARRIED. People just dont take it seriously anymore. And then people wonder why they get hurt or are treated like crap.   :::confused::: They have an old saying that goes why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.

I'm all for living together before formalizing the engagement. 

If one's intent in marrying is only personal gain and living together is purely to "check them out first", then the marriage will probably have problems. Relationahips work when the intent of the marriage is agape (sacrificial) love. When one puts the other before themselves (and they both do it for this reason), it is highly unlikely that anything will happen to break the union. In that event where is the problem with living each other prior to marriage?  

Furthermore, in this day living together afore marriage no longer has a social stigma attached to it because it is now the norm, for the most part. 

I hope and pray that other couples share the happiness my boyfriend and I possess together, a promising relationship, a home and a life filled with love. Everything else, is mere material. 

 
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October 3, 2005, 7:22 am CDT

some advice

Quote From: cestmoi_

i have a question. ok, im 15 and i have a boyfriend. we have been dating for a little over 7 months. my mom has decided recently that im not allowed to see him at all outside of school. im not even allowed to hang out with my friends if she knows that he will be there too. her only reason for not letting me see him is that she "doesnt like him wants us to break up". but i love him & dont have any plans of breeaking up with him soon. ive tried talking to her over & over again about it & have tried convinceing her to let me hang out with him but it doesnt work. do you have any advice on what i can do to get her to let me see him again?? thanks. _michelle

Interestingly, girls are substantially more likely to say they have a "significant someone" than are boys: 38 percent of teen girls say they have a boyfriend, compared with only 20 of teen boys who say they have a girlfriend. This divergence may be due to denial (or embarrassment) on the part of the boys, but it could also be due to wishful thinking on the part of the girls. 

 

Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything and I suppose at the age of fifteen you are not completely prepared to responsibly love.  

 

 
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October 3, 2005, 10:12 am CDT

Toxic Family Relationships

Quote From: alonemom

    Hello,  i am  a 25 year old mother of 2 girls i was married for 6 years,  and relyed on my hubby for everything, because i was so very young.  We seperated 2 years ago,  and i now have a boyfriend, who also lives with me and my kids, we have been together, for 2 yrs.    Through this I have lost myself, am severly depressed,  and failed as a mother, this man that i am inlove with, is not what i imagined, a life would be.  He's an alcoholic, metally abusive, and is very mean to my kids.... 

But once again like my ex hubby i feel like i cant do it alone, he makes me feel hopeless,  I have always depended on one of theses men, so how can i ever get ahead...    My kids watch, my tears and addictions to pills etc, this is not the mother i want to be 

so lost in pennsylvania......please help 

Your most significant obligation is not to selfishly seek out a remedy to your solitude, but rather to mother your children.

  

 " i feel like i cant do it alone, he makes me feel hopeless,  I have always depended on one of theses men, so how can i ever get ahead..." 

 

You are not the hopeless one, unfortunately your children are. And inaptly they depend on their mother, who relies on an "alcoholic, metally abusive, and is very mean man" 

  

Overcome for you children. 

 

 
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October 4, 2005, 1:45 pm CDT

Why dogs are better than men

  

Hehehe... Kinda Funny!! 

You can train a dog 

Dogs understand what "no" means 

Dogs mean it when they kiss you 

You can force a dog to take a bath 

You are never suspicious of your dog's dreams 

Middle-aged dogs don't feel the need to abandon you for a younger owner 

Gorgeous dogs don't know they're gorgeous 

Dogs will also sit in the car for ages while you shop 

Dogs think you are a culinary genius 

Dogs obsess about you as much as you obsess about them 

Dogs never hog the remote control, and they never change channels when you leave the room 

Dogs miss you when you're gone 

Dogs feel guilt when they've done something wrong 

Dogs do not have problems expressing affection in public 

Dogs do not care whether you shave your legs 

Dogs are easy to buy for 

  

  

  

  

  

 
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October 7, 2005, 12:58 pm CDT

Birds and the Bees

It is true, the perfect means of protection is abstinence, but unfortunately sex is performed despite the consequences, such as HIV, AIDS, and pregnancy. Considering sex is costless and a solution to intimate desires, sex will proceed to remain as an interest and an activity in adolescents. Inaptly, the number of teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are increasing, regardless of previous tactics. The supplying of condoms in school is a means of safety, equitable to sex education.

Sex education is to inform the adolescents of the process of a new human being coming into existence and in addition often includes topics such as STD and how to avoid them, as well as methods of contraception. The purpose of sex education is to give information and likewise educate how to be safe if they inaptly decide to have adolescent sex. Similarly the aim of rendering condoms is to encourage safe sex if any sex. 

 

 
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October 7, 2005, 1:02 pm CDT

Birds and the Bees

It is true, the perfect means of protection is abstinence, but unfortunately sex is performed despite the consequences, such as HIV, AIDS, and pregnancy. Considering sex is costless and a solution to intimate desires, sex will proceed to remain as an interest and an activity in adolescents. Inaptly, the number of teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are increasing, regardless of previous tactics. The supplying of condoms in school is a means of safety, equitable to sex education.

Sex education is to inform the adolescents of the process of a new human being coming into existence and in addition often includes topics such as STD and how to avoid them, as well as methods of contraception. The purpose of sex education is to give information and likewise educate how to be safe if they inaptly decide to have adolescent sex. Similarly the aim of rendering condoms is to encourage safe sex if any sex. 

 

 
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October 7, 2005, 1:56 pm CDT

sounds like someone needs a humor

Quote From: ninjabride

A husband shouldn't have to be trained. The right man does understand NO, does mean it when he kisses you, takes a bath (or shower), and thinks we're culinary geniuses.  Gracious, if they don't do all that listed above, then why in the world would you want them in the first place?

I just wanted to let it be known that I don’t need a new man, alternatively maybe you need a sense of humor. My message was a joke, hence the "Hehe...Kinda funny!" So to the offended unhumorous lady suggesting I needed a new man, I think its fair to suggest you need a humor.. 

 
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October 14, 2005, 11:30 am CDT

the future depends on what we do in the present

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I totally agree about getting out, but what if you cannot work to support yourself?  I filed for disability almost 3 years ago and have stayed with the creep while watching him cheat on me with women on the internet.  He's saying now he's dumping me on my daughter with whom we have been living with, but now she wants her house back!  My court date was 1-1/2 mos ago and now I wait again.  What if they say no?  And with my condition I have very high medical bills.  Everything is not cut and dry and so easy.  I already tried the suicide thing, but I hate now to see him win!  Working is not an option... I tried!  I just can't do it to myself, or anyone else again.  The pain is too bad and the meds make it so I cannot think.  But disability is so screwed up... my lawyer says people who really need it are denied, and those who don't do.  And I would only get $700/mo!  But I would try it just to get away from him!  I'll take any advice you have, but I feel stuck, at least until the judge makes a decision.  But he is leaving for a job next week on the east coast and says he is leaving me here!  Help me if you can!  Beg to go for the financial support in the meantime, or let him leave?  And then what?  I know where I should end up, but what is the direction I should take?  I am so confused and worried!

There are plenty of centers that provide services and promote activities to assist people with disabilities in leading productive, structured, self-directed lives.  

Let your excuses be few. 

 
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October 14, 2005, 11:33 am CDT

the future depends on what we do in the present

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I totally agree about getting out, but what if you cannot work to support yourself?  I filed for disability almost 3 years ago and have stayed with the creep while watching him cheat on me with women on the internet.  He's saying now he's dumping me on my daughter with whom we have been living with, but now she wants her house back!  My court date was 1-1/2 mos ago and now I wait again.  What if they say no?  And with my condition I have very high medical bills.  Everything is not cut and dry and so easy.  I already tried the suicide thing, but I hate now to see him win!  Working is not an option... I tried!  I just can't do it to myself, or anyone else again.  The pain is too bad and the meds make it so I cannot think.  But disability is so screwed up... my lawyer says people who really need it are denied, and those who don't do.  And I would only get $700/mo!  But I would try it just to get away from him!  I'll take any advice you have, but I feel stuck, at least until the judge makes a decision.  But he is leaving for a job next week on the east coast and says he is leaving me here!  Help me if you can!  Beg to go for the financial support in the meantime, or let him leave?  And then what?  I know where I should end up, but what is the direction I should take?  I am so confused and worried!

There are plenty of centers that provide services and promote activities to assist people with disabilities in leading productive, structured, self-directed lives.  

Let your excuses be few. 

 

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