Messages By: mrsmedic

why would it be wrong to meet my babies needs in public? I live 20 minutes from town, so I would have to drive 20 min to come home and feed my son?  Why can't people who don't like it just look the other way?  I'd a whole lot rather see someone nursing a baby than letting 89% of their boobs hang out of their shirts! lol 

Interestingly enough, BF'ing WAS the sole purpose of our family bed.  It's what started it, and it's what kept it going. I struggle mightily to BF, I have a very hard time with supply, and I decided to try the family bed in an attempt to nurse longer.  It helped a lot.  If I didn't have this issue, would I family bed?  I'm not completely sure.  I'm more sold on it now than I was 3 yrs ago - I did NOT want to do it, but I wanted to nurse badly enough to try anything. 

I enjoy it now, but I really don't know if I would do it without the BF issue.  Very probably not. 

just a different perspective is all 

I'd hope they expressed the milk out before sharing. :) 

Breastmilk is good for a lot of things.  Squirt some in your eye to clear up an eye infection, use it to clear up an older childs viral infection, SO many uses for it.  Expressed milk is certainly nothing evil and is very useful in many circumstances. Wrong? not at all. 

If they all took turns nursing on the mom? Yeah. I'd have an issue with that.  Milk can be hand expressed!    

she means those of us who believe in child led weaning, when our kidlets wean themselves. Sometimes around the age of 3 or  4.   

In my opinion, I do not think women should breastfeed in public. That is not ladylike at all. If you need to do that, go find a restroom or someplace where you can have privacy.  

I have to admit to laughing at this. What could be more feminine than breastfeeding?  Sure it's ladylike.  And as for finding a restroom... ewwwww..  How many of you would eat in a public washroom?  It makes me sick to even think about it! And with those hand dryers blowing the germs all through the air it's that much worse.   

Although it doesn't bother me to see a mom breastfeed her baby WITHOUT TEETH in public.  

How do you now if the baby has teeth??  And what differance does that make?? 

I get so sick of you women whinning about this topic!  

So go somewhere else. This is here for us, nobody is making you come and read our "whinings". 

You don't like it? You should'nt have gotten married and had kids!!  

Because something is tough doesn't mean we don't like it. It means it's a challenge and we need others to support us. Something you did not do with this post.  I get the feeling it's something you have no desire to do. So why are you here? 

The man of the house is bringing home an income to feed the family, buy the cars, buy the clothes pay the bills, pay for college,  secure a future.  

He works hard, yep, and so do I.  He gets paid (not nearly enough), I don't.   

Heres a news flash!!  You should'nt be spending 6-7 hours a day cleaning a house, if your house is that big I'd bet you've got an income to be able to hire a cleaning service to come twice a week.  

Floors don't need to be mopped twice a day, toilets and bathrooms can go 2 or 3 days between cleaning, kids can do chores and pickup their toys, if they don't throw them away they'll learn sooner or later.  

Interesting how someone not in our shoes has all the answers.  Clearly you've not had to clean the same parts of a house several times a day due to pee accidents, spills, pets, all sorts of things that are simply part of life for us moms.  We should throw away the toys - how will they then learn? We sure can't afford to replace them so there would be no toys to pick up. Hard to learn to do it then! 

Bottom line, a lot of this cr@p is brought on by yourself.  

I feel sorry for you.  Crap?Nope.  A difficult but very worthwhile life choice we made.   

In parting, it absolutely disgusts me to see this crybaby Ginger whine about her family in a house fit for royalty with a husband that obviously makes a heck of an income and COMES HOME EVERY NIGHT!  

I wonder what makes you think he makes one heck of an income? 

All the while I have friends in Iraq fighting for our country making maybey 15-20,000 a year with wives at home by themselves raising several children.  

My husband works two jobs to keep us alive.  He's a paramedic and serves his own country very well.  The fact that we're not married to men in the army/force doesn't make us lesser women or mothers.  I don't know what US soldiers make, but I do know that here in Canada they make about the same or more as we do - and us with two jobs.  It's rough yes, I appreciate them, yes, But I am not going to disallow myself or anyone else the space to vent their struggles and frustrations because "others have it worse".  I'd welcome those wives/mothers here and listen to them any time at all.   

It's one thing to discuss how things will work after marriage, and another to see how it pans out in reality.  We never expected to have a disabled child. We never expected me to have MS, we never expected him to have to work 80+ hrs a week.  We didn't know to plan for those things.  I'm chronically tired, so is he. Mine is from health, his from so many hours working.  He must be rested to do his job properly, and as a paramedic that is vitally important.   

Our kids kick in and we're getting by, but my point is that all the planning in the world doesn't always prepare you for reality.  I used to jokingly ask if he'd take care of me if I was one day in a wheelchair, but we certainly never discussed it as a real possibility.  So many things happen that change how familys function.  One would never cover them all until they happen.   

Yes, it's good to discuss. But to say that our struggles are our fault because we made these choices?  I didn't choose for my daughter to be disabled, or for me to have MS, or for our house to need to many repairs all of a sudden.  S**t happened and we're left to deal with it.   

so why do you come to a mothers board about cutting chaos if you're not interested in the topic, and find our discussing it whining? 

Some of us ENJOY having support from other moms who love their life but get very frustrated.  If you don't like it, don't read it!