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January 11, 2006, 9:30 am PST

Talk to your Husband first..

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Just this past Sunday my nephew flew in from Upstate NY to live with me. Last night we had a long talk and he told me that he has never felt loved, that if he overdosed on drugs nobody would even notice that he was gone. He also went on to tell me that he has been doing crack cocaine every day for the past year. He claims that how he paid for his habit is the dealers used him to deliver the drugs.

When we talked he said that he thinks he can stay away from the crack (which I personally doubt) but he could NEVER stay away from the pot. He tells me that he is going crazy without it and has to find some and get high

I am already in a situation where I am trying to save my marriage. My husband has been gone for 3 weeks on a Pilgrimage to Mecca and will be back soon.

My nephew is 20 years old, His mother ( my sister ) a year ago left his father after 25 years of marriage. His mother is now in a gay relationship ( which he does not like at all ). His father needs medication to control his "moods" and is not taking them.

If I send him back he will go right back to the drugs and be living with a father who is not normal. His father is already calling saying "If you are not back in a month I am going to quit my job and come out there and get you!! "

He wants help but I think this is over my head.

I do not want to let him down. He already has had so many disappointments in his life.

What do I do next ??

Take care of yourself, and your husband, kids are first if you have any. Maybe Counseling?

Go to al-anon. Ask your nephew to go to N/A.. many treatment centers.

It is very difficult situation.. Been thru it.

I hope the best. Take care

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January 11, 2006, 11:11 am PST

Its been so Long I forgot..

15 yrs, Except flogging the dolphin..lol

If women give oral sex to men, they have flavored condoms. Your whipped.

Also you have to reciprocate..

And then anything else, is OK.

Take your time, with women. they take longer to warm up. And do not forget to snuggle afterwords...

Sometimes I am a minuteman..sometimes not. Average size is 7

Take care. John

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January 11, 2006, 12:51 pm PST

Please: find a surogate Family..

The woman in the audience.. Is one person to keep in touch with. After detox.. and programs.. find women that has at least 5 yrs sobriety.

Dr. Phil. Thanks for the yr. you saved her life.

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January 11, 2006, 12:54 pm PST

Please: find a surogate Family..

The woman in the audience.. Is one person to keep in touch with. With 6 yrs sobriety.. After detox.. and programs.. find women that has at least 5 yrs sobriety.

Dr. Phil. Thanks for the yr. you saved her life.

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January 11, 2006, 1:17 pm PST

Shelly, not Lisa, Lisa was in the audience..

Hold on, like Mike Frey Says , Shelly

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January 11, 2006, 1:48 pm PST

Sorry Lisa, It is Lisa.

keep in touch, E-mail me... after a yr..

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January 11, 2006, 2:03 pm PST

Lisa

It will be difficult, but you can do it..

We will be friends. I`ve been in this situation b-4.. so it can not be more than that..

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January 11, 2006, 3:09 pm PST

I was an addict, Prescribed diet pills.

Since I was 13.. on and off. When I was 18 took 3, stayed up 3 days straight. These where Christmas Trees,, slang..

Phentermine : I am off of them now for 6 months.

Been drinking peppermint tea with lemon.. 1/2 to 1 gal..a day.. Flush out system.. I eat about 2 bites of onion at night. b-4 bed.. Good for addictions.. Do what works for You..

Try to drink green tea also...

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January 11, 2006, 3:23 pm PST

I forgot!!

I am exercising, bike riding, getting a sweat... Walk?jog... Eat peaches, bananas, raisens, water too. chk. with doc first..

Love John

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January 11, 2006, 4:32 pm PST

Look in ohio state, Services.. Mental health.

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My future mother in law has been an alcaholic for almost ten years. She is a wonderful person, she has tried AA, and it did not work. We have looked into rehab, but she does not have insurance, so she is unable to afford it. How do you get help, when you don't have the money to pay for it? We are all on our last leg, and really reaching out for help. We live in Ohio, so if anyone knows anywhere we could get help, it would be greatly appriciated.

They will refer you to someone.. Salvation army, some churches.... Go to search engine www.ask.com put in addictions, state. city

will give you can e-mail and ask for referrals.

Take care John

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