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Messages By: corazon1
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October 3, 2005, 4:35 pm PDT
 Quote From: jlamattery I am Jim, the father who appears in this show. I did not abuse my daughter and I am actively pursuing those who did through both an FBI and IRS investigation into The Family International. This is a pursuit that I will never retreat from, and it is one of the reasons that I appeared on the show. I joined The Family at the age of seventeen in 1970, and left the group with my wife and oldest daughter, Kerenina, in 1975. Unfortunately, my daughter's mother rejoined the group in 1975, and gave birth to Kristi, who also appears on the show, after I had left the group. Although I did not witness any abuse of children during my tenure with The Family, I was unsuccessful in convincing the divorce court that the group might use sex as a tool to gain membership, wealth, and protection, and consequently my daughters would be at risk. I fought long and hard for sole and separate custody of both children and before the divorce was finalized, my ex-wife kidnapped both daughters and fled to Thailand where their physical, sexual, and psychological abuse began. This show will hopefully illuminate some of the problems that not only my daughter, but thousands of other young adults have had in reconnecting with their extended families in efforts to stabilize their lives with education, careers, and personal relationships once they have escaped the confines of The Family International. You can visit my website at http://lamatteryresource.org for more information. Wow Jim, after watching your demeanor on the show, I fear your daughter(s) should RUN not walk away from you as fast as possible. You didn't exhibit any care or concern about what she was asking for at all! It made me very sad for her. I agree with her that you seem to only be using her to promote your own agendas whether they be financial or genuine concern about the survivors. She's your daughter and it's actually because of your own lack of judgement that these things happened to her so you at the very least owe her a sincere heartfelt apology and that's what I thought you were on the show for - for your CHILD! Instead you stammered on about your book and dodged questions about contracts and financial gain. I hope you're ashamed after watching yourself. |
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November 1, 2005, 7:27 pm PST
Quote From: callmeross Beth is a lesbian and doesn't know it. She has been forced into the straight-family-is-right world and not letting her true feelings out. I say this from experience as I am in the middle of a divorce of a 6 year relationship and three year marriage from a woman who has just discovered she is gay. My wife controlled everything, got everything, and was as emotionally and sexually (sleeping in separate rooms) unresponsive as Beth. Like Tony, I was bending over backwards to make this woman happy only to make myself miserable. I am thankful my wife discovered her "True Self" at 35 before we had children rather than 45 or 55. I haven't even watched the show yet, just the commercial, read the "The Stepford Facade" on the web, and seen their faces which says a lot. Can't wait to watch it tonight. Can't believe Dr Phil missed this one. Some deeper therapy would probably be of value for these two. This discovery has painfully cracked open my world right now, but is for the better for the both of us in the long run. I just think he wanted her to out herself. It was obviously too devastating for her. I think her intention was to take the big step and do this on national tv but ultimately couldn't go through with it. I wish Dr. Phil would have more balls in this area. The Stepford family angle is a great one and I think there are a whole host of issues that people use to cover up being gay or lesbian including perfectionism, religious zealotry (push it down, push it down), obsessive focus on career, amongst others.
Dr. Phil is so willing to call a spade a spade in other situations but weenies out when it comes to gay/lesbian issues. Like the sisters who didn't get along a couple of week's back because one was religious and the other was gay. When the religious sister said "You don't have to announce your sexuality with everything you do" or something to that effect. I was SCREAMING at the TV going but YOU DO THIS TOO! I was so hoping Dr. Phil would say well you've told us you were married to a man, you have children by a man, you wear a wedding ring, etc etc. Straight people announce their straightness all the time and it's perfectly acceptable. By doing the simple things that straight people take for granted, bringing a partner home for holiday dinner for example, gay people are told they are "announcing," or "declaring their sexuality to all," or worse "flaunting their gayness."
Dr. Phil please grow some juevos and treat gay and lesbian issues like you do everything else - you should have asked Beth how being in the closet was working for her.
Cory |
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