Messages By: wenki2

  I am a 24 year old stay at home mom with a 2 1/2 year old and a one year old. Both girls. I am in the midst of potty training my 2 year old and I can't seem to get her to go. Some people say that she'll go when she is ready, but I think she is old enough. If you ask her where she is suppose to go pee pee she will tell you on the potty. I am running out of ideas. What do I Do? 

I was so blessed to be in a position where I could stay home. I had a great job that I loved and I was sure I wouldn't stop working after having my son but I found I just couldn't leave him. It took a lot of juggling and we moved an hour away from my husband's job so we could buy a smaller, less expensive home. We gave up our second car and a lot of the extras and that made it possible but it's not possible for everyone. 

There are a lot of people who must work. Single parents don't usually have an option of staying home and some two income couples couldn't cut enough to enable someone to stay home. There are also moms who choose to work and find good day care for their kids just because that's what they need to do to let them be great moms and complete people. 

I have a sister who is an amazing parent but she never has been a stay at home mom. She and my bro-in-law decided together that both would continue to work after they had children. She's always had great daycares for her kids and the time she spends with them is truly quality time. She's a better cook and housekeeper than I am and she's every bit as good a parent as I am even though she didn't stay home with her children. If you compare my two wonderful boys to her son and daughter, you wouldn't see any difference or get the feeling that one was nurtured better than the others because they all have had love and time and parenting.  

Being a stay at home mom has it's unique blessings and problems. I've had people talk down to me after they find out I'm a stay home mom but that doesn't happen often. I also got to go to all school outings and didn't miss a step.... how lucky can you get? :) I know my sister has had people ask why she works when she doesn't have to and I know how hard it is for her to balance her job and her children. Her kids always come first but she loves her job and works hard to maintain balance in both areas. 

Staying home is very honorable and well worth the challenges :) I wouldn't change a day I've been home with my guys but non stay at home parents also do an honorable job raising their kids and the shout out should be to anyone who decides to parent.