Messages By: mrsmedic

It's interesting how different we all are! Shoes did NOT work for me, and I've done much better since realizing that I can take them off and not fail at housekeeping. LOL   

as for wallowing in my pool of self pity - if being chronically ill and not being ABLE to clean is wallowing then I am guilty.  I'm doing the best I am able.  It's not as good as I'd like, and I keep trying to do better but most days simply can't.  flylady makes no exceptions for those of us with disabilities.  I found myself feeling like a failure becuase I couldn't keep up to her expectations. Thats part of why I left.  But, I took the ideas I liked from her and kept with them, and they've helped.  The biggest problem however is ability/ time and energy.  But hey, one day my house will be all I'll have to do. Maybe it will be tidy then. :)  More likely I'll be finding other things to do of more lasting value. LOL 

Yes, we understand. You get to go out and have adult contact every day!  Let me see, the last adult outting I had was........  well, if you count the quick snack hubbie and I grabbed before picking up kids on Wed, it was Wed. If you count a real outting it was a couple weeks ago.   

Yes, you said things should be discussed.  I believe I commented on how reality is often VERY different from what is normally discussed and how life throws you curves you never expected.  Discussing things before marriage is NO guarantee that a relationship is going to be smooth.  Perhaps you are fotunate in that it did in yours.  that doesn't put you in a position to cast judgement on the rest of us.   

We're not stupid. We do understand, and gosh, being stay at home moms we have a good grip or we'd be in rubber rooms.  Today in fact, that sounds appealing to me!! 

I don't need an excuse to whine.  I'm 38 and nobody needs to give me permission.  <g> 

stay at home moms DO work hard, why is that so hard to hear?  I have worked full time, parented, yada yada.  Oh the adult conversation of those days!!!!!!!!!!!!  the 12 hr shifts of no kids. Ahhhh....  Hubbie was home with them when I was gone, it was the perfect set up.  Unfortunately it ended.  That life was much much easier than this one. 

oh I agree that negative behaviour is a way  teach them and learn from them! As mom to four who did daycare for 12 yrs, I've put my time in too.   

I somehow doubt they were perfect... maybe well behaved? :) 

You're a fortunate woman! :)  I think many of us would find our lives simpler with just one child, and an older child at that.  I know my 12 and 16 yr olds are pretty easy to take care of.  They even do some of the cooking for me!  It's the numerous little ones in our families that bring chaos to our homes.   

But we love them anyways. LOL 

I do not want strangers talking to my children.  Not even saying nice things!  I noticed on the show it was asked something like "how come I can say nice things, but not tell them they're bothering me".  Well, I don't want either said to my children by strangers.  I teach them not to talk to strangers and if I see a stranger talking to them you can be sure I will be right there faster than you can say boo. However, if one of my kids were to kick someone, or intentionally bother them in some way, I want to know.  I would want to deal with it.  But that would mean talking to ME.  Same if someone wants to compliment my children. Tell me and I'll pass it on. 

so where do you go to eat while watching naked people? Nude beaches? I can't think of anywhere else you'd find them.   

Nursing mothers are not naked.  Women in low cut shirts and skirts that barely cover their butts are closer to it. now THAT is disgusting. 

1st of all, I have to admit that I am not a very good public nurser.  If and when I have to do it, I am pretty discrete about it.  With my son I over produced so he was very good about breast and bottle...I simply pumped and took a bottle along.  It was very convenient for me.  I could sit down and pump 20 oz easily.  My daughter on the other hand will not take a bottle and I am not producing like I was with my son.  I can no longer pump out a bottle like I used to.  I have friends who struggle to pump a half an ounce.  There are allot of reasons why some breastfeeding mom's simply can't bottle feed....and I don't think they or I should be ostracized to make the public comfortable.       

With my son, I had a very hard time pumping or expressing any.  I didn't have enough to feed him and had to supplement.  so, in that sense I *could* take a bottle into public.  BUT. I had to nurse him first, he had to get as much mommy milk as there was, that I was determined about.  And then With a bottle he dealt with nipple confusion and began to refuse the breast.  That bottle disappeared so fast!  There are "contraptions" out there to feed your baby formula while they are nursing, which fills them (when mom has not enough milk) and it keeps them sucking which helps to boost moms milk supply.   

I had people approach wanting to see the baby - they had NO idea he was nursing. One poor old guy was trying to look and I kinda smiled and said "well, he's eating right now".  I thought he was gonna vanish into the floor.   There were times though when he slurped so badly there was no questioning what he was doing. LOL 

I think that people especially those without kids should mind their own business when it comes to rowdy kids in public. Sure they can be disruptive but give the parents some time to settle them down. I think that unless the child is in immediate mortal danger you should let me deal with my own kids the way I want to and if my parenting style is to let them scream it out in public then so be it. Go somewhere they don't allow kids if you want peace and quite. 

Thats hard to find, a theatre where kids aren't allowed. Besides, that would make it pretty tough to take our kids to see a movie!  No, I don't want strangers speaking to my kids. What I DO want is parents with enough respect for others to either keep their kids quiet or take them out.  If you've paid as dearly for a movie ticket as we do these days, would you want someone sitting screaming beside you?  A few moments to settle them down is no problem at all, but ignoring it and ruining the time for everyone else is ignorant.  And I say that as a mother of four - I've had my times of leaving a movie i've paid for , simply becuase I'm polite enough not to ruin it for everyone else who also paid for it.   

There are plenty of situations, not just theatres, where this is true.  Those of us with children should be able to take our kids place and enjoy the time, not have to sit and listen to children screaming and having fits.  It's not doing them any favour to allow it anyways~ 

And in the mall, no one needs quiet! If you can stand the people staring, go to it. LOL  I've yet to see a mall that came anywheres near quiet anyways.   

Screaming meamies... I like that.  Have those in my house these days!!