Quote From: meadan I have been married for 28 year and my husband had 2 emotional
affairs and now he is in the middle of a physical affair. We are
separated. Not where I wanted to be at 52 that's for sure. Saw
him through school and had children. Raised them primarily myself and
now this. What galls me the most is that the "Other women" never seem
to give a dam. It's all about them and what they want. I have
always believed that firstly you are a woman and if men are to respect
us, we must respect each other and ourselves. MY husband
travelled all of the time and holds a grudge about my past (before I
met him) and I believe all of or most of what he has done, he blames me
for.
It is sad that nowadays you hear a lot of baby-boomers going through separation and/or divorced after so many years of being married. I am a baby-boomer and was married for 28 years also and I had an affair. During the marriage, I have learned to cope and live with my ex-'s alcoholism and diabetes. However, I found myself looking forward to our retirement years and how it was going to be the same - hardly any sexual relationship. I wish we had heard of Viagra sooner! It is sad to note that my ex and I became best friends and had closer relationship AFTER the divorce. When my ex was diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2004 and went for surgery in 2005, I flew to California and literally stayed and took care of him for 2 months. Unfortunately, he did not bounce back from surgery and passed away exactly 2 months after the surgery. Darn those HMO doctors! To this date, I still miss my ex and I regret sincerely not uttering the words 'I love you' during my stay with him.
