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October 3, 2005, 11:12 am PDT
Take your time!
Quote From: feng456k first i wanna say to those ppl writing on here to dr. phil that (as far as i know from what ive heard) he doesnt check these boards! write to him via letter and you'll have better luck.
k i need some advice please. i dont think i wanna get married cuz i dont think i will meet the right person at least until im like 40 or 50 or even older. i've always really wanted to have kids though so having chlidren is a higher priority than getting married.
so um do u think im crazy? is this a realistic future? ive heard adoption takes years and costs a lot of money. so if thats true, even if i do finally get to adopt wud i have any money left to give the child a happy childhood???
background info: im under 20, im a guy, im bi, im in university/college studying engineering first year, im volunteering for Big Brothers Big Sisters...
please any advice would be good. thanks First, I think that it is great that you volunteer with Big Brothers, Big sisters. This will give you experience with children and help you make a "well-thought-out" decision later in life as to whether adoption is right for you. Because you are still very young, it is difficult for you to predict when or if you will meet that special someone to marry. Please don't be in such a hurry in regard to your decisions about adopting. I have 6 adopted children and 2 birth children of my own so I speak from experience. Mine were all over 5 yrs old when they were adopted. Adoption is a wonderful experience IF you are prepared for it. My advice to you is to continue your studies and your volunteering and give yourself time to experience life. Only then will you be able to be the kind of parent a child deserves. Best of luck with your exciting future!
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