Messages By: flacachela

Okay so I'm posting this message to help out a friend I met online about 2 years ago....This is all true and excuse her language that she has used I'm sorry if it offends anyone.  She really needs help getting custody of her son.  The son is in full custody of ex husband and to make matters worse he is not even the biological father.  She is a single mother of a younger son and has no money to afford all these costs.  She needs so much support....and if anyone from Dr. Phil's team is reading this please let him know.  Thanks a lot. 

  

  

HEY  EV1 I NEED  YOUR HELP  AND   ANY TALK SHOW HOSTS N LOCAL  HUMAN INTREST STORY TO ALL TV  STATIONS THAT WILL  TAKE IT THAT  U MIGHT   HAVE  ACCESS TO, 

   HERS  GOES:   ITS BEEN LONG  7 YEARS  GOING ON 8  I'VE BEEN FIGHTING MY EX FOR   CUSTODY OF  MY OLDEST SON, WE  DIVORCED IN 1999 , MY SON WAS  5 ALMOST. I HAD  DCFS  INVOLVED FOR  ONE CASE THAT WAS  ABUSE ALL OTHERS  HAVE BEEN FALSIFIED N KEPT ON RECORD BY DCFS. MY EX  HAS CUSTODY ONLY CAUSE HE  SIGNED  BIRTH PAPERS  KNOWING KID W WASN'T HIS AND IS USING MY PAST MENTAL  HISTORY AGAINST ME, AND  I HAD   PAIN DRUGS  DURING BIRTH OF MY OLDEST SON BACK THEN. I MADE IT  CLEAR TO HIM N ALL PEOPLE INVOLVED IN THE  BIRTH HE WAS  NOT TO SIGN PAPERS. I HAD  A FRIEND IN THE  ROOM DURING DELIVERY, HER NAME  IS  JESSICA DONNELL. SHE'S  MARRIED TO A MILITARY  GUY NAMED PAUL DONNELL AND  THEY  GOT  BACK TO THE STATES  DURING THIS  DIVORCE THEY  WERE STATIONED AT SCOTT  AFB IN 1999. I DON'T KNOW  IF   HE'S STILL IN OK. IF  SO  HE WAS  WITH  THE  1976TH (?) COMMUNICATIONS   COMMAND    AT SATCOM/ HAM OPERATOR I THINK .   AT THE DIVORCE I GOT VISITATION RIGHTS ONLY N  HAD  TO FIGHT FOR EVERY HOLIDAY I DID GET TO SEE  MY SON.   MY SON  HAS  SEEN  ME  HANDCUFFED  BY   BASE POLICE  BACK THEN,  AND KNEW I HAD TO LIVE IN MY CAR EVEN ON A  BASE THAT  IS  SUPPOSED TO  HELP  SPOUSES OF MILITARY MEMBERS ,  I  GOT  NO HELP!!! MY EX  STOLE MY DOG  ALSO  BACK THEN  SHE  WAS A  GIFT TO ME FROM MY PARENTS BUT I COULDN'T LIVE  IN THE  CAR WITH HER WAS THE ONLY REASON I LEFT HER AND ANOTHER DOG BEHIND.  ONE  DOG HAS  SINCE PASSED AWAY. THEY  WERE  MY  FAMILY TOO!!!!!!!!!!   I'VE HAD 5 LAWYERS WHO TOOK MY MONEY  N DID  NOTHING TO GET ME  MY SON BACK, THE LAST  BEING  ERIC RHIEN, IN BELLEVILLE , IL ; HE TOOK MY FRIEND'S MONEY N  DIDN'T DO A THING FOR ME.  THE LAWYER  WHO REALLY  MESSED MY  DIVORCE  UP WITH PROPERTY DIVIDING N CUSTODY WAS TERRY JOHNSON OR JOHNSTON IN O'FALLON , IL IN 1999: I CAN'T FIND ANYTHING ON HIM  IF  HE  STILL PRACTICES LAW  HERE.  AND HE WAS A  CHRISTIAN LAWYER.   AS  OF  2002  THEIR WAS A  2 YEAR ORDER OF PROTECTION AGAINST ME BY MY EX IT EXPIRED ON  FEB OF 2004 AND I STILL  CAN'T HAVE  CONTACT WITH MY SON. I HAVE ANOTHER SON WHO'S  4 NOW, LAST TIME  MY  SONS WERE TOGETHER WAS  2002 WHEN MY  YOUNGEST SON WAS 1 AND MY OLDEST WAS 11!!!  BROTHERS  SHOULD  BE TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO MATTER  WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE COURTS HERE ARE  SUPPOSED  TO BE FOR THE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT THEY LIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! .   WE  BOTH ATTENDED THE  COURT ORDERED  CLASS DURING THE  DIVORCE, HE  NEVER TOOK IT TO HEART.   MY EX IS USING MY PAST MENTAL HISTORY  AGAINST ME AND   BRAIN WASHING THE KID  AGAINST ME EVERY YEAR  SINCE THE DIVORCE.  ONE TIME   HE THREATNED MY SON  IF  HE  GAVE  ME OR MADE ME  SOMETHING FOR  MOTHER'S DAY 2000& 2001 HE'D  BE   PUNISHED.  HE  CAN'T BUY  ME  OR HIS  BROTHER GIFTS  OR CARDS. HE  BROKE  ITEMS OF HIS  BABY BROTHER'S  AND  WAS TOLD HE  DIDN'T HAVE TO REPLACE THEM WITH HIS MONEY OR THE  ( MY EX'S) MONEY.  HE VANDILIZED MY NEIGHBOUR'S   MAILBOX  AND I HAD  TO REPLACE IT . "  IT HAPPENED WHILE  SHE HAD  VISITATION  SHE PAYS , IT IS  HER SON N HER RESPONSIBILITY." HIS OWN  WORDS , NO TEACHING ITS  WRONG PERIOD , HE  PUT ALL THE  BLAME ON ME. NO TEACHING  RESPONSIBILITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO TEACHING COMPASSION N  MORALS TO MY  OLDEST SON,THAT I  HAD  TAUGHT HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NO SINCE OF FAMILY VALUES, WHICH HE HAD  BEFORE THE DIVORCE.   HE WAS  STILL BEING  SENT TO AN AFTER SCHOOL DAYCARE  AT 11, WHERE I HAD TO PICK HE  UP DURING MY VISITATIONS. MY EX  WORKED AT THAT TIME  BUT THE  STEP MOTHER WOULD RUN OFF TO HER MOM'S SO SHE  HAD  NO COMPASSION OR RESPONSIBLITY TO MY SON.   " MY SON'S WORDS WERE SHE'D  DO  EVERYTHING NOT TO BE IN CHARGE OF  HIM" SHE   DOESN'T LIKE ME N CALLS ME  NAMES. I COME  HOME FROM  DAYCARE N GO TO MY ROOM, I CAN  ONLY WATCH   WHAT   MY EX  TOLD  HIM TO ON TV AND  I GET  SO  MUCH TIME ON  MY COMPUTER, AND  VIDEO GAMES  I HAD A  TIME  LIMIT FOR  EVERYTHING. I HAD  NO FRIENDS OVER, NEVER  WENT TO OTHER KID'S HOMES.  NO SPORTS LIKE  I HIS MOTHER  HAD HIM IN. I WAS  IN   GYM HOCKEY, SOCCER AND  KARATE BEFORE THE  DIVORCE.   I DID   EVERYTHING WITH MY OLDEST N, AND  WAS SOCCER SNACK PROVIDER. MY EX WAS ONLY HELPING OUT AT   HOCKEY , CAUSE I MADE A  BIG  FUSS  WITH HIS COMMAND AT THAT TIME; BUT HE  STILL WAS ON CALL WITH A  WALKIE- TALKIE. I HAVE ALL OF HIS SPORTS  PICTURES  FOR  PROOF AND   YOU CAN ASK MY SON WHO WAS INVOLVED WITH HIM THE MOST. AS FOR  WITNESSES WELL THEY WERE ALL MILITARY AND  HAVE   MOVED ON.  THE ONLY MAIN  PERSON  WHO  CAN TELL YOU ALL THIS  AND IS THE  BEST WITNESS IS  BERNADETTE WALKER WHO LIVES  NOW IN GEORGIA. SHE  WAS    MY OLDEST SON'S DAYCARE PROVIDER  WHEN I  DID WORK ON THE  BASE WHILE I WAS MARRIED TO MY EX.   I WENT TO ALL OF HIS   TEACHER CONFERENCES , MY EX NEVER WENT TO ONE.  WHEN I WENT IN 1999  , HIS TEACHERS  SAID  HIS  MEDS FOR  ADHD WEREN'T WORKING , HE HAD  BUILT UP INTOLERANCE TO THEM ( CONCERTA AND  DEPOCOT), I SAID  I  DIDN'T HAVE  CONTROL OVER WHAT HE WAS  TAKING OR NOT TAKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   I HAD  TAUGHT MY SON TO FISH AND  ONLY WITH  MUCH NAGGING  MY EX  TOOK HIM N HE   CAUGHT HIS  FIRST  FISH. THAT IS  DEFINETLY A FATHER SON BOND  THING TO DO, AS  WITH THE  SPORTS. BUT I WAS  THE ONE  INVOLVED AND HAD THAT BOND  WITH MY SON IN ALL OF  HIS  SPORTS AND ACTIVITIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   IF I WAS  SUCH A  THREAT TO MY SON WITH MY ANGER , WHY DO I HAVE  MY YOUNGEST SON WITH ME  SINCE  BIRTH?????????   I AM ORDERED   BY COURTS TO  BE SEEN BY ( OF  COURSE ) A FOREIGNER SHRINK N TAKE MEDS  FOR BI-POLAR DISORDER AND TAKE A  ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASS,  WHICH I CAN'T DO SINCE  HAVING MY YOUNGEST  BECAUSE OF THE  COST AND  NO SITTER, WHICH I'VE  BEEN TRYING TO ATTEND  SINCE  HAVING  MY YOUNGEST BUT HAVE  HAD  NO LUCK IN COMING UP WITH THE   MONEY OR  SITTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I CAN'T EVEN GO BACK TO COURTS  WITHOUT FIRST  ASKING PERMISSION FROM THEM  BY FILING A REQUEST, THEY   EVEN TOOK   THAT  RIGHT I HAVE AS A  CITIZEN FROM ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND ONLY  AFTER I'VE  BEEN TO AND  GOT A LETTER FROM  THE SHRINK STATING MY DISORDER/ CONDITION; MEDS I'VE HAD , IF I'VE  COMPLIED  WITH HIS ORDERS AND  THE CURRANT STATUS OF MY MENTAL HEALTH TO ALL THE  COURTS N  DAMN JUDGE IF I'M FIT TO  BE  A PARENT TO MY OLDEST SON.   THAT  IS ILLEGAL AS  ALL  HELL IN MY BOOKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  HELL I HAVE  CUSTODY OF  MY YOUNGEST  BUT THAT'S NOT GOOD  ENOUGH FOR  THIS  DAMN JUDGE / COURTS.   I ALSO HAD  DCFS N THE   HOME PROVIDER FROM ANOTHER AGENCY IN COURTS  SUBPOENAED TO COURT AND THEY STILL   IGNORED THEM ALSO AS TO MY   MENTAL STABILITY. THEY  TOLD THE TRUTH TO THE COURTS AND JUDGE. THEIR WAS  NO CONFIRMED CASE OF  ABUSE  BY ME OR MY FRIEND I LIVE  WITH TO MY OLDEST SON AS STATED ON  SAID  ORDER OF PROTECTION THAT  WAS ON FILE IN 2002!!!!!!!!!!!! MY EX HAD  MADE MY OLDEST SON LIE IN THE ORDER THAT  I  AND  MY FRIEND HAD FORCE FED HIM FOOD N  SMACKED HIM ENOUGH TO LOSE TEETH  WHICH WERE LOOSE ALREADY, BEFORE  MY VISITATION WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!! THE PROPER AUTHORITY  PEOPLE  TOLD THEM   IT DIDN'T HAPPEN, AND WERE IGNORED.   PLEASE HELP ME  ANY WAY U CAN AND   KEEP THIS OUT THERE AS LONG AS  U CAN N KEEP  FORWARDING THIS TO EVY1 U KNOW AS  OFTEN AS U CAN.   CONTACT ME BY EMAIL OR BY PHONE :  JENNA MONROE   WHITEDOVE708@YAHOO.COM   618-233-4659   I WANT MY SON BACK BEFORE  HE'S 18 AND  DRIVING!!!!!!!!!!!!! MY BOYS  SHOULD  BE  TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!! MY LIL ONE NEEDS  HIS BIG BROTHER IN HIS LIFE, HE HAS  MISSED OUT ON 3 YEARS ALREADY AND  ALL THE  CUTE THINGS   BABIES WILL DO(WALK, TALK, ETC) !!!!!  I NEED HIM ALSO IN MY LIFE HE'S  MY SON NOT MY EX'S !!!!!!!!! NO BIOLOGICAL TIES TO MY EX. I MISS HIM!!!!!!!!!  I WANT HIM BACK BEFORE HE'S 18 TOO, IF THAT HAPPENS I'M GOING TO ASK FOR MONEY COMPENSATION FROM THE EX FOR  ALL THE YEARS HE'S KEPT THIS DAMN CHARADE AND SELFISHNESS GOING ON AND TOOK AWAY FROM ME AND FROM MY 2 SON'S LIVES APART!!!!!!!!!!! AND BELIEVE ME THAT MONEY WILL BE BIG AMOUNT DAMN HIM!!!!!!!!!!   I CAN'T EVEN GIVE HIM HIS B-DAY  OR X-MAS GIFTS FROM THOSE 2 YEARS GOING ON 3 SOON  UNLESS I UN WRAP THEM N DROP THEM OFF AT  THE EX'S LAWYER'S OFFICE I SAID NO F' ING WAY N DROP DEAD . HE'LL GET A BIG DAY WHEN I DO GET HIM BACK  IF I CAN AFFORD IT HE'LL GET   EVERYTHING HE WANTS N  CAN'T HAVE FROM MY EX.

 

  

Don't beat yourself up abt. this.  It's never to late to transfer.  Go for it, it will be the best decision u ever make.  It's never to late...You know it's in your heart and w/God and prayer all will go well.  Keep us posted on ur decision. 

  

I say if ur happy all that is around u will be happy too.  That includes ur family.  But honestly it's ur life and ur doing this for u. 

It is possible.  Though it didn't happen to me I could tell you of my closest friend of 14 years.  She met her now husband on an online chatroom.  Small world they were both from the same county and lived a few cities away.  They had even spoke w/each other by coinsidence.  You see he works for a bike shop and she called looking for a specific something for her son.   

  

Anyways they finally set up to meet...and they fell in love.  They married last month and have a beautiful daughter.  Good luck....hope it works out for u. 

You are so blessed to have met this wonderful man.  God Bless him and u for being such a wonderful mom.  

  

Sincerely,  

  

a stay at home mom in california 

(mom of three 10, 8, and 5)