Messages By: lcnekw

Hi. I too started writing my problems on here and it has changed my life, not only that I sought help for my problems but just talking and not being judged. People are truly caring about others. Ha this world is worth living in. I read your story and I was in a similar situation a few years ago. My ex would frequently break up with me and expect to still live in the same house. During this time he would treat me worse than normal and act like it was me that was causing both of us such pain. I know how bad it hurts to be dismissed by the person you love. Let me tell you from experience that there is someone out there that will love you just as much as you love them, call it soulmate, whatever it is there is someone out there, maybe this new guy is the one for you. God blessed me and introduced me to the most wonderful man in the world. He is so loving and I know would never do anything to hurt me. I know that one day you will feel this same feeling (if you aren't already), and it is sooooo worth all the hell you went through with your ex jerk!!!! That is truly what people are that intentionally cause pain to others. Trust me it does get better cause it can't get worse eh? 

Anyways, I am always checking these message boards, call it no life or call it wanting to help others, I enjoy talking to people. So take care and oh yeah is that your kitten? It is so adorable. I just adopted an abandoned kitten from the humane society, aren't they the best. It sounds stupid but pets are the best things to vent to when you are upset they know it and they will try whatever they can to make you feel better. My cat bites my arms when I am crying and the harder I cry the harder she bites. They truly know how we are feeling anyways good luck and hope to talk to you soon.  

I am struggling right now with a big problem. See I was dating this guy 5 years ago and I became friends with this girl. I worked at night and she was staying at my house alot with my ex. I found out through a good friend that her and my ex messed around in my house while I was working. At the time I was very naive and believed her when she said it wasn't true. I guess I am still kind of naive because that same good friend called me the other day to tell me that my ex had admitted it to her and her boyfriend, they did mess around. Not a big problem but now this girl and I are best friends. I don't know what to do now because she has told me over and over the past 7 years now that she wouldn't do that to me. I am happily living with someone else that I know would never do anything to hurt me, but I just can't decide what I should do. My counselor and new boyfriend say to stop talking to her, but she is now experiencing some bad relationship issues and I feel like I should be there for her since she has been there for me. Is that completely stupid? Am I letting her take advantage of my trust? I don't know what I should do I think about confronting her but if she lies or tells the truth I don't think it will really matter she has lied to me for too long about something that doesn't bother me ( the act she did not that she lied about it). I don't think our friendship is really worth saving, so should I just not say anything until she asks or tell her how I feel? Please help. 

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We met and moved in right away. I love him more than anything. I was in a really bad relationship before him and that really messed me up, not having any time to get over it. I am getting help for my past. The problem is my boyfriend likes to drink and I don't. I don't mind that he does until he comes home drunk. I can't stand being around him and his friends when they are drinking. He changes completely. He doesn't see it. Well last night he came home and yelled at me in the middle of a discussion about my broken car. I don't want to fix it and he does. He told me to shut up. Two minutes later he passed out on the desk. His father is an alcoholic and I am so afraid that he is gaining alot of bad traits from him. Whenever we argue he says it is because of me that we fight. He comes home drunk and gets mad because he can feel the negativity coming from me. I don't know how to be happy about my drunk boyfriend coming home being annoying while I have been stuck at home all night. I don't do much with my time and am not happy at all with my life. I wonder if I am taking it out on him or if I have a reason to get upset when he is drunk. He says that I am always complaining about something. I know I used to be like that but I have been working on it. It seems like he wants to blame everything on me and take no responsibility for his actions. He apologizes for yelling at me but then treats me like a child the next time it happens. I am sick of apologies. Has anyone else had to deal with a drunk man? How did you deal with the annoying things they do that they don't when they are sober? And am I overreacting to the signs he displays that he is becoming his father (the anger, belittlement, control over situations)? Please help I really have no one else to talk to.